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365 Sex Moves; Positions for Having Sex a New Way Everyday

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Couples Guide To Increasing Quantity & Quality Of Sex

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Female Ejaculation; Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm

Ejaculation by Command – the Ultimate Blueprint to Superior Sexual Endurance

Male Multi-Orgasm Masturbation Techniques

Male Virgin; An Illustrated Guide For First time Sex with a Woman

Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it

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Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy

Penis Massage 101:*Plus A Perfect Blowjob* The No-Penetration Guide To Pleasuring Him

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If you’re approaching countdown towards your first experience of sexual intercourse, then fear not—everything you need to know is right here.

SUICIDE WATCH

I pay close attention to suicidal people on the internet and keep a chart. Every time I believe a person has done it I put a tick in the chart. If the chart reaches 100 people I will commit suicide too as if so many other people are doing it, then maybe it’s not too bad of a thing and theres no hope after all (plus it destroys my saviors complex as I believe my only reason to be alive is to help others). Right now I’m at 17 people. Please don’t make it 18. I know I’m selfish for wanting you, a random stranger to stay alive even though you’re suffering but it really gives me hope to see others like me who are able to crawl out of this suffocating hole. It depends on your morals, and I in no way wish for you to suffer cause of my selfishness but maybe consider the impact of hope it gives people seeing others like them overcome this hell. I understand if you do choose to do it, and please don’t feel ashamed if you do! It’s a perfectly reasonable choice.

Have you thought of how you could help others? Like volunteering for non profit organizations or being a counselor and helping others that are suicidal. Most people don’t give a fuck about these things so it really does make a difference for you to do these. Even if you only improve one persons life it is worth it imo. It feels great to help someone, especially when you feel like a useless pile of shit. It gives you a purpose.

FAKING ORGASMS

Right! You must be exhausted. That’s a long time to be putting on a performance. I’d like to know why you came up with orgasm dodging as a way of “managing” your sex life in the first place. When you’re not in it for love or increased intimacy, an orgasm seems a rudimentary prize for the effort involved.

Perhaps you entered this union with little expectation of longevity? That may even be the crux of your problem – a physical manifestation of an emotional block to exposure and vulnerability.

My suspicion is that making such a choice originally was about more than simply indicating that the fun was over. Pursuing an active sex life with a long-term partner, while forgoing climax, suggests a desire to keep your feelings under wraps. What you have been cheating your boyfriend of isn’t simply the pleasure of knowing that he’s fulfilling his share of the sexual deal, but also real access to you.

Of course, sex is more than simply about satisfaction and many people enjoy the intimacy involved in foreplay and acts of physical closeness as much as (if not more than) the orgasm itself. Nevertheless, having intercourse without ever experiencing physical release must be like being a cook who can’t taste food.

You don’t make clear whether it’s an impossibility for you or you just don’t invest the effort in pursuing your own satisfaction. I’m not a sex therapist, but if it’s the former, you need to look for further [practical advice through self exploration first](https://tichaz.com/2022/01/20/guide-for-women/)

This is a big thing to keep from your boyfriend and it’s a deception that can’t continue. Having an orgasm may not be a priority for you, but honesty in your relationship has to be. There is clearly something not working. The more I think about your dilemma the more questions I have, which makes it difficult to offer advice. In such a position of ignorance, the best I can do is confirm that maintaining the current status quo is not an option.

GIRLFRIEND CANT ORGASM

With sex be it men or women. "Trying" and worrying about orgasm always makes it harder to reach. Try some time to climax RIGHT NOW! You will probably find it isin't easy. Women have the same problem perhapes a little worse.

What you do in bed also has a big impact on how often she reaches orgasm. I don't know about her but if all we did was intercourse I would probably never have an orgasm. Oral sex works for me and for many years our "routine" was for him to get me to climax that way and then we finished with intercourse so he could climax.

We saw a very good educational sex video where the couple put a Hitachi Magic Wand vibe between them while they did intercourse. All I can say is RUN to the store and get one. If you want her to more easily climax? This will help. She may have to put a towel between it and her but wow... It so works for us and is the normal way we have intercourse.

Try not to "obsess" about whats going on with her orgasm wise. Taking off the pressure and NOT being annoying and asking every time "Did you come?" is a good start. I can't tell you how unbearable old being asked if I came can be. If she has a problem that she wants you to deal with let her tell you. ok?

Good luck.

DB LETTER

You could decide to write him an email for which here is a copy I got from last week's deadbedroom issue of a certain Reddit lady, she claimed it improved her situation so adapt it to your situation. She claimed they then put aside times of the week to connect and be intimate. During these times you could choose to do various things like massage, playing with your partner’s hair etc. Massage is helpful too and I recommend [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/erotic-massage/)

Below is a copy of her email:

“Good morning my love.

I know you are starting another busy week so I don't want a response to any of the following until sometime Saturday, both to take pressure off you and to allow you time to think.

It is important to me that we revisit our lack of a sex life. It has been more than a full year since we last had sex. The year before I believe our encounters could be counted on two hands, maybe one. I want to remind us both that it wasn't always that way.

We've talked about the “why” of our lack of a sex life many times and I encourage you to continue to question that and convey your answers to me honestly, but I think it is also time to ask new questions.

I want you to take the week to consider: Are you interested in having a sexual relationship (with me)? If no, well that's a whole series of conversations we need to have. If yes, what would that look like to you ideally? What do you want/need from me to make that happen? What are you willing to do to make that happen?

Please give this thought and talk to me on Saturday. I would prefer if you initiate the conversation this time, as it has fallen to me every time.

I love you so much.”

Adapt it to your situation and see if it helps

DRIVING HIM CRAZY IN BED

Many men like to have sex with women who actively participate. Actively participating just means meeting his thrusts with your own thrusts, grinding your hips, and flexing your PC muscles (the muscles that stretch from your pubic bone to the tail bone. These are all things you can do from whatever position you’re currently in.

You can also use your hands to squeeze your guy’s arms and and pull his body closer to yours, or use your lips to explore more of his bod—all these moves will let him know you’re loving the action.

He wants different positions.

If you’re a couple who does it missionary on the bed a few nights a week, it could be possible that both you and your partner are craving something different every now and then. After all, part of the reason something like hotel sex is so damn appealing is because humans crave novelty. No one is suggesting you go out of your comfort zone just to please some dude, but hey, if the idea occurs to you that it might be hot to have him spin you around and bone you from behind against your kitchen counter...well...then...do that.

Though my answer can not be long enough to give you the gritty dirty tricks, you can get all that in this guide

MORE SEX

Invest in trying out sex positions and depending on your body types that pretty much can turn into a sexual adventure and trying the best fits until you have made your own bedroom collection of the best moves. in the process both of you will start to open up for more moves which will include oral sex and acting out fantasies. Trust me it works

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Good luck ….Enjoy!!!

PENIS SIZE

Your size is very much ideal, In fact, due to the setup of our genital anatomy, a penis that’s on the smaller side should be able to do the job just as sufficiently as one that could have its own postcode. It’s important to keep in mind that intercourse isn’t the most pleasurable sexual activity for a woman. They don’t have many nerve endings inside vaginas, and the ones they do have are clustered near the opening of the vagina, not the deepest part, so a man doesn’t have to be very big to create pleasurable sensations. Most women tend to enjoy a sense of fullness, which comes from girth. That seems to be more important than overall length.

The trick is [finding the right sex positions for your bodies](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/365-sex-moves/). Slippage can sometimes be an issue, so sex positions that favour tight fits are best. Doggy style can be a good option. So too can modified missionary, a guy scoots her up a couple of inches before penetrating and uses a rocking motion instead of thrusts, and girl on top.

Remember it's not important how big your penis is, it's how you use it that counts

Good luck ….Enjoy!!!

DEADBEDROOM

Here is the thing, when couples stop having sex, their relationships become vulnerable to anger, detachment, infidelity and, ultimately, divorce.

I would definitely advice that you put aside times of the week to connect and be intimate. During these times you could choose to do various things like massage, playing with your partner’s hair etc. The benefits of touch are many! The oxytocin released during this makes you feel good about your partner and the relationship you created together. Scientifically, these hormones are responsible for building trust and emotional connections. They're brought on by sexual and non-sexual touching. This building of trust between partners is what you will need to restore your connection. Now if your marriage has taken a turn for the worse what kind of touching is still viable and easy to start on? Massage would be my go to answer and [I recommend this guide for couples](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/erotic-massage/) and both of you will love the activity

If you commit to do this, then do not forget during these sessions to take part of that intimate time discussing how best you can fix the thorny issue in your relationship. Trust me the solution is just to have sex with your partner. I know, when you’re not feeling it, the last thing you want to do is have sex. But here’s the thing: Sex begets sex. The more you have, the more you want. Both men and women have testosterone in their bodies, and when you don’t have sex for a while, your testosterone levels drop. Since testosterone is a big contributor to sex drive, that means your libido drops too. Set a sex goal with your partner. Try making a commitment to have sex twice a week for a month and see how you feel.

Good luck ….Enjoy!!!

DBMD

When you have a medical issues, sex can involve a complicated mix of feelings, emotions and practical considerations. Many people diagnosed with a chronic illness feel great grief and loss – and deep concern over what their diagnosis means for their life. How they might continue to enjoy sex is just one of those concerns.

A diagnosis of a medical issues can turn your entire world upside down – so everyday activities like having sex with your partner may feel overwhelming, difficult, painful or even lost to you. Your body may not function as it once did or you may be experiencing pain or limited mobility, which can all make having sex challenging.

But sex is still very possible when you have medical issues. If you and your partner are willing to be creative and caring in your approach to physical intimacy, this important aspect of your life can continue – regardless of your medical issues. I would definitely advice that you put aside times of the week to connect and be intimate. During these times she could give you [truly satisfying manual stimulation and handjobs](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/03/penis-massage-101/)

Good luck

DBMD2

Try enjoying a lighthearted, indoor ‘Nil Penetration Playtime Picnic’ on a lazy, loungy Sunday afternoon: it’s a less tense and intense time than the night, when you might be tired, or worried about what’s coming up the next day.

Get some finger food – no pun intended! – and some booze or decadent non-alcoholic fizz, put on some music and sit opposite each other on the bed in comfy undies or robes. Mix up chatting and snacking with touching, stroking, kissing, and erotic massage if the mood takes you. If your bedroom has accidentally become a place that’s centred around frantic fucking and insomniac fretting, this helps rebrand it as a space for chilled thrills too.

Types of vaginas

Ms. Curtains

This is the most common shape, where the labia minora peek out from in between the labia majora

While many people think that everything tucked in is common, this frequently-seen package may not be entirely symmetrical.

Ms. Barbie

Many people think the labia minora (the inner lips) being fully tucked inside the labia majora (the outer lips) is the most common shape on a woman, but it's actually very rare

In contrast, the rarest shape was a type named Ms. Barbie, where the labia minora are completely concealed from view inside the labia majora.

Many celebrities have spoken out about getting designer vaginas, which have everything tucked in.

Ms. Tulip

Women who have the Ms. Tulip have a labia minora which is slightly visible between the labia majora

It is a more tucked-in version of Ms. Curtains.

Ms. Horseshoe

Those with Ms. Horseshoe have a vagina opening that looks wider at the top, revealing the labia minora

Meanwhile, clients with the Ms. Horseshoe have a vagina opening that looks wider at the top.

This means that the labia minora is slightly revealed and may be seen.

Ms. Puffs.

This shape is similar to the Ms. Barbie shape, but with the lips of the vagina sitting lower on the pubic bone

Finally, Ms. Puffs is similar to Ms. Barbie but with the lips of the vagina sitting lower on the pubic bone.

As the name suggests, the surrounding area may be slightly more protruding.

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What is the best way to make a woman have an orgasm?

Just use positions which compliment her anatomy so that you increase the chances of both of you exploding together. There are two places on the body that are critical to female orgasm. Here's how to stimulate them so she can achieve orgasm. By the way you can also read [this full guide](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/04/30/female-orgasm-101/)

The clitoris

This tiny organ contains a high concentration of nerve endings and can be found near the top of the vulva. The clitoris is covered by a little bit of skin called the "clitoral hood," which keeps it from being stimulated all the time, so you may have to coax the clitoris out by touching or licking it. Once she's aroused, the hood will draw back and the clitoris will become erect.

The G-spot

This other orgasmic area is located inside the vagina. It's a bundle of nerve endings about two inches up from the pubic bone on the inner, upper wall of the vagina. To find the G-spot, gently slide your finger inside her vagina with your palm facing up, then curl your finger up. Be warned — some women love having their G-spot directly stimulated, while others prefer less pressure on this sensitive area. Explore different techniques and ask your partner which she likes best.

My husband doesn’t want to have sex anymore

I’m sorry that you’re dealing with such a difficult issue in your marriage. Though you aren’t alone in this—sexual issues are common in marriages—you must feel extremely lonely. You may also feel rejected, angry, and helpless, especially because you seem to have no explanation for why this is going on. But you don’t have to resign yourself to an untenable sacrifice. So let’s look at what you can do.

Whatever the reason, your husband is probably carrying a heavy burden—and in his own way, he probably feels as alone in his pain as you do. It’s less likely that your husband has no interest in sex (at least, in theory), and more likely that he has no interest in opening what to him might feel like a Pandora’s box.

So back to the broader issue, which is something you can talk to him about. When doing so, try approaching him from a place of curiosity rather than blame. Instead of saying, “I need us to have sex again”—a demand that makes it seem as if he’s the problem—you can say something like, “I don’t want us to have so much conflict around sex, and I certainly don’t want to feel like I’m nagging you. I just want you to know that I miss feeling close to you, and not just physically. On the one hand, we’re such good friends, and on the other, I feel like there’s a lot we don’t know about each other. Can we talk about what’s going on between us?”

In response, he may say, “Nothing’s going on,” but rather than let that be the end of the conversation (as I imagine you’ve both done in the past), you can say, “Something is going on between us if we’re not able to talk about the ways we’re not connecting. I don’t need you to have sex with me right now, but I do need you to be my partner and talk to me.” Let him know that you’re asking for a conversation because you love him and want your marriage to work. Finally, tell him that if he doesn’t feel comfortable talking to you quite yet, you’re willing to help in any way possible to find a place where he does feel comfortable. This establishes that you two are a team, and is different from what sounds like a pattern of “negotiating” or “suggesting” to no avail. Here, you’re being vulnerable and compassionate, but direct: This is about how we relate to each other and get through difficulties as a couple. If we can’t work through tough things together—whether that’s sex or anything else—I don’t think we’re going to last.

Lastly try to agree on one small step you can both take right away to signal your intention to work on this issue. A good place to start could be scheduling intimate times for massages, not necessary detailed but some form of fulfilling touch. Even if its not sex I always find that massage works wonders and you won’t feel pressured like sex. A massage between couples can be as tame as a clothed shoulder rub, or something much more involved and sensual. Whatever option you choose, treating each other to a massage is likely to increase trust, induce relaxation, and create feelings of deep enjoyment.

The benefits of massage are many! The oxytocin released during this makes you feel good about your partner and the relationship you created together. Scientifically, these hormones are responsible for building trust and emotional connections. They're brought on by sexual and non-sexual touching. This building of trust between partners is what you will need to restore your connection. See [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/erotic-massage/)

If you commit to do this, then do not forget after these massage sessions to take part of that intimate time discussing how best you can fix the thorny issue (less sex) in your relationship. Trust me commitment makes all the difference.

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If poison expires, is it more poisonous or is it no longer poisonous?

Which letter is silent in the word "Scent," the S or the C?

Do twins ever realize that one of them is unplanned?

Why is the letter W, in English, called double U? Shouldn't it be called double V?

Maybe oxygen is slowly killing you and It just takes 75-100 years to fully work.

Every time you clean something, you just make something else dirty.

The word "swims" upside-down is still "swims".

100 years ago everyone owned a horse and only the rich had cars. Today everyone has cars and only the rich own horses.

If you replace "W" with "T" in "What, Where and When", you get the answer to each of them.

If you rip a hole in a net, there are actually fewer holes in it than there were before.

