Here is how to help her have a better sex drive
You may have even heard that cheesy phrase that the brain is the biggest sex organ in women. Well, it’s true.
Let me break it down as simply as possible.
There are “Brakes” that lower your girl’s sex drive and “Accelerators” that increase her sex drive. These Brakes and Accelerators are mostly psychological, and they can both be happening at the same time. This is why it’s known as the dual-control model of sexual desire; although, the researchers describe these forces officially as the sexual excitement and inhibition systems rather than accelerators and brakes.
But knowing the technical name is less important than understanding how the dual-control model of Accelerators and Brakes works in reality.
Brakes that lower her sex drive include:
- Stress
- Low self-confidence
- Feeling taken for granted
- Feeling unattractive
- Lack of trust
- The wrong time in her menstrual cycle (aka her period).
- Certain medical conditions
- Responsibilities in the home
- Sex-negative messages she’s absorbed
- Sights, smells, or other senses that turn her off
- Fear of pregnancy or STIs
- Anxiety, depression, or low mood
Accelerators that increase her sex drive include:
- Sexual tension
- Flirting
- A partner who is charming to her friends (yes, this can be huge!)
- A small gift (flowers, cooking dinner, doing the dishes, putting the kids to bed, etc.)
- Feeling secure in her relationship
- Being comfortable with her body
Here’s the funny thing about these Brakes and Accelerators…
No matter how many accelerators you push, if the Brakes to her sex drive aren’t removed, her desire for sex can still be zero.
It’s like putting your foot on the accelerator when driving your car while at the same time keeping it in park with your other foot on the brake.
Here’s what I mean.
She could have her celebrity crush in front of her, telling her he wants her, BUT…
If she is super-stressed, has low self-confidence, doesn’t trust this celebrity, and has a medical condition like diabetes suppressing her sex drive, then she probably won’t want to have sex with him.
So, if you want to boost her sex drive, you need to:
FIRST, remove the Brakes to her sex drive, then afterward, focus on pushing the Accelerators to make her horny.
And in guide number 10 from the Reads For MEN guides pinned on my profile, I talk about pushing down hard on the Accelerators to her sex drive to make her horny.