The best time to have an orgasm is at the beginning of sex

It has long been a topic of joking conversations and an envious revelation that women are capable of multiple orgasms in a small amount of time. But, the female brain, much like the male brain, needs some kind of respite and only has so many muscle control chemicals to release at any given time. 

So, the first orgasm is always going to be the stronger one, marked by increased release. However, the second one is easier to achieve (due to the fact the brain has already produced the pleasure chemicals for use) and usually has a different emotional and personal feel to it.

Even if a woman is not seeking two orgasms, having one before intercourse begins will make intercourse more pleasurable and increase the likelihood of an orgasm more focused on the pelvic floor if the second one occurs.

Women who sometimes experience pain during intercourse are encouraged to have an orgasm before sexual entry. Giving her an orgasm though oral or manual stimulation dramatically increases the amount of vaginal lubrication and amount of blood flow to her pelvic area.

Her vaginal channel will already be swelling and prepared for sexual intercourse and her brain will be locked in and ready to continue providing necessary support. When her body is more prepared, the pain and stretching of intercourse is reduced and the experience is more pleasurable all around.

If a partner does not choose to give her an orgasm first, the next best time to have one is after he climaxes. The act of intercourse itself will stimulate the clitoris and send nerve signals up to the brain. However, many women get lost in the actions of their partner or own physical disconnect and are unable to experience the thoughts necessary to promote an orgasmic response. The best thing to do in that case is to wait until the partner is finished and has ejaculated.

She begins to do kegel-like exercises and continue moving her hips and pelvic area as if intercourse is still going on. Keeping her mind engaged, thinking about the sexual moment with him. Taking his hand and placing it where she wants it or asking him to use his mouth to give her increased impulses.

Mutual orgasm is commonly held up as the sort of “holy grail” of sexuality. However, from a physical and psychosexual standpoint, it’s not that great.

For one thing, when you are both engaged in orgasm at the same time, a woman’s inclination is usually to cater to his pleasure and she can’t concentrate or feel as much of her own pleasure occurring. Add to that the reality the brain is already overloaded with your demands and is now being asked to be conscious of another person’s pleasure and impulses. It tends to lead to mental/physical shut down. A more organic “feel it when I feel it” approach to orgasm is a much better choice.

Obviously a big part of your desire to give your partner the ultimate sexual pleasure has to do with your care and concern for her. However, it is also true that you want to have a good sexual experience as well. Sex is, after all, a mutually beneficial experience.

The best thing to do in order to create an amazing sexual event for yourself is to put her first. Focus on the things she likes – whether it is kissing, touching, naughty talk, spanking, holding, or licking. Enticing her body and sensual needs will put her in a better position to be able to meet your needs as well.

And in guide number 2 from the Reads For MEN guides, I talk about Preparation, Building & Delivering that vey orgasm for her

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