The vast majority of the sex in porn IS realistic.

https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/j8ur0x/the_vast_majority_of_the_sex_in_porn_is_realistic/

Not necessarily sex but more to do with intimacy, you really need to create some time to touch, kiss, oral, sex etc. But remember when it comes to sex just like shoe sizes, there is only one exact fit and everything else is either too big or too small. I advise you use these intimacy ideas [365 Sex Moves; Positions for Having Sex a New Way Everyday](https://teachazinc.blogspot.com/2020/08/hide-seek.html)

Confidence with having sex again after getting out of a relationship

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/j4utb2/confidence_with_having_sex_again_after_getting/

Just like someone said above Don't assume that what someone tells you during a breakup is true. It's most likely just spiteful anger.

Get an understanding partner who will also recognize that penetration is not the ‘be all and end all’. Sexual pleasure is easily attainable in other ways, through foreplay and oral sex, for example. When you experience orgasm with your partner regularly even without intercourse, you become more connected and more comfortable with each other – and your bedroom skills are eventually likely to be better than most, since you won’t be taking any shortcuts! [Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/08/goddess-of-sex/)

Over time you will get more confident in bed because you’ll know that you can both enjoy yourselves without penetration. When you feel you have reached this point, you might start attempting penetration more often, but without pressuring yourself.

For National Boyfriends Day, I spent the whole day having great sex

https://www.reddit.com/r/NSFWIAMA/comments/j4sety/18f_for_national_boyfriends_day_i_spent_the_whole/

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For you, this can be a very rewarding experience. In pompoir the penis can be fondled, caressed, griped, massaged, milked, licked, inundated and rippled as a whole or in sections using only the vagina. But don’t think that the fun is all only his. The experience is uniquely arousing and satisfying for you, too.

The idea is well covered and explained in this guide; [Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/08/goddess-of-sex/)

Awkward sex with my bf

https://www.reddit.com/r/confessions/comments/j4tufe/awkward_sex_with_my_bf/

What you felt is very natural; do not beat yourself about it. You can actually tell him. BUT…..

To have the TV on during sex in my opinion is the biggest turn off ever. If it were me I would turn the TV off because to me it’s not the kind of thing you want in the background because as you found out its just a big distraction and an unnecessary distraction. My suggestion would be to either insist that the TV is turned off and thus allow you both to get in the mood the correct way ( I.E No Distractions at all ) . Sex or lovemaking is supposed to be a sensual act.

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My (F23) partner (M27) has recently re downloaded Instagram

https://www.reddit.com/r/pornfree/comments/j4si2h/my_f23_partner_m27_has_recently_re_downloaded/

An open conversation about the negative effects may be helpful. While it is a difficult topic to approach, both of you should express how the pornography usage make you feel without interruption and judgment from the other person. If the conversation turns into an argument, you should take a break and come back to the topic after anger and frustration have subsided.

Work on healing as a couple. When both individuals are committed to working together to have a healthy relationship, they can begin to repair it. While this process may take time, it is possible to build or rebuild a loving and connected relationship. Some of the areas that may need to be addressed include trust, gaining empathy and moving from anger to forgiveness. Gaining communication skills and new ways of approaching intimacy as a couple may also help the relationship. In this regard you will find this guide helpful; [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/11/30/erotic-massage/)

What’s important to remember overall is that too much of anything is a bad thing. Whether that be booze or boobs, the difference is negligible.

THINKING ABOUT SEX

If you and your partner have a sexual desire mismatch — that is, if one of you is a highly sexual person, and the other is not — it’s important to remember that neither of you is wrong. There’s no such thing as a “normal” amount of sex to have, and there’s no abstract ideal toward which you should be striving. In matters of taste, there can be no dispute; sexuality is highly individual, and you cannot be faulted for wanting what you want.

Similarly, if your partner is less interested in sex than you are, and this leads to your being repeatedly turned down, try not to take your partner’s refusals personally. First of all, you may need to come to terms with the way sexual relationships normally change over time. (It’s also fair to say that while sex can be a very healthy and satisfying part of a good relationship, not every couple needs to have sex to be happy together.) In making an adjustment to a partner’s reduced (or naturally lower) desire for sex, another part of your task is to understand your partner’s view of sexuality and to accept that he or she is different from you. Despite the frustration of being repeatedly turned down by one’s partner, remember that this can lead to a catch-22: such refusals can make you feel angry, which can result in resentfully pushing your partner away — which, in turn, can make it even less likely that your partner will want to be intimate with you. This refusal-resentment cycle is a pattern that needs to be identified and broken. Once you’re aware of it, you can try to be more loving with your partner as a way of escaping the pattern.

High Sex Drive VS Low Sex Drive

https://old.reddit.com/r/deadbedroom/comments/j37o95/high_sex_drive_vs_low_sex_drive/

The higher-desire partner may also want to consider the way that they are initiating sex if they are being turned down frequently. Perhaps something about this is going against the grain for the other party or simply failing to turn him or her on. Be sure to respect your partner’s needs, and conform to the circumstances that he or she says are necessary (such as a shower, or darkness, or a certain time of day). Also, the lower-desire partner may simply need more time before responding to a sexual overture. It’s important to take interpersonal pressure out of the equation, so that the lower-desire partner can ease into it and, if things go well, start to feel more receptive. What’s more, the decision to have sex doesn’t need to be an all-or-nothing one, either. If you and your partner can be open to multiple options, rather than simple intercourse, the lower-desire partner may feel more comfortable saying “yes” to some kind of physical closeness or sexual activity — whatever it might be. See [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/erotic-massage/)

Every sexual relationship is different: There is no “normal” and nothing “correct” to strive for. Every couple with differing levels of sexual desire needs to manage the discrepancy individually. With open communication, a commitment to compromise, a flexible approach to sexual activity, and full respect for the other’s rights and needs, each couple can find a unique solution.

Sex Will Break My Marriage

https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/j4sy30/sex_will_break_my_marriage/

When the amount of sex in a relationship causes problems, it’s essential to open up a dialogue about it. The best place to do this is outside the bedroom, in a comfortable setting. Have realistic expectations; in other words, when you begin this challenging conversation, don’t imagine that the issue will be resolved all at once. Take your time and revisit it over a few days. It’s not always easy to talk about sex with your partner or to feel comfortable discussing exactly what you like in the bedroom. You’ll have to gain comfort with this over time, as you talk about what you want and what your partner wants. Be open-minded, as well; don’t assume that you and your partner want to do the same things in bed. Take the “menu” approach by talking more openly about the various possibilities of sexual intimacy, and by listening carefully.

Since you are the high-desire partner, you’ll also want to know whether some aspect of sex has become uncomfortable, so that you can avoid triggering this discomfort. For that matter, it is equally helpful to find out what your partner does like, and what sex means to her. For many people, sex is not just about physical pleasure. It is a way of experiencing deep intimacy, communicating affection, or solidifying a partnership. If you and your partner can be open about what sex means to you both, you may be able to find ways to accomplish these goals without having the kind of sex that triggers conflict or discomfort. And lastly, while the conversation about sex is ongoing, try to introduce physical affection into your relationship without relying on sexuality. Cuddling, or massage, or simply touch can bring about many of the emotional experiences that some people reach for during sex. Affectionate physical contact can do a lot to reaffirm a relational connection. You will greatly appreciate this guide [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/11/30/erotic-massage/)

It’s also true that, in some cases, discrepant approaches to sexuality cannot be fully rectified. Infidelity may result, as one member of the couple may feel as if he has become desperate. If this is the case, you may have arrived at a moment that calls for real honesty. If you really believe you are frustrated enough to break your promises to your partner, she deserves to hear what you are contemplating, and why. Explain that you have been unhappy, and that you really do not know what else you can do. In some cases, couples may come to terms by reconsidering monogamy; it’s sometimes possible to sustain a relationship by meeting one’s sexual needs elsewhere. But at the very minimum, your partner deserves honesty, even if the relationship as it is cannot continue.

So my girlfriend and me have been having issues

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/j4arlc/so_my_girlfriend_and_me_have_been_having_issues/

Firstly: know it’s highly likely not about you, dad…It’s no secret… after having a baby, the frequency at which couples have sex usually takes a dive. The reasons for this are many and varied. Every woman – as well as her birth and parenting experience – is unique. As are the reasons for her non-existent libido after she’s had a baby.

She’s Already Had Someone All Over Her All Day - Don’t take it personally, dad… but after having a baby or toddler attached to her all day, the last thing she may want is someone on her all night! Personal space can be huge factor for some mothers, who feel like their touch or sensory bucket is overflowing. They may feel like everyone wants a piece of their body when they have none for themselves. These women especially need more me time.

Some mothers describe it as feeling used, invaded and even violated. Yes, these are strong words, but remember, once when humans lived in communities, raising children involved the whole village. Everyone shared and helped out with responsibilities, including raising the children.

HOW YOU CAN HELP: Find ways to take your baby off her hands whenever you can. Play with baby or wear your baby (in a sling or carrier) while she has a break or cooks dinner or has a shower. Talk to her about scheduling regular dad and baby time each week. Alternately getting some help from friends, family or paid help during the day can help. Reclaiming some of her personal space by having regular baby-free time will make a massive difference to her – and your relationship.

Having said all this, Sometimes it’s helpful to SCHEDULE times of the week to connect and be intimate. During these times you could choose to do various things like massage, playing with your partner’s hair. . Even if its not sex I always find that massage works wonders and you won’t feel pressured like sex. A massage between couples can be as tame as a clothed shoulder rub, or something much more involved and sensual. Whatever option you choose, treating each other to a massage is likely to increase trust, induce relaxation, and create feelings of deep enjoyment.

Now if your marriage has taken a turn for the worse what kind of touching is still viable and easy to start on? Massage would be my go to answer and my recommendation for the book you need for just that kind of activity and both of you will love the activity: [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/erotic-massage/)

If you commit to do this, then do not forget after these sessions to take part of that intimate time discussing how best you can fix the thorny issue in your relationship. Trust me commitment makes all the difference.

Sexual attraction after weight loss

https://www.reddit.com/r/askwomenadvice/comments/j4ai8n/sexual_attraction_after_weight_loss/

Your complaints about your husband’s appearance veer from things he can’t control to things he can. It’s not fair to criticize him for a lot of excess skin. Such changes happen. Not only this but wait for it…..wrinkles in all the wrong places. I’d hope that, as you mature yourself, you’ll gain the wisdom and empathy to tolerate inevitable physical transformations.

How should couples handle this situation? I hate to tell you, but the solution is to discuss it. Yes, you might hurt your husband’s feelings, but he deserves to hear about your feelings. Bring up the subject as matter-of-factly as you can, focusing on solutions instead of problems. Obviously, those solutions include looking for more flattering sex positions and for that check [Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/10/affectionate-sex/)

But the ultimate solution involves you rather than him. Accept that your husband looks the he does now and find a way to enjoy it, because there truly are enjoyable elements in your relationship. If you’re lucky, he’ll do the same for you when such changes will inevitable come at some stage to your body.

Good luck…..Enjoy!!!

Wanting to have a close intimate relationship without regularly initiating sex

https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/j48z2t/wanting_to_have_a_close_intimate_relationship/

But in many relationships couples fall into the pattern of the man being the only one to suggest having sex. I think this is mainly because society's norms suggest that men should pursue and women should be pursued. The result may be that women tend to be less comfortable initiating sex. Or it may be that women tend to use subtle, indirect cues -- which may not be consciously noticed -- to initiate sexual activity, while men use more direct verbal requests and other measures.

Anyway women who initiate sex frequently are often very sexually satisfied to begin with, and this enables them to be more at ease about expressing their sexual desires. A woman who initiates sex also often stimulates her partner's sex drive and his desire for her, which helps drive this entire pattern.

Several studies have found that many men like it when their female partner initiates sex. If your sex life lacks equity, speak with your partner about your concerns, To improve the balance, use this approach: Buy a supply of marbles in two different colors, one for each partner. Put them near an empty glass bowl. Whenever you or your partner initiates sex, place a marble into the bowl. At the end of the year, strive to have roughly equal numbers of both colors in the bowl.

By the way in the process you may also need [Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/10/affectionate-sex/)

Good luck ….. enjoy!!!

SO faked his orgasm last night: let it go or say something

https://www.reddit.com/r/sexover30/comments/iyf1l8/so_faked_his_orgasm_last_night_let_it_go_or_say/

People fake orgasms for all sorts of reasons – they’re tired and want to speed things up, they’re having fun but know they won’t be able to come, they don’t want to make you feel bad, and so on. But if you suspect that’s happening… what can you do? Is there a way to bring up the issue as a way to make sex better, without coming off accusatory or grumpy? yes. Don’t just simmer away resenting your partner for faking orgasms. have a proper chat when you’re not having sex to work out what’s going on. Someone faking an orgasm during sex isn’t a personal failing on either part, but it does indicate a struggle to be honest. Why does the faker feel they have to fake? That’s what you need to discuss – not just why they aren’t having an orgasm. The key to maintaining a healthy relationship is good communication. If your partner is faking it then that does indicate a breakdown in communication, because one of you isn’t being honest.

Timing is everything ‘The time to raise it is after your partner has had a real orgasm. ‘You can then say, “That was great – why wasn’t it like that last week?” And then look at the reasons why your sex together is sometimes mediocre and your partner feels the need to fake.’ Bringing up the conversation seemingly out of the blue can make your partner feel ambushed, while doing it immediately after a fake orgasm risks an argument coming out of the tension.

Veer away from criticism Okay, It would be pretty strange for someone to fake an orgasm to hurt your feelings – they’re likely doing it with the best of intentions – so it’s not wise to express annoyance or anger that they’ve faked. how you approach this matter is what makes all the difference. You could start with, “It’s so much fun being in bed with you, and I was wondering if we could spice things up a bit by making it even better…” or, “Wouldn’t it be fun to try something new that might make sex even more fun for us both?” ‘It might be a good idea to start with an incremental approach, rather than out of the blue and make sure that your approaches to your partner are always done with love and respect.’ Ask and listen without judgement Like I said, people fake for all sorts of reasons, and if you want your partner to quit the faux-gasms it’s crucial they feel comfortable being totally honest. Ask why they’ve been faking and listen to the answer without jumping in too quickly with solutions. A faked orgasm is very often a one-off thanks to tiredness or a night out, and that isn’t something that points to larger problems.

By the way, while we are still on the subject of making sex better here is a guide to be ; [Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/05/18/goddess-of-sex/)

How can we explore her orgasms?

https://www.reddit.com/r/sexover30/comments/iycphf/how_can_we_explore_her_orgasms/

Orgasms are typically produced by stimulating nerves in the pelvic region that roughly correspond to the clitoris, the vagina, and the cervix. That being said, most women need some type of clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. Having your partner start from there can greatly increase your chance of orgasming.

If she Gets clear about factors that impact her orgasms the most opens up space for change. When it comes to sharing this information you, the key is to be specific. Often, she may feel like it is enough to say ‘Can you touch my clit more?’ Instead, she should give suggestions that guide you on how you should do something rather than just what you should do. For example, ‘I’ve noticed that light touches on my clitoris turn me on the most but to actually orgasm I need the pressure to increase gradually. Maybe I can say harder when I am ready for more pressure during sex?’ Detailed requests like this are easier if she knows you very well and can talk about sex outside of the bedroom. But if you are simply hooking up communicating will be different. She can also try something simple but clear-cut like, ‘Can you move your tongue up but keep doing what you’re doing? Yeah, there is perfect.’ All this you should give her freedom and courage to explain to you.

Anyway you would also find this guide helpful; [Female Ejaculation; Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/17/female-ejaculation/)

Is it odd that my wife shuts down oral sex for her

https://www.reddit.com/r/sexover30/comments/ixsw69/is_it_odd_that_my_wife_shuts_down_oral_sex_for/

Sometimes, she may not need it because she may feel bad for “making” you do it. Usually, it is if you give some sort of signal that indicates it is something you will do, but only if she insists

Well, how do you ask?”

Do you ask like it is an ice cream cone you desperately want permission to lick?

Or do you ask like it is a chore you are hoping to get out of doing?

Because in my experience, one of the big reasons a woman turns down oral sex is because her partner isn’t asking for it in a way that shows just how bad he wants to taste her. So, the next time you ask, show some excitement. You’re guaranteed to get better results. Even if she turns you down, she’ll at least feel better about herself and about her body.

You may also be interested in this guide [Female Ejaculation; Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/02/female-ejaculation/)

PENIS SIZE STATEMENT

Your dick is a great size!

Yes, you with the 7 inches of length. And you with the 4-inch girth. And yes you Mr. 9-inch anaconda. Even you, Tuna Can Sam!

Here's the thing about your penis: it's the only one you've got and you're the only dude that can use it. "Just right" doesn't exist — every woman and man is different and has different factors that determine what an ideal size for them might be. And even then, the person it's attached to matters far more than the size of his member. Douchebags with big dicks are still douchebags.

There's so much in this world woth stressing over, don't let your dick be a source of anxiety. Learn your size, but more importantly learn what to do with that size. A dude with a small dick and an amazing foreplay game can rock someone's world while a big dick just whaling away on every orifice it can find will just lead to disappointment for everybody involved. Sex is much more than just putting your penis inside of a warm, moist, flesh hole — it's the most intimate act two (or more!) people can engage in, treat it as such. Have fun, make your partner smile and laugh and moan and cum all over the place.

The size of your dick doesn't have an impact on whether sex will be good; it changes what good sex looks like.

Your dick size is fine and it doesn't matter what anybody else has. There will always be bigger dicks and smaller dicks, but you can't use those dicks. Get to know yours and everything you can do with it. Here you will find [Female Ejaculation; Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/05/female-ejaculation/)

And bring lube.

How do I stop the want?

https://www.reddit.com/r/SexAddiction/comments/ivpu0d/how_do_i_stop_the_want/

Remember, a high sex drive isn’t a problem to be solved unless it’s causing emotional or mental strife. If you have a partner with a fairly high libido there’s no reason to worry. Here are some ways you can utilize your highs ex drive

SEEK OUT MINDFUL SEX PRACTICES

If you feel like you pursue sex even when it isn’t fulfilling or nourishing, or if you feel disconnected from your body, consider different mindfulness techniques. Tantra, sexological bodywork, yoga, and even meditation can all help you develop a fulfilling relationship between your mind and body, helping you make better choices regarding your sex life.

EXPLORE YOUR SEXUALITY

Sexual health is an essential component to overall health. As with all things, balance is key. Sexuality is best when it fits comfortably into your life, neither suppressed nor overwhelming. By reading sexual resources ( I have recommended some at the end ), you may be able to find the perfect balance of sex in your life.

INTERRUPT YOUR URGES

Understanding that sexual urges - much like cravings for cigarettes or cake - do pass if not fuelled by yearning thoughts or actions, can be a revelation. If you become aroused and you want to not act on your urges, you can refer to a list you’ve made about how great your partner is, or what you will gain from not acting out.

CHANNEL YOUR ENERGY

Some people derive great relief, pleasure and pride from channeling their sexual energy into other things. This could mean doing something creative, physical, thrilling or spiritual. Popular pursuits include long distance running, dancing, learning the guitar, abseiling, DIY, cooking, yoga and Tantra.

WORK THROUGH RELATIONSHIP ISSUES

Some high sex drive people in monogamous relationships frequently beg their partner for sex. This is very bad form. It’s not sexy and, whether or not they give in, can kill off whatever sexual feelings their partner has for them, as even tender affection is viewed as a hopeful route to sex.

I’ve heard people with higher libidos argue that they be allowed to have sex outside the relationship. While open relationships can work, it’s best when it’s seen as an exciting thing that both partners can participate in.

Sometimes it’s helpful to SCHEDULE times of the week to connect and be intimate. During these times they could choose to do various things like oral sex activities, acting out role-play activities or downright having PIV sexual activities. Links to the resources of these activities are below:

[Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/03/09/erotic-massage/)

[Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/11/oral-sex-moves/)

[Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/18/goddess-of-sex/)

[Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/09/affectionate-sex/)

All of which if your partner is willing, your sexual life would be quite adventurous.

My (30M) wife (30F) and I have changed a lot.

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ixougm/my_30m_wife_30f_and_i_have_changed_a_lot_i_want/

You really need to foster a really intimate connection otherwise you will both start to increasingly grow apart. BUT…. Sometimes it’s helpful to SCHEDULE times of the week to connect and be intimate. During these times you could choose to do various things like massage, playing with your partner’s hair. . Even if its not sex I always find that massage works wonders and you won’t feel pressured like sex. A massage between couples can be as tame as a clothed shoulder rub, or something much more involved and sensual. Whatever option you choose, treating each other to a massage is likely to increase trust, induce relaxation, and create feelings of deep enjoyment.

Good luck..... Enjoy!!!!

I (20F) haven’t gotten my boyfriend (20M) off since January

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/ixp7vd/i_20f_havent_gotten_my_boyfriend_20m_off_since/

It’s easy, just invest in more oral and manual stimulation but make sure to maintain a pace: Just like when your man performs oral sex on you and maintains a pace to help you orgasm, the same way, during a hand job keep your pace steady to help him feel the pleasure. Constantly changing pace only dampens the mood and will not help him orgasm. Pace is everything. Starting out slow yet seductively and then moving on to a more steady motion goes a long way in making a man orgasm. Here again listen to your partner and see how he is responding, once you hit the perfect pace, stick to it until he asks for more.

Anyway this guide would do a great job to in that department [Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/11/oral-sex-moves/)

Scientific research shows that oral sex increases the levels of satisfaction and intimacy between partners.

Good luck..... Enjoy!!!!

My boyfriend and me have mismatched libidos

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/ixp5vz/my_boyfriend_and_me_have_mismatched_libidos/

Sometimes it’s helpful to SCHEDULE times of the week to connect and be intimate. During these times couples could choose to do various things like massage, playing with your partner’s hair. . Even if its not sex I always find that massage works wonders and you won’t feel pressured like sex. A massage between couples can be as tame as a clothed shoulder rub, or something much more involved and sensual. Whatever option you choose, treating each other to a massage is likely to increase trust, induce relaxation, and create feelings of deep enjoyment. You also need to greatly invest in oral sex. Oral Sex Can Help To Increase Relationship Satisfaction - Ask your partner what they enjoy. Question how you can improve your sex life, and ensure that you do everything possible for you both to feel sexually fulfilled.

This guide would do a great job to revive foreplay and more of non-PIV stuff

[Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/oral-sex-moves/)

Scientific research shows that oral sex increases the levels of satisfaction and intimacy between partners.

Good luck..... Enjoy!!!!

How do you know you're ready for sex during foreplay

Keep in mind that many sexual activities, particularly oral sex and manual stimulation, can be seen as either foreplay or sex, depending on what that particular sexual encounter looks like. Sex is so much more than penetration, after all. When you’re beginning foreplay, one fun suggestion is to keep it going for as long as you can. The key to good foreplay is actually doing it for long enough. However long you think you should spend on foreplay, double it at least.

This guide would do a great job to revive foreplay and more non-PIV stuff

[Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/19/oral-sex-moves/)

Good luck..... Enjoy!!!!

My bf (38) never wants to have sex with me (40)

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ixoczr/my_bf_38_never_wants_to_have_sex_with_me_40/

One thing you are right – without intimacy of some kind sooner or later your relationship will start having issues. Yet I totally understand your frustration, but maybe the fact that you are aware of his limitations it could be your turn to direct your sex lives into the right direction. But to get started, these guidelines may help you:

1. Tell your partner you need to talk and decide on a time you can have an uninterrupted conversation (not while you’re getting ready for work in the morning).

2. Once you have their full attention, present the facts as clearly and non-judgmentally as you can (“We haven’t had sex when I am horny, despite the few times I’ve tried to initiate it,”. Some people might be very aware of their behavior, but others might not. Give your spouse the benefit of the doubt and see how they respond before assuming they’ve been aware of their behavior and indifferent to the damage it has caused.

3. State the emotional impact their rejections have on you using "I statements" (“It makes me feel extremely unattractive and undesirable,” “I feel hurt and my self-esteem has taken a real hit,” or, “It makes me feel insecure, angry, and resentful.”). Here again, it is important to give your partner space to respond; while some may be aware of the impact of their behavior, others might not be.

4. State a clear request for change (“It isn’t fair to me and I don’t want to keep feeling like this,” “We’ve spoken about this before, you make some efforts but they don’t last. I need you to take this very seriously,” or, “I want us to discuss this honestly and find solutions together.”).

5. If your partner gets defensive or is reluctant to change, ask them to explain how they see things, what suggestions they have for making things better, or whether there are things they are upset about that are motivating their behavior.

6. Discuss specific steps you both can take to improve the situation. Do not assume all the changes have to come from your partner; they might have feelings of their own that are underlying their avoidance of sex and intimacy. Try to agree on one small step you can both take right away to signal your intention to work on this issue. A good place to start could be scheduling intimate times like for massages, not necessary detailed but some form of fulfilling touch.

7. Request a periodic check-in to make sure any efforts or changes are maintained (“I want us to check in on this every few weeks to make sure things have improved,” or, “I would like you to take the initiative to check in with me so I know you care about whether I’m feeling better about this.”). This guide would do a great job to revive foreplay and more non-PIV stuff Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated

My NEW bf is suddenly too tired for sex

https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/igta7l/my_new_bf_is_suddenly_too_tired_for_sex/

You said it, his job is mentally draining but hey there is something you can do to get his manhood revamped again. PENIS MASSAGE

You do not need much prep for a penis massage. You can start massaging the cock right away. So, set a timer for at least 30 minutes (though some people recommend 40). This way you will build the appetite for stimulation. It’s a process but am sure it will work if you are committed

For a step by step guide about how to go about in this type of massage I recommend [Penis Massage 101:*Plus A Perfect Blowjob* The No-Penetration Guide To Pleasuring Him](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/07/penis-massage-101/)

Why is small boobs good but small penis is not good?

https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/igr34w/why_is_small_boobs_good_but_small_penis_is_not/

If you’re going to use your penis for penetration, the person on the receiving end has to feel pleasure as well and can only do so if everything fits and doesn’t hurt.

Like with most of the modern sexuality, porn distorts our perception of what is a “normal” penis size and what’s desirable when it comes to the moment of intercourse and sex overall.

Bigger penises started to matter more with the advent of photography, which then leads to pornography as we know it today. With pornography growing in importance, having a bigger penis (along with bigger breast in the case of women) became more attractive and something to covet, like pornography, is pure visual stimulation.

Men also masturbated more now, so having more to stroke also became an important psychological factor. While we’re talking about body dysmorphia, it’s also worth mentioning here that male pornstars are chosen for their specific talents. So what you might witness on the NSFW corners of the internet, it’s not a reflection of the average man. But you knew that already, didn’t you?

Men, at least heterosexual ones, maybe worrying that there are lots of 10-inch penises out there. Porn stars get the job because their penis size is rare

And remember you have sex with your whole body, not just with your dick. This article will show you [How men can best please a woman during sex](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/08/14/please-a-woman/)

How do I dump him over our lack of intimacy

https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/igssbd/how_do_i_dump_him_over_our_lack_of_intimacy/

1. Tell your partner you need to talk and decide on a time you can have an uninterrupted conversation (not while you’re getting ready for work in the morning).

My sex life with my wife has changed since having our first child

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/igt7cv/my_sex_life_with_my_wife_has_changed_since_having/

Remember, the baby too sucks the nipples so it may take her some time to dissociate the baby sucking from your sucking…you et the idea. For most women, sex begins in the mind so unless she feels it romantically most of the sex acts you use to enjoy may lose their pleasure easily. For example; experienced parents recommend making sure your bedroom is baby-free at bedtime. There's nothing like rolling on top of a toy caterpillar that starts to play 'Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star' to kill the mood

Also why not ask her for something new to try Or give her a choice. Make it something she might warm to and give her the decision, that way she’s doing something she’s more likely to be into, rather than doing something just to please you. A good place to start could be asking to schedule an intimate massage outside the bedroom, not necessary detailed but some form of fulfilling touch. This guide would do a great job in that [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/03/erotic-massage/)

Be playful, positive and praising - Whether the experimentation went well on the first try or not. Change is a process, not always instant gratification.

My dick is only 4.7 inches

If you’re going to use your penis for penetration, the person on the receiving end has to feel pleasure as well and can only do so if everything fits and doesn’t hurt.

Like with most of the modern sexuality, porn distorts our perception of what is a “normal” penis size and what’s desirable when it comes to the moment of intercourse and sex overall.

Men, at least heterosexual ones, maybe worrying that there are lots of 10-inch penises out there. Porn stars get the job because their penis size is rare

And remember you have sex with your whole body, not just with your dick. This article will show you [9 Ways To Sexually Switch Up Rhythm, Depth of Stroke and Positioning](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/08/17/switch-up-stroke/)

Good luck ..... Enjoy!!!!

Sex outside the bedroom

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/ieux9q/sex_outside_the_bedroom/

Ask her for something new to try Or give her a choice. Make it something she might warm to and give her the decision, that way she’s doing something she’s more likely to be into, rather than doing something just to please you. A good place to start could be asking to schedule an intimate massage outside the bedroom, not necessary detailed but some form of fulfilling touch. This guide would do a great job in that [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/03/erotic-massage/)

Be playful, positive and praising - Whether the experimentation went well on the first try or not. Change is a process, not always instant gratification.

37F needs help with 36M who is depriving me of intimacy in the bedroom

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ieungl/37f_needs_help_with_36m_who_is_depriving_me_of/

He could be tired, exhausted, etc. You could be providing for family, making sure your family does well etc. But on one thing you are right – without intimacy of some kind sooner or later your relationship will start having issues. Yet I totally understand your frustration, but maybe the fact that you are aware of his limitations it could be your turn to direct your sex lives into the right direction. But to get started, these guidelines may help you:

1. Tell your partner you need to talk and decide on a time you can have an uninterrupted conversation (not while you’re getting ready for work in the morning).

Do women lose interest in sex, just like man after reaching climax

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskSex/comments/hy1lm6/do_women_lose_interest_in_sex_just_like_man_after/

The sexual response cycle has four phases: desire (libido), arousal (excitement), orgasm and resolution. Both men and women experience these phases, although the timing usually is different. For example, it is unlikely that both partners will reach orgasm at the same time. In addition, the intensity of the response and the time spent in each phase varies from person to person.

RESOLUTION - During this phase, the body slowly returns to its normal level of functioning, and swelled and erect body parts return to their previous size and color. This phase is marked by a general sense of well-being and, often, fatigue. Some women are capable of a rapid return to the orgasm phase with further sexual stimulation and may experience multiple orgasms. Men need recovery time after orgasm, called a refractory period, during which they cannot reach orgasm again. The duration of the refractory period varies among men and changes with age. Anyway here is the guide for guys to [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/13/female-orgasm-101/)

My husband doesn’t want me

https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/icict1/my_husband_doesnt_want_me/

Those minor irritations are often a normal part of most long term relationships. Why don’t start investing some of your time into Kneading each other's knots (massage) which is a way to show selfless love and affection, in addition to fostering trust, improving communication, and expressing vulnerability. It's a great opportunity to practice consent and ask for what you truly want—which can be helpful in other parts of the relationship.

You will experience so many benefits from giving and receiving massages at home, including forming deeper connections both physically and emotionally. Intimacy is about being emotionally close to another person, and while it doesn’t always require words, it is not an automatic occurrence in a relationship.

One of the most important conditions for fostering this intimate connection is to spend time alone, focusing on each other. In the case of a massage you are most decidedly focusing your complete attention – even your hands! – on the person you love, and giving them space to be themselves.

In our fast-paced world of high-speed internet and 140-character status updates, we sometimes need a reminder to take a deep breath together and slow down.

Massaging your partner will make you very mindful of that – it’s good practice in slowing yourself down and helping slow your spouse down too.

Carving out this extra time and space for your relationship to grow and thrive is vital to your marriage.

Stop. Be with each other. Breathe. Connect. Love.

Each moment we have here is a precious gift. Massage is a beautiful way to stretch those moments out a little longer, together. Check [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/03/erotic-massage/) to see if it helps.

Why is porn a bad thing if your in a relationship or marriage

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriageadvice/comments/ic17cr/porn/

Despite strident claims that research has proven porn use is harmful to relationships, there is in fact no such evidence. Rather, it's an assertion based on correlational data: While plenty of studies have found that men who regularly use porn are dissatisfied with their relationships, this doesn’t mean that porn use causes relationship dissatisfaction. In fact, the few longitudinal studies that have looked into this issue suggest the direction of causality may run in the opposition direction — that is, partnered men start using porn after they become dissatisfied with their relationship.

Besides, there’s no agreed-upon definition of pornography. Some use the “I know it when I see it” approach, and so anything from nude photos to filmed sexual acts can count as pornography. Some even include online sexual activities, such as sexting, web cam use, or sex chatting — even the purchase of sex toys over the Internet — as pornographic activities. There’s also no consensus about what constitutes porn use: for some, you count as a porn user if you’ve ever seen a Playboy centerfold.

Another issue is that most only look at solo male porn use. It’s generally assumed that porn is used mainly by men as an aid to masturbation. Besides, it’s not just solo men who are using porn: The few studies that have looked at female porn use suggest more satisfying relationships, at least in terms of sexual intimacy. By the way there is a woman friendly and pampering way to approach even the most canal sex positions see [Couples Sex Guide with OVER 100 Demonstrated Sex Positions](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2020/05/18/lovers-guide/) This is quite the opposite of what's generally found when we look at solo male porn use. So the “porn is bad for relationships” narrative can't be the full story.

Moreover, there’s been little research into couples that use porn together. A focus on solo male porn use blinds people to other possible effects pornography may have on a relationship.

What is your go to sex position

https://www.reddit.com/r/sexpositions/comments/ic00ib/poll_results_what_is_your_go_to_sex_position/

Missionary might just be one of the best sex positions for women to have an orgasm. Missionary is classic for a reason. General contact is really nice and deep, and you can talk, kiss, bite, and make eye contact. To get that clitoral stimulation, though, the person on the bottom should grind their pelvis against their partner. That will make the position feel even better. By the way there is a woman friendly and pampering way to approach even the most canal sex positions see [Couples Sex Guide with OVER 100 Demonstrated Sex Positions](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2020/05/18/lovers-guide/)

Can this be even true

https://www.reddit.com/r/sexquestions/comments/icaigp/can_this_be_even_true/

“hitting her UTERUS during intercourse” is not possible, yes you could hit her CERVIX but most likely she would feel pain. I guess by saying you hit her uterus she meant it as a complement to your penis size ( she was figuratively speaking). Deep penetration often implies erotic complementation of penis size, consider her saying; you hit me deep, you filled my vagina, you reached the core of my vagina. She may not mean this in a literally sense …….. you get the idea…..BUT…..Having an orgasm can make her cervix to dilate. This creates a vacuum that can pull the menstrual blood down. This includes orgasm through penetrative and non-penetrative sexual activity, so even if you leave her hanging see [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/13/female-orgasm-101/) and she finishes herself later through masturbation it still counts. She may then attribute everything to sex since intuitively it makes sense to associate poking and certain disturbances. Besides regular sex can also reduce the effects of stress and help to promote a healthy hormonal balance which may then trigger her period.

Why do women always try to look back at the guy when he's doing her

https://www.reddit.com/r/sexquestions/comments/ic4aom/why_do_women_always_try_to_look_back_at_the_guy/

It has nothing to do with seeing anything but with the thoughts which are bound to enter your brain when someone enters you from behind. If it was you with most of these thoughts going on, surely you are bound to look behind. Consider them:

MY BUTT MUST LOOK FANTASTIC RIGHT NOW; There really is no greater angle for your backside. Large, small, round, or flat—everybody's shape shines when they're on all fours.

UM, HOW OFTEN SHOULD I BE TURNING MY HEAD BACK TO LOOK AT HIM; The beauty of this position is the freedom to not lock eyes—but isn't the occasional glance appreciated? Oh no! Neck cramp!

PLEASE STICK TO THE ORIFICE WE AGREED ON; 'Cause nobody's looking to get a penis shoved into a hole that wasn't prepared for it. Dude, just stay in the designated bone zone, please. Whelp, that's going to leave a slobber mark

I WOULDN'T BE OPPOSED TO YOU TELLING ME HOW HOT I LOOK RIGHT NOW; We're vulnerable, we're being penetrated, and our ass is on full display. Even the tiniest of verbal affirmations would be appreciated.

WHOA, ARE YOU HAVING SEX OR CHANNELING RAGE; Doggy can go from amazing to awkward in a millisecond. When we said harder, we didn't mean human jack-hammer mode—we'd still like our cervix intact after this.

By the way there is a woman friendly and pampering way to approach even the most canal sex positions see [Couples Sex Guide with OVER 100 Demonstrated Sex Positions](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2020/05/18/lovers-guide/)

I just don’t know what to call her when she is the Dom so please give me some ideas

https://www.reddit.com/r/sexquestions/comments/ic4tab/so_me_and_my_girlfriend_are_switches_and_we_both/

You can call her Boss, Madam, Lady, Mistress etc. It would greatly depend on the role-play you are enacting. Anyway a good guide to get you started is [Sexual Roleplays with Over 100 Demonstrated Sex Games](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/13/sexual-roleplays/)

why is it called a blowjob

Many say it is called blowjob because when the act is carried out, the cheeks of the person carring out the act looks like the person is blowing air and the only way to ease pressure is by exhaling or blowing. Others also say that blowjob originated from 'below the belt job' and it was shorten to 'below job'. Overtime, it was referred to as 'blowjob'. Linguists think the word evolved from 'blow off' which means to finish off or to end. Also check [Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/oral-sex-moves/)

Good luck, enjoy!

How often do most people have sex

Much like washing your hair, you don't need to have sex as often as you think—at least according to one study, which suggests any amount over once a week is simply overkill, especially if you're not feeling it. That may seem obvious, but there's a persistent belief out there that quantity of sex correlates precisely with the happiness of a couple, with no upper limit. Most long-term partners are doing it about once a week anyway; the average married couple has sex 51 times a year. And not only are married couples generally still out-sexing singles, but it turns out that not-strictly-sexual acts of affection, like hand holding, kissing, massages, were actually better predictors of being “intensely” in love with your long-term partner than sexual frequency. See [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/03/erotic-massage/)

Leg Glider Sex Position

It is called LEG GLIDER SEX POSITION - The leg glider is a very exotic sex position that it quite difficult to perform properly unless you have a good deal of flexibility, although your man doesn’t need to be that flexible to do it.

LADY ROLES

When you are in the Leg Glider position, your main aim is to keep steady and stay in position without your legs cramping up. Although if you do feel your legs starting to cramp up, then tell your man immediately so that you can stretch them and get rid of the cramp. You’ll find it far easier to perform the Leg Glider if you bend both knees slightly. Obviously warming up beforehand is a good idea too.

MAN ROLES

When your man is performing the Leg Glider, at first he needs to be careful to make sure that you are comfortable and that he is not putting too much pressure on your leg. Also if he is well hung, he needs to be careful that he is not penetrating you too deeply.

Once you get into a nice rhythm with your man in the Leg Glider, he can grab the base of your right leg or hold onto your right arm so that he can pull you towards him and penetrate you more deeply. Your man can also lean backwards to change the angle of entry as well as forwards (just make sure that he is very careful when he is leaning forwards not to hurt you). As well as leaning backwards and forwards, he can move to one side or the other until he finds the position that you both enjoy most.

Well this position is well explained and covered with other over 100 here [Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/10/affectionate-sex/)

perfect male lover physically

With women its mostly emotional than physical for example Men who exercise their creative sides are often less stressed out and more open to communication and intimacy than men who don’t have creative hobbies. Women often look for men that are interested in a variety of things, not just beer and sports. Men who are spontaneous and adventurous tend to be better lovers than those who worry about the clock and schedule every minute of their day. This kind of spontaneity [can really pay off in the bedroom as well](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/13/female-orgasm-101/)

pregnant and husband isn’t sexually attracted to me

The science is still out on what exactly happens to men’s sex drive during pregnancy. Some studies have found that men are actually more attracted to their wives when they’re pregnant. Others suggest fears surrounding the safety of the fetus may prevent some men from initiating sex. Another study, found that expectant fathers experience drops in testosterone — the hormone most closely associated with male sex drive. Different couples will go through different experiences.

A changing body can be very difficult for some men. Some guys hold to a picture perfect image of women they’re sexually attracted to. The aesthetic of maternity wear probably doesn’t help matters much, either. A lot of women dress differently during their pregnancy. Some guys perceive that as a form of rejection.

While some men may take issue with their partner’s pregnant body or the clothes they wear, they remain in the minority. Typically, men who don’t find their pregnant wives attractive are also sitting on major fears about the future, about being a good dad, about being able to provide. What women need to understand is that if he’s not attracted to their pregnant body, it rarely has to do with them.

Plenty of men aren’t quite so eager to jump into such fertile territory. So what’s a loving husband to do?

Communicating these concerns usually helps free up enough space to invite intimacy back into the relationship. undersexed and expecting couples should focus on other forms of intimacy. Touch is important. Talking is important. Maintaining an emotional connection is extremely important. Such forms of touch may include scheduled massage ( also important for your pregnant body ) so check [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/03/erotic-massage/) to see if it helps.

How can i make a girl cum (mainly with my fingers)

To make her squirt you’ll need to stimulate her g spot with a firm and repetitive motion. The only problem for most guys is they often can’t exactly locate the right spot. What makes it harder is that the location and size of the g spot varies in different women. So making sure you find it is crucial to making her squirt. That’s why I often use the g-spot finder technique which makes it easy and quick to be 100% sure you’ve located her pleasure point. The Magic Finger Technique Causes Even The Most 'Non-Orgasmic' Women To Shudder With Pleasure...Check this for more details [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/13/female-orgasm-101/)

How to practice eating pussy

No need to practice really, though you may want to understand the technicalities of female arousal and pleasure see [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/04/30/female-orgasm-101/)

Now for the sex toy, just get the one for your own pleasure really, that way you can practice how you need pleasure.

Is this actually a good method for fingering someone

Yeah the guy knows how to do it. That is how to finger. Ultimately, the best fingering technique is asking your partner what feels good to them! plus you want it to be intimate so Massage would be my go to answer and you will love the activity, check: [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/03/09/erotic-massage/)

Tips for sucking dick

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskSex/comments/i97d4h/tips_for_sucking_dick_pleaseeee/

Breathe on purpose in and out of your nose… because your mouth will be busy.

Make sure your own body is positioned comfortably. If you’re uncomfortable, you will not be able to relax into the experience.

Pace yourself. Try not to do long stretches of the same technique. This will lessen fatigue.

If your jaw gets tired, shift the focal point to your cheek (rather than the center of your mouth toward your throat). This will give your jaw a break while continuing to provide stimulation to the head of the penis.

Don’t be afraid to slow down and switch up your technique.

Placing a pillow beneath your lover’s hips will give you greater access to the balls and gooch.

Finding your rhythm is important. And it will change depending on the level of arousal. Trust yourself and go with it.

Your partner’s hips may begin to thrust automatically as the orgasm builds. If you begin to have a gag response, continue to use your hands and isolate your mouth to the head of the penis. This will prevent the penis from going too deep in your throat. If you are comfortable deep throating, disregard this tip.

Use your words. Communication is key in every kind of sex. Be generous with your asks and be receptive to direction. Let your partner tell you what they like. If something feels uncomfortable for you, let them know. Keep the lines of communication open at all times.

Now, if your aim is for your man to succumb to your whims then you need to check this [Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/21/crazy-man/)

Now go forth and give good head!

Is this going to work? Idk

If you are not the one who wants the divorce or the dissolution or the separation THEN YOU WILL NEED TO RECONNECT INTIMATELY:

Reconnecting intimately after your bonds have been broken can be difficult. The last thing you want to do to someone who has broken your trust or hurt your feelings is create a sexual connection with them. Yet, that is what many couples need in order to start trusting one another again.

Thus, a vicious cycle begins:

1. Trust is broken.

2. You want to be intimate with your partner.

3. The thought of being intimate after betrayal then frustrates, repulses, or upsets you.

4. You draw away from your partner.

This cycle can cause irreversible damage. You do not want to force intimacy, and true repentance and forgiveness should occur before you begin fixing your relationship. Still, it is important to note how important intimacy is within relationships after experiencing a bad experience.

Being sexually intimate with one another creates an incomparable. The oxytocin released during sex makes you feel good about your partner and the relationship you created together.

Scientifically, these hormones are responsible for building trust and emotional connections. They're brought on by sexual and non-sexual touching. This building of trust between partners is what you will need to restore your connection.

Now if your marriage has taken a turn for the worse what kind of touching is still viable and easy to start on? Massage would be my go to answer and my recommendation for the book you need for just that kind of activity, and both of you will love the activity: [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/03/09/erotic-massage/)

I'm happily unhappy and I think my wife is too

Erotic Massage can turn around the most tired and boring sex lives! Many couples have been together for a long time and have full-time jobs, kids, long commutes and modern-day stressors (Covid -19). They are too tired to have anything but boring sex. When I say tired I mean not inspired, not passionate, not hot, not sexy. I refer to the “squeeze one out” kind of sex that happens in bed at the end of the day when everyone is tired. When I say boring I mean the “one trick pony” kind of sex that is routine, gets you where you want to go, is the tried and true formula and that may have remained the same for years.

I encourage couples to learn erotic massage techniques to create a new avenue of sexual fun together. The benefits of massage are many!

Being sexually intimate with one another creates an incomparable. The oxytocin released during sex makes you feel good about your partner and the relationship you created together.

Now if your marriage has taken a turn for the worse what kind of touching is still viable and easy to start on? Massage would be my go to answer and my recommendation for the book you need for just that kind of activity, and both of you will love the activity: [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/03/09/erotic-massage/)

A good sex position for man to last longer

That will pretty much do it for some guys and also try:

SITTING - This can be a very romantic position – you are face to face so it’s perfect for lots of kissing and eye contact, which creates much more intimacy. In this position, your partner sits on the bed cross-legged while you lower yourself onto his lap, wrapping your arms and legs around his neck and back. While there can be deep penetration, the movement itself has to stay at a calm and steady tempo which is ideal for stopping him getting overly excited and rushing things. If you think he might climax soon, slow things right down and that may be able to delay him for some time.

SPOONING - Many men find that they are better able to control themselves and last longer in this position. Here the man and woman both lie on their sides, facing the same direction and close together. The man’s pelvis is slightly lower than the woman’s, while she bends forward slightly from the hip, lifting her leg slightly to let him enter her. It has a far gentler pace and shallower penetration – it’s more of a grinding action rather than thrusting – so again, he can’t get too excited too soon. This is also an intimate position, and perfect if you are both feeling tired – great for slow, lazy Sunday morning sex!

Anyway ideally here is [Ejaculation by Command – the Ultimate Blueprint to Superior Sexual Endurance](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/03/stamina/)

Being picked up during sex

If this is something that you want to do in the future, going to the gym and doing some squats and deadlifts will help. One thing to watch out for: if you are using your legs too much it can mess with your erection.

Pick her up in non-sexual situations. Is it easy? Can you hold her for at least a full minute? There are several different variations that you can do that will increase leverage/holding power and make it easier for you to take some weight off your arms. You can also press her up against a wall.

BUT………my bet is she like the intimacy of it so why don’t you just go for other intimate positions which are not physically exhausting

How to do it:. You sit in a (sturdy!) chair with your feet flat on the floor, while she sits on your lap, facing you. She rest the backs of her knees on your shoulders, and your calves and feet on or over the back of a chair.

she can grasp your neck to help maintain balance, but you should hold her lower back for support. If you need to feel more stable, a slight variation would be for her to sit on a countertop.

Anyway they are plenty of intimate sex positions which are worth it and she will love them too [Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/09/affectionate-sex/)

limit to when a penis becomes scary big

It's almost comical to think having a big penis equates to good sex, because, honestly -- and this is something I wish I could scream at my early 20-something self -- that's just total bullshit. Does that mean the ladies don’t typically prefer a big D? Nope. Because those are still great. But it does mean how you use it will almost always trump size. And sometimes too big can be, well, a problem.

The easy answer is, again, larger than the average wherever you’re from, but even so, what’s larger than normal? What is normal? If by “normal” I mean the average penis size, about 5 inches when erect, so anything more than that should be considered larger than normal.

But if you’re one of the lucky ones with an undoubtedly large penis, meaning a good inch or two more than the 5 inch average, you should be aware that there is such a thing as “too big” for many women, because by the end of the day, if you’re going to use your penis for penetration, the person on the receiving end has to feel pleasure as well and can only do so if everything fits and doesn’t hurt.

Like with most of the modern sexuality, porn distorts our perception of what is a “normal” penis size and what’s desirable when it comes to the moment of intercourse and sex overall.

Bigger hasn’t always meant better. In fact, for most of history, a small penis was preferred aesthetically to a large penis, as anyone can tell by looking at statues of naked men from Ancient Greece. So, at least aesthetically, the less the penis got in the way, the better.

Men, at least heterosexual ones, maybe worrying that there are lots of 10-inch penises out there. Actually, you’d fall into the top 5 percent f your penis is 6.3 inches when erect. Porn stars get the job because their penis size is rare”

Like stated before, “too big” is likely more than 7 inches for any woman. Anything more than 7 —and it’s likely that’s already too much to plenty of women— will cause pain and even some damage to the cervix. If it’s too wide, it risks literally tearing a woman’s vagina apart and causing extreme pain. Tread carefully.

Girth-wise, the average is also best for vaginal sex. Anything more than the 4.59 average is pushing it (literally) and might not be that comfortable for most women, although there are exceptions to the rule of “average is best” of course, just like for men.

putting a pillow under a woman's back during sex actually do anything

The most common way to use a pillow is under the hips during missionary or under the pelvis during lying-down-from-behind positions, which lifts the hips and pelvis just enough to make entering and accessing the vagina easier and more comfortable. It also gives her partner a clearer view of the vaginal opening to reduce the risk of fumbling upon entry and accidentally thrusting or poking against the urethra or perineum.

Some couples enjoy a form of missionary that involves the receiving partner lying on their back on the bed with their butt scootched to the edge and the giving partner standing in front of them, usually holding their partner’s legs for support. In some cases, this position isn’t physically possible without pillows.

Anyway sexual position logistics are easier to understand when properly explained and demonstrated as this guide does properly [365 Sex Moves; Positions for Having Sex a New Way Everyday](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/18/365-sex-moves/)

I want to try roleplaying but I don’t know what to do

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/i8u7r3/i_want_to_try_roleplaying_but_i_dont_know_what_to/

Why don’t you try the TEACH ME EVERYTHING YOU KNOW - Even if you and your partner have both been around the block, assume the roles of someone who is sexually inexperienced and someone who has some special techniques to share. this scenario is an opportunity to rewrite your sexual history and recapture (or create) the exciting thrill of first-time sex over and over again. As for other many varied screnarios you can also take a look at [Sexual Roleplays With Over 100 Demonstrated Sex Games](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/sexual-roleplays/)

Wonderful sex life

Wonderful sex life indeed. even from your descriptions it shows that everything is just perfect. make great memories like this and your relationship would be beyond ordinary. Forget about Smosh guys, they are just jealousy!!!. here are [365 Sex Moves; Positions for Having Sex a New Way Everyday](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/18/365-sex-moves/)

Virgin man 28yo needs confidence for sex

Easy, just chill, man. Get your shit together, don’t bring the being virgin subject up with her, stop thinking about it at all, and once you get to the point where you’re about to have sex - then you can tell her that you don’t have that much experience. The key is communication! If you really listen to what your partner likes and you can explain what you like you'll have good sex. And remember you have sex with your whole body, not just with your dick. And finally the most difficult thing: Don't hurry, take your time. This guide will help you understand the anatomy of her arousal and pleasure [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/04/30/female-orgasm-101/) Getting some of this content into your head might help your confidence, as well as giving you practical guidance. But don’t try to absorb too many fine details of technique at one time, such that you end up feeling you’re going into an exam.

If you had the whole house free to have sex in

Start by cooking something simple together. (No judgment if you decide to plate your takeout on the good dishware.) After dinner, use the kitchen counter for a little dessert — its height and surface area make it perfect for a culinary Kama Sutra, especially if you have [Oral Sex Moves](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/05/18/oral-sex-moves/) in mind

BEWARE: This should go without saying, but the stove is off-limits. This is not what I mean by keeping things hot.

Nine months without eating my pussy

He should learn (we all had to at some point). First you need to talk to him about exactly what it is he doesn't like. Did he have a bad experience? Does the taste bother him (can't see how this is possible considering he used to eat you out)

If he won't give a reason and refuses to budge, there's always the option of a war of attrition. I don't see any reason why he should be getting head if you're not (you can keep having sex, just no blow jobs until he's man enough to get one).

Once he's willing to try, there are some simple ways to coax him along. Try this guide into alternating oral sex moves for both of you [Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/05/18/oral-sex-moves/)

We are never in the mood at the same time

If we’ve had a long day, are behind on deadlines, and all of a sudden our partner is in their underwear dancing before us (as I hear people do)? Do we force ourselves into it for the sake of the relationship? Yes. Well, sort of.

When one partner wants to have sex and the other does not, “communal strength” becomes an important factor. Communal strength is the motivation to meet a partner’s needs without “the expectation of immediate reciprocation.” It’s in the wanting to fulfill those sexual needs that not only does it protect the horny partner from being ignored, but these motivations led the communal people to be more likely to engage in sex with their partner in these situations and also led to both partners feeling more satisfied with their sex life and relationship.

It’s all about rising to the occasion and being selfless; knowing that if the tables were turned, your partner would do it for you. This communal strength is steeped in wanting to see your partner happy, and in doing so don’t feel coerced into something you may not be in the mood for. It’s essentially a compromise, which is what all relationships are, or at least should be.

If you schedule it as already suggested above things should workout fine.

Admittedly, it can be really hard to want to have sex if you’re just not feeling it, but these “tricky situations,” can be handled through being “mutually responsive. But seriously if you just can not with the sex some night, don’t push yourself. It’s one thing to be selfless, but it’s another thing to really put yourself out there to the point of resenting your partner for it.

You will also find this useful [Couples Guide To Increasing Quantity & Quality Of Sex](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/08/increasing-sex/)

sex life is so bland with my boyfriend

Yes. In order to develop a long-lasting, mature and adventurous sex life, you are going to have to tell each other what you want in bed and explore new ideas together. You are going to have to try new and different things and then discuss them and refine them together.

The key is to make the suggestions playfully and in the spirit of adventure and fun as opposed to making them in a criticizing way. For example, if you’d like him to improve on his oral and fingering skills, you might say “It would really turn me on if you finger and eat me out using these skills I came across through over Reddit. I’m wet just thinking about it”. But if you start complaining with “You’re so boring in bed, its not fun anymore”, he’ll get defensive and it will turn him off.

Of course the precise skills he would need to employ which are tailored for your satisfaction would be these [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/04/30/female-orgasm-101/)

Partners who are 'boring in bed' may just not be used to taking initiative when it comes to mixing it up sexually or there can simply be a lack of knowledge of how to make things more exciting.

This is because for most men the process of having sex is instinctual, but they do not know that the actual process of sexually satisfying a woman is actually counterintuitive and mostly they would have to learn it. Even more, learning to enjoy it.

Kissing after oral

Technically speaking, I couldn’t find anything it. If the area is properly washed, then there’s nothing wrong about making out after the deed. Though ideally you could take turns on each other see [Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/05/18/oral-sex-moves/)

Friend hints at wanting to fuck but I'm a virgin with a small dick

Most mistakes virgins make is measure their dicks, its unnecessary in most cases just like girls do not measure length shape of their vaginas. Trust me things will always work fine, unless if you have a medical situation, a thing I strongly doubt. If and only if you really are curious about your size make sure you do it right, thus measure it when it’s erect NOT WHEN IT’S FLACCID. The true measure is the erect ONE.

Besides there is an old saying: "It's the man, not the machine." In other words; it's not so important how big your dick is but it really matters how you make love with it.

And the key is communication! If you really listen to what your partner likes and you can explain what you like you'll have good sex. And remember you have sex with your whole body, not just with your dick.

And finally the most difficult thing: Don't hurry, take your time.

This guide will help understand the anatomy of her arousal and pleasure [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/04/30/female-orgasm-101/)

Good luck.

Wife wants to watch porn with me - Looking for recommendations

I see you got one of the rare opportunities to say what your fantasies are about. But this comes with caution, too deep the tickect will be revolked, too light then you miss on those deep stuff you have been dreaming about. The lighter way to approach it would be for me to recommend a book. It is the ultimate source for bringing erotic fantasy and intense sensual pleasure to life. The possibilities are limited only by imagination. Explore new territories, flip through the book and experiment with pieces, parts, or entire games and fantasies. You will get it here [Sexual Roleplays With Over 100 Demonstrated Sex Games](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/sexual-roleplays/)

How to be more dominant in bed?

In terms of whether or not to talk about it beforehand, it really depends on what you want to do. Some of the ideas below are things you could try out in the moment, while others are more involved. If you think your partner wouldn’t take your attempts to be dominant seriously in the moment, I definitely recommend talking about it beforehand. Say something like, “I love the dynamic we have, but I think it could be really hot to boss you around every once in awhile. You think you can handle me?” In general, I don’t think that talking about sexual stuff beforehand takes away the sex appeal. I think talking about what you’re going to do together can be an unbelievably hot tease!

THE STRAIGHTFORWARD APPROACH - Perhaps the easiest way to introduce the idea of dominating your partner is to simply tell them, “I’m going to be the one in control tonight.”

USE AUTHORITATIVE LANGUAGE - If you’re not going to be dominant physically, you have to convey your dominance in other ways. Language is one of the best examples. Tell your partner what you want, directly, with no apologies or explanations. Use a clear, firm voice.

INITIATE - Another simple way to dominate your partner is to initiate sex when you want it. After all, there’s nothing more dominant than stating what you want, with confidence. This is also an easy thing to do in the moment, without any planning. Grab your partner and say, “get into the bedroom right now.” If you want to be really bossy, try saying, “I won’t take no for an answer.”

GIVE THEM COMMANDS - From there, keep the dominance going by telling your partner, “You’re going to do what I tell you to do, and only what I tell you to do.” You can give specific directions like, “take off your clothes” or “go down on me.”

DOLE OUT PUNISHMENTS - If your partner doesn’t obey your directions, you may want to punish them. Most people think of whips and paddles when they hear the word punishment, but you can be much tamer if you’d like. For example, if your partner does something they’re not supposed to do, you could stop touching them, move your body away from them, or put some of your clothes back on.

USE DOMINANT POSITIONS - Sex positions can be another great way to play around with dominance. You don’t need to physically overpower your partner, but there are plenty of positions where you’re in control of the movement.

ROLE-PLAY - If you have a hard time being naturally dominant, you can always try playing a different persona. See [Sexual Roleplays with Over 100 Demonstrated Sex Games](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/07/sexual-roleplays/)

Is a prolonged Foreplay necessary before sex every single time?

Bypassing foreplay in favor of having a quickie can be great for both your sex life and your relationship. It's easy for quickies to get the cold shoulder because they might not open your heart as deeply as longer romps, but on the bright side, they also don't take hours of planning, warm-up, or communication. Sometimes squeezing in some sex against a wall is just what the doctor ordered. Or in a stair well, or in front of a mirror, or on the kitchen counter…you get the picture.

Maybe you and your partner are about to go your separate ways for work and the mood strikes you, or maybe they walk past you in a certain way when you were trying to concentrate on reading your book.

Really, it doesn't matter what the reason is. Quickies are simply amazing. Need some convincing to occasionally skip the extended foreplay?

THE LACK OF FOREPLAY CAN ACTUALLY BE THE FOREPLAY.

Imagine this: You step up to a ridiculously high-quality buffet where every single piece of food was created by a world-class chef with three Michelin stars. In scenario one, you have three hours to browse, sample, and nibble on all of the various tastes available to you. It's incredible. You feel so fortunate. And at the end, you're completely full and satisfied. In scenario two, you have access to all of the same high-quality, chef-prepared foods, but there's a timer going and you have FIVE MINUTES to stuff your face with all of this deliciousness. You don't even get cutlery or a plate. Just use your hands and cram it all in there.

The first scenario is what an all-evening, extended sex date feels like. You and your partner both get to take your time and truly savor the experience. But while the second scenario is likely going to be a lot less satiating in terms of total caloric intake, it's also going to feel like one of the most beastly, ravenous gorge-fests in your recent memory. You'll be left sweaty and messy, thinking, "That was amazing. I'm so glad I just dove right in there." That is the nature of the quickie. No planning. No napkins. Little to no manners. Just a sexual pleasure free for all. (This actually might be my favorite metaphor I've come up with to date.)

But not always, if sometimes she is up for it then do not feel guilt here you have [365 Sex Moves; Positions for Having Sex a New Way Everyday](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/18/365-sex-moves/)

What is some sex ed advice that could double as driver's ed advice

Hit the Books - it's helpful to do some studying. E.g [365 Sex Moves](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/365-sex-moves/)

Start Slow - Don't rush

The More Practice the Better - The more you practice, the better you'll become!

Feeling nervous about sex and intimacy

The good news is that although tips and tricks are handy, sex is still largely intuitive whatever genders or bodies it's between. You might find you surprise yourself...

Clitoral stimulation is how most women and people with vaginas achieve orgasm, but everybody's body is different: some people enjoy very fast friction directly to the clitoris, for instance, while others enjoy slow rubbing on the outer lips. Don't be put off if you have to go through a bit of trial and error with her.

GIVING HER ORAL SEX: This seems to be the bit that scares lovers the most. It's also the hardest aspect of girl-on-girl and vulva-on-vulva sex to give clear, one-size-fits-all advice on – sorry! Again, starting slowly is a good plan. Gently part their outer labia and lick up from the vaginal entrance to the clitoris (this has the added benefit of giving you chance to find the clit if you are having trouble – some people wear 'em buried deep!). Lick up and down the labia themselves. Focus on the clit and licking around it. Vary the pressure. Inserting a finger (if they're OK with that!)

Here you will find a step by step [Lesbian Sex Guide with Over 100 Illustrated Sex Positions](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/16/lesbian-sex-guide/)

I love my husband.

Biologically ability to sire triggers that primal urge in most men. Next time when getting it on with him try to dirty talk him and see him absolutely lose it when you use 'seed'. "Give me your seed", "seed my womb", "can you feel how my pussy begs for your seed", are but a few examples that will have you send him into some soul-shaking orgasms.

You got a keeper there check [Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/05/18/goddess-of-sex/)

I’m so jealous of the porn

Since you are the one who asks for sex he may be using masturbation as a way of desensitizing himself so that he can prolong sex and delay ejaculation ( a comment tactic used by most men ) thus more time for pleasing you but then you caught him before his reflex time. Surely his strategy is not working. His Masturbation is a sign of his lack of confidence in pleasing you. It has nothing to do with you (though you need to understand it least it eats into your self-esteem) . He has serious performance anxiety issues which he is trying to fix secretly. Lovingly you may actually help him deal with it. How you ask me?

One way to establish whether your man is simply trying to desensitize himself would be to bring him to orgasm manually, or orally, before having sex. A first orgasm means he won’t be so worried about premature ejaculation and the sex you have afterwards should be slower and more intimate as a result. This is obviously not something you can do every time you have sex, because it can be quite time- consuming.

If more orgasms equals more confidence in pleasing you, you need to reassure him and help to build his sexual confidence. But when to do it? Although it is never a good idea to address sexual difficulties during the act itself, the subject of sex makes great pillow talk.

Anyway a passionate erotic massage may help you get started in that direction check [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/erotic-massage/)

These are a few times I normally wish it was him who had asked the question and I was actually replying dealing with him, it would have helped him greatly if he was to read [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/04/30/female-orgasm-101/)

Good luck, do not give up!

My sex life is better without my fiancé in it

Make a point of setting aside time, to take turns giving each other massages. The masseuse is responsible for setting the sensual scene, which can be as simple as music and a candle, or as elaborate as a full blown day spa oasis. If you’re competitive together, you’ll soon start outdoing each other’s ideas. See [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/erotic-massage/)

For those men that struggle with romance, just convince him to do it once. When his senses come alive and he sees how the scene affects you, combined with the possibility of what comes after the massage, he might just become a converted romantic, for life. Though he would be better be converted if he was to read [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/02/female-101/)

Good luck, enjoy!

sexual compatibility as a top factor in relationship satisfaction

Ask 100 sexually active folks what “sex” means to them, and you’ll get 100 different answers. That’s because everyone has a different understanding of what “counts” as sex.

Some people see P-in-V as the defining feature of sex, while others see anal, oral, and manual sex as, well, sex.

There’s no wrong definition of sex. But having similar definitions of sex, or at least sharing your definitions, is an important element for operating within similar expectations sexually.

Being up-front about your sexual preferences (that likely requires some self-reflection!) is only way to know how sexually compatible you truly are. The top 3 for me are:

Specific sex acts: Do you more or less enjoy the same moves, or does everything you do in bed require that one of you compromises?

How often you do it: Just on anniversaries? A few times a month? Once a week? Multiple times a day? There’s no “right” or “normal” sex frequency, but you want to be in the same ballpark. Check [365 Sex Moves; Positions for Having Sex a New Way Everyday](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/365-sex-moves/)

Libido: Because libido waxes and wanes due to things like pregnancy, kids, work, health, environmental changes, and medications, most couples will face the challenge of mismatched libidos at some point.

I ruined everything with my dick

It is true you violated her you will need to do something for her, but seriously considering divorce is an overkill at least according to me. Unless of course if you have repeated this behavior or other related sneaking in kinds for some time. This could be now the proverbial straw which broke the…..etc

Having said this, what’s important is that you seriously apologize to her and bring up the subject matter with her to re-address it. Keeping silent about it is akin to sweeping the matter under the carpet and you would likely return to old ways ( though they are naughtily sexy). Instead, apologize and discuss new measures to be taken to restore trust in this matter. This can be tough but something like:

“I’m feeling regrets about what happened the other night, and I want you to know that I don’t want to go there again. Are you OK with that?”

Many couples wonder about the appropriateness of anal sex in marriage. It is important to note when it comes to sexual intimacy between husband and wife. When it comes to anal sex, what can guide a couple’s decision in this area is whether such an act is carried out in a mutually loving, respectful and consensual manner.

Do something for her without expecting reciprocation, but with the ability to further talk about you sexual boundaries giving you opportunity to see if with permission she will tolerate such an act in the future. She maybe currently annoyed because of consent that it is about the act being out of bounce. When the waters calm down a good place to start is with this step by step guide into [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/erotic-massage/)

GF doesnt do foreplay

For those women that struggle with romance, just convince her to do it once. When her senses come alive and she sees how the scene affects you, combined with the possibility of what comes after the massage, she might just become a converted romantic, for life.

penis massage

You have said it well and its true, you need to put your hands down. But having said that you may want her to put her hand up. How, you ask? Invest in some form of genital massage

For a pussy massage, I recommended setting a 60 minute timer. That’s because you’ll spend a good portion of that time building up to rubbing the vulva.

She does not need quite as much prep for a penis massage. She can start massaging the cock right away. So, set a timer for at least 30 minutes (though some people recommend 40). This way you will build the appetite for stimulation by her hands. It’s a process but am sure it will work if you are committed

I’m not trying to cheat anyone out of their fun, though. That’s just a minimum to ensure that your partner gets to relax deeply and have a good time that doesn’t feel like it’s been cut too short. But there’s no limit. You can go for the whole hour if you want — hell, you can do two if you’ve both got the stamina.

For a step by step guide about how to go about in this type of massage I recommend [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/11/30/erotic-massage/)

QUESTION ABOUT MY SIZE

14.2cm long? That is very much an idea size, In fact, due to the setup of our genital anatomy, a penis that’s on the smaller side should be able to do the job just as sufficiently as one that could have its own postcode. It’s important to keep in mind that intercourse isn’t the most pleasurable sexual activity for a woman. We don’t have many nerve endings in our vaginas, and the ones we do have are clustered near the opening of the vagina, not the deepest part, so a man doesn’t have to be very big to create pleasurable sensations. Most women tend to enjoy a sense of fullness, which comes from girth. That seems to be more important than overall length. So with your 12cm girth, you are well in the best gifted.

The trick is finding the right sex positions for your bodies. Slippage can sometimes be an issue, so sex positions that favour tight fits are best. Doggy style can be a good option. So too can modified missionary, where your guy scoots up a couple of inches before penetrating and uses a rocking motion instead of thrusts, and girl on top.

Just like someone in the comment above said it's not important how big your Junior is, it's how you use it that counts see [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/02/female-101/)

Help I am new to sexual stuff and need guidance

1. blindfold and handcuff him

2. Get yourself naked and inform him about it. Strip him to panties. Note do not remove his panties. That’s the important part here.

3. Kiss him from his forehead to his ankles.

4. Kiss around his penis keeping his panty on. His penis should be fully erect by now.

5. To start the fun. Bring your nipples near to his lips and ask him to suck, but every tine he trues to, pull your body back. Tease him.

6. Do the same thing by bringing your pussy over his mouth. Let him feel the wetness but never let his mouth take the charge. Always pull yourself back.

By the way you will definitely need this [Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/21/crazy-man/)

7. In-between do kiss and smooch him.

8. Bring ice cube and rub it over his body.

9. You may even put one inside his panty. If you do so. Make sure you then sit on him and make him feel the wetness of your pussy with the numbness of ice.

10. To get a bit mire daring. Get a blunt pointless knife and point it in his neck. Make sure it may not hurt him and knife should be rust less.

11. While poking with knife put one of your hand inside his panty and stroke his penis.

12. Run the knife around his nipples. Suck one and point knife on smoother and vice versa.

13. You may do the same around his penis but be most careful about it.

14. To get really kinky and weird. Light a candle and pour some wax over his chest. And later clean it and suck the pain out from that area.

15. Now if you want to try. Get his legs up and you may finger and rim his anus. Make sure to clean it.

16. Last but not the least, you may end with a blowjob or you being in top of him, make sure he is blindfolded and handcuffed till he cums.

Lack of Physical Intimacy

If you’ve ever been in a long-term relationship, this might sound familiar: You and your partner tumble into bed at the end of each day promising yourselves you’ll have sex tomorrow. Then that tomorrow-sex rarely comes, pun fully intended.

I often hear about how difficult it is to make time for intimacy. It’s why I swear by scheduling sex in relationships. This is exactly what it sounds like: sitting down with your partner and marking sex dates into your calendar.

Scheduling sex is an amazing way for partners to keep intimacy and satisfaction alive.

FIGURE OUT A DAY AND TIME THAT WORKS FOR BOTH OF YOU.

It sounds obvious, but you can’t schedule sex without this bit. I recommend that couples sit down together and carve out a time that works, whether it’s a standing sex date or something you need to decide anew each week. It feels like a more intentional step towards intimacy than scheduling via text and the like. Technology is great, but there’s really nothing like IRL face time.

Don’t just think about when it logistically makes sense, also think about when you might feel most emotionally and mentally engaged or turned on.

ACTUALLY PUT IT IN YOUR CALENDAR.

When you write your scheduled sex down, you’re granting it the same weight you’d give any other important appointment. So be sure it’s on both of your calendars. Even give it a designated color. I suggest hot pink or red. (You can guess why.)

BE FLEXIBLE ABOUT WHAT KINDS OF INTIMACY ARE INVOLVED.

Having a sex schedule does not mean you need to have intercourse every time (or ever). This isn’t really about sex. It’s about intimacy. Many—but not all—couples often do experience this through sex, while others don’t.

The point is scheduling time to engage in whatever activities make you feel more closely connected. Perhaps it’s a make-out session. Maybe one week it’s oral sex and the next you spend time playing with your partner’s hair and talking about your fantasies.

Check [Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/18/goddess-of-sex/)

This level of flexibility respects the fact that life happens. For example, I don’t expect you to toss aside a fight simply because sex is on the schedule. This flexibility also acknowledges that some people experience a more responsive form of desire and really only become aroused after seduction and sexual touching have begun. Scheduled sex is not about mandating a specific command performance, but creating a space where sex can happen if it’s right for you both at that time.

DO YOUR BEST TO STICK WITH THE SCHEDULE.

One of the biggest issues couples have with this process is not following through. It’s really up to the two of you to decide how committed you are to this schedule based on everything else going on in your lives.

Often there is a sense of pressure when you first start a sex schedule, which can scare you away. For some people, that drops off once they get used to it. But it may also take some playing around to land on a version of scheduling sex that works for you.

LEAN INTO THE ANTICIPATION.

Look, I get that “scheduled” can sound synonymous with “so dull I want to cry.” It’s not. While this tactic won’t work in every relationship, scheduled sex creates anticipatory excitement for some people. It sets the sex date into your routine along with the opportunity to explore new sexual terrain.

Scheduling sex might seem boring, but scheduling a date, party, or vacation doesn't make it less fun.

Long-lasting sexual excitement is built on the unknown, the new, and the exploration of fantasy. Capitalize on that here. You might think of a different, intriguing sex position. A good place to start is [365 Sex Moves; Positions for Having Sex a New Way Everyday](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/16/365-sex-moves/)

With all of the above said, if scheduling sex doesn’t work for you, don’t get down on yourself. It doesn't automatically mean your relationship is over or in trouble. It might not be your jam. This advice can still serve as a blueprint for becoming closer: Sit down. Communicate. And draw up a plan for quality time that might work better for you both.

Salvage a marriage without counseling?

THEN YOU WILL NEED TO RECONNECT INTIMATELY:

Thus, a vicious cycle begins:

1. Trust is broken.

2. You want to be intimate with your partner.

3. The thought of being intimate after betrayal then frustrates, repulses, or upsets you.

4. You draw away from your partner.

Being sexually intimate with one another creates an incomparable. The oxytocin released during sex makes you feel good about your partner and the relationship you created together.

Now if your marriage has taken a turn for the worse what kind of touching is still viable and easy to start on? Massage would be my go to answer and my recommendation for the book you need for just that kind of activity, and both of you will love the activity: [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/03/09/erotic-massage/)

How do I ask my boyfriend to stop talking during sex

Incessant chatter during sex is irritating because it is distracting, but that may, of course, be precisely the point. Your boyfriend may be using chit-chat as a way of desensitising himself so that he can prolong sex and delay ejaculation.

One way to establish whether your boyfriend is simply trying to distract himself would be to bring him to orgasm manually, or orally, before having sex. A first orgasm means he won’t be so worried about premature ejaculation and the sex you have afterwards should be quieter and more intimate as a result. This is obviously not something you can do every time you have sex, because it can be quite time- consuming.

If more orgasms equals less chat, you need to reassure him and help to build his sexual confidence. But when to do it? Although it is never a good idea to address sexual difficulties during the act itself, the subject of sex makes great pillow talk.

Anyway more intimate sex positions may help you start get started in that direction check [Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/affectionate-sex/)

Need help spicing things up

TRY KUNYAZA- Kunyaza’ is a practice that’s been exercised for hundreds of years between heterosexual couples in central Africa. During kunyaza, the man rhythmically and firmly strikes the clitoral glands with his erect penis.

As the woman becomes more aroused and the vulva starts to swell, their partner rubs their penis from the top to the bottom of the vulva, then left to right, and then in a zigzagging motion – always returning to strike the clitoris after each rotation. Finally, as the woman is brought close to orgasm, their partner simultaneously stimulates the whole vulva area using long strokes... but never penetrating. The technique itself may sound deceptively simple, but kunyaza literally means ‘to make urinate’, or ‘to make squirt’.

As for you, manual stimulation and oral would be the better option and all the ideas you would need are here [Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/oral-sex-moves/)

When does lesbian bed death happen

Lesbian bed death isn't exactly a proven concept. It occurs like in every other relationship but the study that provided the proof of lesbian bed death was riddled with methodical flaws. It equated frequency of intercourse with a good sex life. And did not take into account factors like if both partners received an orgasm or how long the sex lasted. Later studies illustrated the difference quite clearly. Women in relationships with women have longer sex when they do but aren't as frequent as straight couples. The satisfaction of sex life is higher and a higher number of women in relationships with women reported orgasm during sex than their straight counterparts.

But that said bed death is something that happens to most couples. And it is a challenge! One should try to make an effort to spice things up or try to communicate with your partner. Maybe try and find new ways of having sex that is still new and exciting. Check [Lesbian Sex Guide with Over 100 Illustrated Sex Positions](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/16/lesbian-sex-guide/)

Why black cocks are so BIG?

In brief, on average, black men do have somewhat longer penises at rest, but when it comes to erection white men have it somewhat longer as a gross general rule, with White Arabs and also very Nordic people being the champions. It must also be said that in Africa and elsewhere among Blacks more recipes (comprising both the use of plants and of contentions forcing the member to grow) are to be found resulting in penis enlargement to a desired size, as part of greater general tendency for blacks to practice various body sculpturing and modifications through scarification, exercize, substances or otherwise : the Black body far from being the most natural and primitive is as a rule the most elaborated upon by culture.

Thus some very particular groups of Africans, like some Mandinka, may have just frightening large male endowments but beyond a certain size it has more to do with ritual considerations or male group initiation than about sexual enjoyment, as beyond that certain size it makes normal sex act quite problematic and forces the man to renouncement, an effect desired as such by such groups. But such extreme cases are statiscally negligible despite the resulting attraction of ethnologists and tourists, and always the result of culture, not nature. It must be also reminded that in nearly all instances the more naked is a tribe or an ethnic group in Africa the less it is dependent on sexual activity for life enjoyment except at very specific quite rare collective events and that it can even be a token of chaste life or of more sublimated forms of sexuality not unlike tantra.

Many white girls are damn certain that black men have it longer thanks to their personal experiences but when you as a white girl fantasize about Blacks you attract a very specific kind of Blacks, not the reality of the greater Black population you meet with at a greater distance. That can happen in the reverse direction : black girls fantasying about the more generous endowments of certain types of privileged whites and actually attracting what they fantasize about, some Arabs and some muscled Nordics being the object of their fantasies.

More about sex and fantasies? Get [Sexual Roleplays With Over 100 Demonstrated Sex Games](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/sexual-roleplays/)

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Too Fat to Have Sex with Thin Wife

If she is small the your options are quite many and unlimited, why not try Doggy Style, The Butterfly, Spooning Position, Reverse Cowgirl, etc. the complete list with illustrations of how to do it for plus size people is [here](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/plus-size/)

Good luck, enjoy!

How do you give oral sex

Kiss and lick down his chest and stomach. Undo his belt and/or unbutton his pants. Kiss back up to him and place your hand on his bulge. Gently squeeze. Give him a deep kiss on the lips and travel back down. Take off his pants and underwear (or leave them on) and get ready for the action.

THE BJ - Awww yeah, the good part.

Positions: there are multiple positions you can choose from:

Him laying down with you scooched between his legs

Him sitting and you kneeling in front of him

Him standing with you kneeling in front of him, etc.

It’s up to you and your partner to decide which position is best – here you will find [Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/oral-sex-moves/)

THE MOVES

Have fun with this! Enjoy it and I promise he will too. :)

The sensitive spots: the areas around his penis are sensitive and need a little attention.

Tease him a little bit. Gently kiss and/or lick his inner thighs and lower stomach (below the naval).

The shaft: the main part of the show. It’s what you’ll mostly be focusing on throughout your entire performance.

Slide your flat tongue from the base to the top of the head (and over the frenulum).

Lick your lips and slide them along the shaft. Make out with it a little.

Keep your lips tight around the shaft while you move up and down. It creates a “vacuum” effect which feels really nice for him.

Be gentle! Please don’t use your teeth. If you have to, cover your bottom teeth with your tongue to prevent anything bad from happening!

Use your tongue! Don’t let it lay in your mouth like a dead fish. Lick all around his shaft. Circle it around the head.

Be sure to use your hands to your advantage. Grip his penis and move it up and down in sync with your mouth. Be sure there’s enough lube (see: saliva) for it to glide up and down smoothly. Dry rubs may be good for steak, but not for your man’s dick. Use both hands if you want!

Gently suck on the head of his penis while your hand moves up and down.

The balls: these babies need some lovin’ too.

Gently massage them while you are working his shaft.

Don’t be afraid to use your mouth on them! And again, please no teeth! These guys are super sensitive so licking and gently (and I mean geeently) sucking on them should feel great for your man.

Lick/suck his balls while you stroke his cock.

THE FINALE

I suggest discussing how/where he will finish in advance with your partner. Now isn’t the time for an awkward “Uhhh, where should I cum? Is it okay if I cum in your mouth?”

SWALLOWING: this can be slightly tricky. You may not like the taste or the texture. You may not want him to cum in your mouth for various reasons. YOU DON’T HAVE TO SWALLOW. Yes, it is easier clean up and a good portion of guys find it hot (see: porn), but again, only do what you want to do.

SPITTING: there are days when I don’t want to swallow. You can let him cum in your mouth, then spit it out in the sink/in a towel/whatever you fancy, or, you can let it drip down his cock and it can be cleaned up afterwards.

Anyway for more detailed steps check the guide in the link I gave above!

Want to give bf a blowjob while he plays videogames

Time for you to initiate, but I know grabbing his crotch is kind of a big step. Next time he is playing the video game, rub his thigh. Rub his tummy. Lie with your head in his lap and keep stroking. Get dangerously close to his junk. Then touch it "accidentally". Then touch him through his jeans purposely. If subtle doesn't work, but you feel silly saying "Hey, I'm going to give you a bj," you could also just tell him you want to "Try something." ;)

From there on, just have fun. He'll be happy just to have it in your mouth.

Guys often feel self conscious about asking for one as they realize that not all girls like to give them. Therefore if you can give him one without waiting to be asked he will be very pleased.

Initiating a blow job without being asked is undoubtedly one of the loveliest ways to please your guy. He will love you for it!

If pleasing him is what you are aiming for then you will definitely need this [Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/18/goddess-of-sex/)

My bf asked if we could have sex with our baby next to us

It is very much normal and common but do not feel pressured if you are not comfortable. Should you wish to have sex in the same room as your baby, remember:

ENSURE THAT THE BABY IS NOT IN BED WITH YOU

This is a definite no-no. Not only is it dangerous for the little one, but it may also be crossing a boundary that will see you placed on some kind of register for the rest of your life. Sometimes the passion can take over when you are embraced with your lover, but remember, the baby could become crushed or lodged during the act of love making. It is safer for the baby to be anywhere else in the bedroom than in the bed when the mood is right – their crib is obviously the safest place, but the floor, window sill or on top of the wardrobe are also alternative options.

IF DIRTY TALK IS YOUR THING, CHOOSE YOUR WORDS WISELY OR SAY NOTHING AT ALL.

Becoming a parent litters your world with sexual innuendos that you try to ignore on a daily basis. There is no worse time for one of these to crop up than when you are getting down and dirty with your partner(s) of choice. If, during the throes of passion, you wish to vocalize your excitement, do not, and I repeat, DO NOT say anything that could be misconstrued. “Who’s your daddy” or “do you like that, baby”, for instance, are definite no-nos.

IT IS FINE WHEN THE BABY IS A BABY, BUT NOT WHEN THEY ARE A TODDLER, CHILD, TWEENAGER OR TEENAGER.

Babies do not know what is going on at the best of times. They cannot comprehend or understand what is happening, which makes it pretty OK to have a bit of rumpy pumpy if they are in the same room as you. But, do not start having sex when you are in the same room as your kid when they are a bit older.

DON’T CONFUSE A DUMMY WITH A SEX TOY

It may have a phallic like teet, but steer clear of incorporating a dummy into your fun and games. No-one over toddler age looks good sucking on one, whilst a dummy offers very little in terms of length or girth. If the need arise do everyone a favour and buy a sex toy to satisfy your needs rather than experimenting with whatever you find next to you. If you accidentally or purposefully disregard this piece of advice, please remember to sterilise the dummy before and after future use.

By the way, Congratulations on your baby plus on resuming sex so fast, it's important to keep mixing things up too, trying things out and approaching things from new angles here are [Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/affectionate-sex/)

ashame of being naked in front of a woman because she will see my hairy butt, my butthole and when I have an erection my dick has some curve shape?

Many men have hair on their buttocks and around their anus–it's quite normal and natural. The hair on your butt does serve a purpose; it helps minimize friction and chafing while also keeping the area ventilated and dry.

The curve means an advantage when it comes to stimulating all the right spots for toe-curling, full-body orgasms: the G-spot, A-spot, and prostate. Pro tip: You can keep it simple with any variation of the missionary position and still rock their world thanks to that curve.

All in all do not be ashamed, those are your advantages just as she is not ashamed of her boobs or vagina for that matter let alone her butt. Take pride in your body. At the beginning of the relationship thogh, before getting used to each other, it is better to choose sex positions which flatter your bodies and most of them you will find here [365 Sex Moves; Positions for Having Sex a New Way Everyday](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/18/365-sex-moves/)

My Fiance(24m) has a higher libido than me(27f) and its our one issue

For everyone in a long-term relationship, this often sound familiar: You and your partner tumble into bed at the end of each day completely exhausted, promising yourselves you’ll have sex tomorrow. Then that tomorrow-sex rarely comes, pun fully intended.

I often hear about how difficult it is to make time for intimacy while leading hectic lives. It’s why I swear by scheduling sex in relationships. This is exactly what it sounds like: sitting down with your partner and marking sex dates into your calendar.

Many call this “maintenance sex,” which...doesn’t sound sexy, I know. But for some people, scheduling sex is critical for maintaining a healthy relationship, hence the moniker.

Even though sex is typically so, so vital for relationship happiness, people often let it fall by the wayside. Scheduling sex is an amazing way for partners to keep intimacy and satisfaction alive.

Sex is part of the glue holding you together, it deserves some respect and dedication. But there’s this very pervasive and annoying myth that sex should just happen. For a lot of people, sex in long-term relationships generally doesn’t work that way. And that’s fine!

HOW TO ACTUALLY SCHEDULE SEX

FIGURE OUT A DAY AND TIME THAT WORKS FOR BOTH OF YOU.

It sounds obvious, but you can’t schedule sex without this bit. sit down together and carve out a time that works, whether it’s a standing sex date or something you need to decide anew each week. It feels like a more intentional step towards intimacy than scheduling via text and the like. Technology is great, but there’s really nothing like IRL face time.

Don’t just think about when it logistically makes sense, also think about when you might feel most emotionally and mentally engaged or turned on.

ACTUALLY PUT IT IN YOUR CALENDAR

BE FLEXIBLE ABOUT WHAT KINDS OF INTIMACY ARE INVOLVED

The point is scheduling time to engage in whatever activities make you feel more closely connected. Perhaps it’s a make-out session. Maybe one week sex and the next you spend time playing with your partner’s hair and talking about your fantasies.

Also massage does the trick and this guide will greatly help you in that [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/erotic-massage/)

So, talk about what scheduling sex really encompasses. Be willing to compromise so both of you are satisfied. What’s most important is setting aside time for you two to be together and focus on your relationship.

DO YOUR BEST TO STICK WITH THE SCHEDULE

There is often a sense of pressure when you first start a sex schedule, which can scare you away. For some people, that drops off once they get used to it. But it may also take some playing around to land on a version of scheduling sex that works for you.

LEAN INTO THE ANTICIPATION

Doing so can add to the enjoyment because you can put more thought into it and benefit from that spicy anticipation. On top of all of that, occasional spontaneous sex rather than your typical scheduled sex becomes even more exciting because it's so novel.

Long-lasting sexual excitement is built on the unknown, the new, and the exploration of fantasy. Capitalize on that here. You might think of a different, intriguing sex position see [Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/09/affectionate-sex) or pick up some cute new underwear for the occasion. You can even text your partner something like, “I can’t wait for our Monday night date. I bought something for us to try.”

I want rough sex

Having a sit-down talk with your partner beforehand is not only essential, it also actually makes it much easier in the moment when you are experimenting with said rougher sex, because you know you have limits and boundaries in place that you’ll both respect. That peace of mind can make it way easier to enjoy yourself in the moment, giving more of your attention to your pleasure and satisfaction.

Asking for rougher sex really does just boil down to having an actual Grown Ups Using Potentially Formal-Sounding Words discussion with your partner. It’s not as simple as just saying, “Be rougher!” because that could mean 40 different things and odds are, you’ll only want it to mean a very specific few things. Here’s how to do that.

Another great way is to select sex positions which brings out the animal in him ( e.g. positions which gives him an erotic view of you ). A good place to start is checkout these [365 Sex Moves](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/365-sex-moves/)

DISCUSS LIMITS BEFOREHAND

What’s on the table and what’s off the table for you? Don’t be afraid to ask specifically for what you would like to try, and see what your partner thinks. If you are planning to try something new, such as spanking, impact play, biting, or scratching, make sure to discuss your intentions first with your partner. You’ll also want to set up a safe word ahead of time, so you both have an out if things go too far.

START OFF WITH SOME IMPACT CALIBRATION

Have your partner begin with some pressure and rate the feeling on a scale of 1 to 5 so you can let them know how much harder or softer to get. After all, “harder” or “softer” can have a bajillion levels in between (not to mention different meanings for each person), so this is a good way of quantifying exactly where the sweet spot you’re looking for is.

Is my marriage slowly failing or am I failing as a husband

You are not failing your family, neither is she sabotaging you. But that does not mean that your marriage is not in need of work. Very easy to fix, but only when you start seeing the real problem. This might come as a surprise for you, but after nine long months, you’re overwhelmed by the love you feel for your newborn -- and shocked to find how much havoc that bundle of joy is wreaking in the bedroom. If both of you as a couple are feeling less than lusty after having a baby, you’re not alone. It’s completely normal for both women and men’s libido to hit a rock-bottom low during the first six to nine months following the birth of your baby

There’s one emotional snare that many new parents fall prey to: A lot of us wind up transferring our emotional energy to our kids versus expressing it as a couple.

Much of it has to do with oxytocin, the bonding chemical we release when we hug, make love... and breastfeed. Directly after giving birth, the mother winds up getting her oxytocin from her kid. Thus couples disconnect, emotionally and physically.

To get back on track, start talking -- and touching -- right away to raise your oxytocin levels. Even in the first six weeks, when intercourse is frowned upon, set up time to give each other a massage or a foot rub.

And don’t be afraid to be opportunistic about sex, whether that means setting a sex date or taking advantage of baby's naps. Even if it’s a quickie, it’s important.

It’s easy to forget how much time and effort we put into our relationships in the early days: planning for dates, caring for our bodies and (gasp) having long conversations with one another.

People feel sort of sad when they get that news that yes, it does require effort to build a connection across a lifetime. You don’t just dive in — you don’t just put your body in the bed and put your genitals against each other and expect for it to be ecstatic.

Think of building good sexual habits just like you would develop good eating or exercising habits.

Sex begets more sex. Kind of like when you go to the gym. It takes you a while to build that habit.

You’ll notice little by little that it becomes more and more as opposed to less and less.”

This guide will help you, but maybe if you were to go through it as a couple [Better Sex in No Time: A Guide for Busy Couples](https://sexhacks.wordpress.com/2020/05/03/better-sex/)

What is the use of vaginal sex if you get an orgasm through the clitoris

This is because pleasure comes bundled up in various colors, thus there are :

Clitoral- These orgasms are often felt on the surface of the body, like a tingly feeling along your skin and in your brain.

Vaginal - These orgasms are deeper in the body and can easily be felt by the person penetrating the vagina because the vaginal walls will pulse.

Combo - When the vagina — particularly the G-spot — and the clitoris are stimulated at the same time, it tends to result in a more explosive movie-style orgasm that may have convulsing or literally ejaculation .

Tackling the elusive vaginal orgasm

Vaginal orgasm is often misconstrued as the “best” way for women to orgasm, but it’s often the most difficult for ladies. Instead of a penis, try fingers or a sex toy. Insert the fingers or toy into the vagina and make a “come hither” motion toward the belly button.

There’s a point of pleasure on this wall called the G-spot and when you hit it with regular, strong pressure, it can lead to orgasm. Stimulation of the G-spot is also the way to lead to female ejaculation, as it stimulates the Skene’s glands on either side of the urethra. Read https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/05/female-ejaculation/

Vaginal orgasm

Mimic the “come hither” or circular motion, rather than an in-and-out movement.

Repeat motions that feel good so that the feelings will build up.

My 2 year marriage is lacking sex and intimacy

The truth about sex is that, while there are certainly those legendary couples who have sex five times a week every week, most people in long-term relationships experience periods where they just don’t have sex all that often. And though the frequency of sex might dip, the quality of sex can and should increase. So what do you do if you find yourself in a sexless marriage? A first step would be working through any areas of resentment in the relationship and fostering emotional closeness through increased time together, intimate conversation, and affection. Feeling relaxed during sexual encounters is key to sexual responsiveness. Also check [Lesbian Sex Guide with Over 100 Illustrated Sex Positions](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/01/lesbian-sex-guide/). Anxiety, tends to kill the mood, leading to less sex. From there, set up a sex schedule to help get things back on track. Most couples have a discrepancy in sex drives, which can often lead to a lack of regular sex. Creating a ‘sex schedule’ of one to three times per week can be a perfect solution.

Why do guys like playing with themselves in the shower

Any expert will tell you that most highly-sexed men – particularly young men – will often choose to masturbate despite being in good, sexually loving relationships.

This is how most guys are. They tend to be more highly charged sexually than women, and they also tend to enjoy the quick, reliable and intensely centred orgasm they get from 'doing it themselves'.

They like the sheer physical intensity and the brevity of it – and the fact that they can be selfish and not have to worry about making the experience great for a partner. See https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/02/multi-orgasm/

So, most likely, the fact that your man might want to masturbate from time to time is nothing whatever to do with your sex life or your relationship

So, if I were you, I would simply accept that this is how lots of men are.

It takes most of us a while to fully understand the sexual needs of our partners.

Best positions to eat a girl out

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/hv2jdp/best_positions_to_eat_a_girl_out/

Get her all the way to the edge of the bed. She should be lifting up her upper body with elbows and head back, relaxed. Have her bend one leg up on the bed. You will kneel before her (or sit on your feet), grab her by the hips and go to town like a champ. If you so wish, you can have two free hands during this position. USE THEM. Not only down there, but softly stroke her legs, cup her breasts, hold hands… you get the idea. Here too you will find [Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/11/oral-sex-moves/) . Don’t be scared to keep them in your nightstand for reference. It would be a secret punch card ― follow only part of the guide and you earn the title Master of Sex!

My girlfriend yawned during sex the other day! Help!

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/hty2m7/my_girlfriend_yawned_during_sex_the_other_day_help/

It is quite common place in most relationships than you would think. She was caught up with her brain in the cookie jar wandering down the chore list while being eaten out. She might be feeling disconnected or she is just bored with the same ole thing. There is no need to confront her, just steer the ship in the right direction will do the trick. I suggest trying [some different positions](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/16/365-sex-moves/) or having sex in a different room to mix things up and see if she gets her mojo back. I would recommend you too sharpen your skill this guide is a very wonderful place to start: [Female Ejaculation; Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/17/female-ejaculation/)

So ummm i just found this sub, Where can i get my proper sex education?

https://www.reddit.com/r/badwomensanatomy/comments/htxmvj/so_ummm_i_just_found_this_sub_where_can_i_get_my/

My answer is assuming that you are male and you need sex education to help you understand the opposite sex better. The recommendation given will mainly focus on understanding the female body but briefly covers understanding your own machinery. Learning about the functions of each organ and how these organs work together allows you to be aware of the female body. Learning about a woman's sexual responses may also make you more comfortable with her body. If you understand what happens to the female body when she is sexually excited, you may be able to improve your sexual experiences with her. A woman's sexual responses change throughout her life cycle. In part, this is due to her changing levels of experience and self-knowledge, but there are also physical changes as her body matures. A good place to start learning about the female sexual response and how to have sex focused on pleasing her I recommend the book: [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/04/30/female-orgasm-101/)

My boyfriends cum is bitter, I don’t have the heart to tell him.

You don't have to swallow, if u don’t want to. The major reason why men want girls to swallow their semen because men see swallowing sperm as an acceptance of their body, taste and smell. When a woman **swallows sperm** after an ejaculation, men see this as a very intimate act which makes them feel special.

But you have more options and still make him happy and satisfied - (1) Take the load in your mouth and spit, but this will give you more taste of the fluid (in case you don’t like the taste). (2) Close your mouth when he is about to release and take it over your face, neck or boobs. (3) Take his p3nis deep inside and make him release his load directly in your throat, so that you don’t have to taste it.

Meanwhile, make a deal with him. Talk to him. If you don’t like his taste and still he wants you to swallow ask him to stop smoking, drinking, tobacco, eating pungent, bitter, spicy or smelly foods, etc. and he must take more sweet fruits like apples, pineapples, coconuts, mango, banana, etc. Eating more fruits will make his semen sweet and perhaps you will then like to swallow.

Meanwhile, if you looking for reasons to swallow then check out these health benefits:

1. Natural anti-depressant.

2. Natural anxiety reducer.

3. Improves quality of sleep.

4. Increases energy.

5. Improves concentration.

6. Improves memory.

7. Improves mental alertness.

8. Assists with pregnancy maintenance.

9. Increases female-initiated sexual behavior.

10. Reduces pain.

11. Many spas and salons across the world have integrated semen into their treatments on the basis that it will lead to healthier hair and more youthful skin.

Although swallowing semen may be a taboo in some societies, people are now slowly realizing the health benefits of swallowing fresh male semen. I understand that it may not taste good to some, but who asks you to chew and taste it like an ice cream, just swallow baby. Having said so, it may also be a medium of passing infection and STD. So be careful of your man...lol.

Remember a healthy semen contains Calcium, Chloride, Fructose, Glucose, Lactic Acid, Magnesium, Potassium, Protein, Sodium, Zinc. So, there you see a daily shot fulfills your requirement of healthy nutrients. Some medical experts also believe that one semen shot taken is equal to one large glass of milk shake.

Lastly, by the way you would seriously appreciate this guide into [Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/05/18/goddess-of-sex/)

So have fun, give your man the fun and enjoyment he loves and stay healthy with his semen.

Sexy suggestions

https://www.reddit.com/r/sexover30/comments/htxeil/sexy_suggestions/

I think the best way to spice up and revump your sex life in an intimate way is massage. Everyone loves a massage, right? Massages are even better with a partner and they are a great way to spice up your sex life and do something different. There is no need to be worried or intimidated about giving your partner an erotic massage, following this [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/erotic-massage/) will help bring an extra level of fun and sensuality to your relationship. If you and your partner want to spice up your sex life without going to the extreme, why not put erotic massage in that suggestion box and It can make all the difference.

Can anyone relate to this? Too ugly for casual sex?

https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/htwp6b/can_anyone_relate_to_this_too_ugly_for_casual_sex/

From your descriptions both in earlier life and now I can see that you are creative. I will take your word for it that indeed you are ugly (though I have strong reservations for jumping to this conclusion, but I am agreeing for the sake of making my answer short )

Following what you said, I have both good and bad news. I will start with bad news.

BAD NEWS

Yeah since you are college, most college girls are more or less driven by peer pressure and for that looks matters, that is why you are questioning your appearances. To some extent I will agree that what you say could be true “if I were to get into a relationship she may appreciate my personality, but she won't respect me because I'm ugly and she'd feel like I have no other options “. In college this may be true where group mentality counts higher than what the individual may actually deeply craves. So it may be difficult for you to separate a real lover with a girl simply desperate for a boyfriend whom she know she can control.

GOOD NEWS

In real life where majority of ladies are, notice am not saying girls but ladies, the scales shift drastically. Most ladies are more realistic to themselves and would choose a man not based on what is bothering you right now. All the reason you see disparities between the attractiveness of couples involved.

WHY????

In the ruthless world of the mating game, plain-looking men instinctively know that being funny, smart or poetic helps to compensate for an unbeautiful exterior.

That gut feeling gained scientific validation from an unusual study. Average-looking men become more alluring when women sense the man has an imaginative spark. The study recruited a batch of volunteers who looked at pictures of men, rating each on the basis of their physical looks alone. Armed with this benchmark of beauty, they then submitted the same pictures to another group of volunteers – but this time provided clues about the subjects’ creativity.

Attached to each picture were mini exercises in the imagination. It is perhaps an indicator that looks fade and in the end it does not matter as you will always be left with the personality of someone. The results showed that men with less attractive faces get a big boost in the popularity contest if they show a creative touch. Creative guys with less attractive faces were almost identical in attractiveness to really good looking guys who were not as creative.

For women, though, the news is not so good. Looks remain paramount .In one experiment, creativeness did nothing to boost the allure of attractive women – and it even reduced the appeal of less attractive women.

Why would women rate creativity among men so highly? This is because of evolutionary biology – the hidden criteria that drive us to seek the best mate for ensuring healthy offspring and their survival.

Women on average are a more selective sex when it comes to choosing romantic partners. Imagination and inspiration may be “a proxy for intelligence. Creativity is thought to be a signal that an individual can invest time and effort into a particular task or can see things in novel ways that may be useful for survival.

That means nerds and poets are at a big disadvantage in online dating, where decisions to swipe left or right – to shun or show interest – are often based on just a glance. Certain platforms that we have now for dating might not be favorable for assessing people on more complex attributes. The allure of creativity may not be limited to potential romantic partners, but extend to potential friends too, the study found.

None of women is beyond flattery and, strangely enough, a big, fat, ugly man has a much better chance of charming his way under women’s defences and into their lives because when they meet him they couldn't possibly imagine going to bed without him

And it's not true to say that women do not care about looks. Of course they do. But even the most handsome man looks plain after waking up next to him for a month if he does not have an inner beauty.

Most women would swap a six-pack for a sweet, fat, furry tummy any day if it had the right man behind it.

Women and men are different. Yes, we're all attracted to beauty, but for men it can be more sustaining than it is for women.

Let's face it, the streets are not lined with handsome men squiring ugly girls. Life just doesn't work like that.

SO STOP BEATING YOURSELF, EVEN THERE IN COLLEGE there are plenty of girls who are looking for a guy just like you, but they wont know him unless you decide to resume your personality traits which I already admire of: “People seem to naturally listen to me. I regularly get complimented on my personality and don't have a hard time making female friends. I'm always getting told how funny and fun to be around I am.”

That is the charm I explained above

The most mistake is that most guys think women are like them be it in attraction or sex preferances, that is why even with couples married for 20 years I still recommend men to read [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/02/female-101/)

Completely counterintuitive for most men

Roleplay gone so right

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/htvtb0/roleplay_gone_so_right/

Role playing can be an excellent indicator of feeling emotionally and physically safe with a sexual partner. Roleplay can be a deeply healing experience and can deepen the relationship or strengthen the individual.

It’s a very powerful way to express yourself and your desires.

Just because you like to be someone else during sex doesn’t mean you’re damaging your relationship and the life the two of you have outside of the boudoir.

Roleplaying in the bedroom does not mean it will bleed into your outside life. Relinquishing or grabbing control by the horns for one night (or every night) does not mean you and your partner will become two actors unable to shed off their roles.

ROLEPLAY INDICATES TRUST

The key to successful, healthy roleplay is trust. Without it, boundaries can be crossed and lines eviscerated.

It’s about mutual respect and an understanding that this is the exploration of certain, intimate fantasies, and at the end of the day, the most crucial, fundamental element is consent.

With this self-expression comes the opportunity for acceptance and validation from your partner, leading to a more emotional, intimate connection. The sexual confidence and lowered inhibitions needed during roleplaying is only achieved through a tremendous amount of safety and trust within a relationship.

If you can engage in roleplay confidently, you’re not proving yourself to be some sexual pariah; you’re actually proving you have complete faith in both your partnership and your lover.

If you can feel comfortable opening yourself up to that kind of vulnerability, you’re reaffirming your connection to each other.

IF YOU CAN ROLEPLAY, YOU ARE COMMUNICATING

If you’re in tune with yourself sexually, you’re on a much more enlightened path.

You should feel relaxed enough in your relationship to be able to ask your partner for what you want without shame.

ROLEPLAY KEEPS THAT SPARK ALIVE

Roleplay is also a great way to spice things up in the bedroom. You are both committed to each other and have grown used to being with each other.

Shaking things up a little bit can be exciting. Just be sure you’re presenting this as an invigorating experience, not as a substitution for something missing.

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How do I help my partner eat me out better?

Oral sex is the crème de la crème for vulva owners. It's the top sexual act for successfully reaching orgasm. Having a partner's full concentration on your clitoris, vulva, and vagina allows you to lie back and enjoy the pleasure to the fullest.

Even though some people are a little apprehensive about oral sex, consider being open to exploration. Getting up close and personal with your partner's taste and smell, and figuring out how they like to be touched, licked, and rubbed can be sexy.

There are so many ways to receive (and give) oral sex. It's exciting to figure out which oral sex positions work for you and your partner.

TIP:

Be sure to communicate clearly and honestly about what you like and don't like. Verbal communication means both people get what they want.

THE CLASSIC

There is nothing like a tried-and-true classic. Just because something is a go-to doesn't make it any less awesome. This position allows the giver lots of full-vulva access. With ample access to the clit and vagina.

The receiver lies on their back with knees bent on the bed. You can choose to lie your knees in a spread butterfly position or play with different leg positions for different sensations. The giver kneels or lies between their legs. If you want a little more lift, put a pillow under the receiver's hips. This can help take some strain off giver's neck and giving him better access to the vagina.

THE EDGE OF REASON

This position is an all-access pass to the vulva. The receiver lies flat on their back with their butt right at the edge of the bed/counter/couch. The giver kneels (or stands, depending on height) on the floor facing their vulva.

The giver can stick a cushion under their knees for extra padding. If you want, the receiver can put their feet on the giver's shoulders for a little more balance, or they can let their legs dangle. This position frees up the giver's hands for some penetration, nipple stimulation, or tongue sex.

THE CAPTAIN

Lean your back against the wall or a door. Have your partner kneel in front of you and go down on you. If it's comfortable, place a foot or leg on your partner's shoulder to give them more access to your clitoris.

Whichever position you choose off the oral sex menu, have fun with it. Sure, not everything will work for you, but exploring is half the fun. Here you will find : <a href=" https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/19/oral-sex-moves/ "> Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated </a>

Paralyze after sex?

If it’s as you say that “her legs are paralyzed after they tremble”, this does not sound normal. But what I know to be normal is LEG CRAMPS and I also have a feeling that this is what you meant, thus I will explain with the LEG CRAMPS scenario in mind. ( Leg cramps usually feel like a painful knot on the leg muscle and renders it momentarily immobile. common in the calf muscle, but they can also happen in the thighs or feet. Normally, leg cramps last just a few moments before the muscle loosens up.)

Feel free to disregard the rest of my answer below if paralysis scenario is correct.

Leg cramps, their occurrence is telling me that she holds a lot of tension in her thighs, calves, and feet when she is building up to or having orgasms. Perhaps if she relaxes those parts of her body during sex, her orgasms, and her leg cramps will decrease. Her legs seem to be working hard to help her orgasm, so perhaps they need to stand down or be supported by something.

Another good way to relieve tension in her muscles is to do some erotic massage during foreplay, she will appreciate it and her orgasms will be less exhausting to the muscles. You will also find this <a href=" https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/11/30/erotic-massage/ "> Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide </a> really helpful.

And though counterintuitive, flexing her foot (rather than pointing it) should relieve the tension. Otherwise, she should drink a lot of water and share her secrets to her orgasmic success with all her friends.

The Benefits of Having Sex More Often?

Feeling unhappy and regret in a marriage is normal. All relationships have ups and downs, happy seasons and difficult seasons, agreements and disagreements. For most people, marriage is harder work than they anticipated, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t worth the investment.

Personally I am married and in a supportive relationship with lots of sex…lol.Aas you know there are many benefits to having more sex. Higher rates of sexual activity are linked to positive changes, such as lower blood pressure, reduced stress, greater intimacy, and even a lower divorce rate.

Although frequency often decreases with age, sexual activity in older adults remains important. In general, older married couples tend to have sex more often than unmarried peers within the same age group.

Some of these benefits include:

BETTER SELF-IMAGE

Sex can boost self-esteem and reduce feelings of insecurity, leading to more positive perceptions of oneself.

MORE BONDING

Brain chemicals are released during sex, including endorphins, which decrease irritability and feelings of depression. Another hormone, oxytocin (the "hug drug") increases with nipple stimulation and other sexual activity. Oxytocin helps foster a sense of calmness and contentment.

RELIEF FROM STRESS

Chronic stress may contribute to lower sex frequency. However, sex can be an effective stress management technique. Sex reduces stress response hormones, like cortisol and adrenaline (epinephrine), with effects lasting well into the next day.

SLEEP QUALITY IMPROVEMENTS: Orgasms trigger the release of the hormone, prolactin, which aids in sleep.

ADDITIONAL PHYSICAL BENEFITS

Being more sexually active boosts libido and increases vaginal lubrication. Frequent intercourse is associated with lighter menstrual periods and less painful period cramps. In addition, an improved sense of smell, healthier teeth, better digestion, and glowing skin may be related to the release of DHEA by the body after sex.

Sex in a monogamous relationship increases the level of commitment and emotional connection with the other person. Expressing love through sex increases the likelihood of couples staying together. As a result, sex is positively associated with a lower divorce rate. Thus for married people these <a href=" https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/09/affectionate-sex/ "> Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated </a> may actually make a bigger difference in their relationship.

Sometimes, maintaining an active sex life is difficult or impossible due to physical or psychological conditions. Couples can maintain a strong, healthy relationship despite these barriers by looking at non-sexual ways to improve intimacy.

BUT……….

Sometimes marriages get to a breaking point where one or both people in the relationship are fed up, out of steam, and lacking any energy to extend themselves toward the other.

This is one of the most difficult mental places to be and requires courage to ask the question: “How long am I willing to wait?” This line of thinking calls into question what commitment means to you and what you’re truly responsible for in your marriage.

Relationships take work. First and foremost, you need to reflect deeply on how you’re feeling, then develop a game plan on how to move forward.

Single life may be tempting but for me I do not think it was any better

How to Manage Your High Sex Drive?

SEEK OUT MINDFUL SEX PRACTICES

EXPLORE YOUR SEXUALITY

INTERRUPT YOUR URGES

CHANNEL YOUR ENERGY

WORK THROUGH RELATIONSHIP ISSUES

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ACTING OUT ROLE-PLAY ACTIVITIES: <a href=" https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/sexual-roleplays/ "> Sexual Roleplays With Over 100 Demonstrated Sex Games</a>

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All of which if your partner is willing, your sexual life would be quite adventurous.

MEN WHO HAVE DIFFICULTY EJACULATING?

Men tend to have lower orgasm thresholds, so most men can ejaculate even if they’re not very sexually excited. But there are lots of men with high thresholds too. Like their female counterparts, they can’t get off unless they’re seriously aroused.

REACHING ORGASM THRESHOLD

Most women and men with high orgasm thresholds eventually figure out on their own how to get aroused enough to climax. But they often have trouble doing it in bed when someone else is present.

No matter what gender you are, the fact that you can achieve sufficient arousal for orgasm by yourself — and for yourself — is a very positive sign. It means you know how to cultivate your own arousal. All that’s needed in treatment is to take your knowledge of your own arousal and adapt it to partner sex.

When I say arousal, I’m not just talking about hardness or wetness. I’m talking about a state of mind where you get highly absorbed in the experience, you lose a significant number of IQ points, and you regress to a more child-like state of wonder. What I call “getting dumb and happy.”

Many people think that if he’s hard and she’s wet that they’re ready to have intercourse. Big mistake. Hardness in a man, like wetness in a woman, can occur even at fairly low levels of psychological arousal.

ORGASM BY THE NUMBERS

Let’s imagine arousal — the real, authentic psychological kind — on a scale from 0 to 100. Most young men only need about a 20 to get hard. But men’s orgasm thresholds vary.

If his innate orgasm threshold happens to be a 30, he’ll probably suffer from premature ejaculation. He’ll most likely expend lots of effort trying to keep his arousal very low, in order not to ejaculate immediately once lovemaking gets started.

But let’s say he is a man with innate orgasm threshold that happens to be an 80. That level of arousal is not always easy to achieve. A situation your boyfriend seems to be in

So now what’s the best way for a man with a high orgasm threshold to get satisfaction in bed?

During partnered sex, many men spend so much time thinking about whether their partner is aroused that they totally neglect their own arousal.

Such men assume the fact that they’re still hard means they’re fully aroused. But that’s just wrong. If he is a young, healthy man, he can be plenty hard during sex and still be focused on lots of other things and not be that into it.

Sure, if yhis orgasm threshold is a 30, he could probably still ejaculate under those circumstances. But with the orgasm threshold of around an 80 (i.e. most guys who have difficulty ejaculating), then just going through the motions isn’t going to work.

To get better results, the first thing needed to do is start paying attention to how genuinely aroused he really is.

NOPENETRATION UNLESS HE IS FULLY AROUSED

Most straight people put a lot of emphasis on penetrative sex. There are of course lots of other ways to make love besides penis-in-vagina intercourse. But most heterosexual people don’t feel quite right unless intercourse is somewhere on the menu.

Accordingly, the most common clinical situation in sex therapy with men who have difficulty ejaculating is that they can’t ejaculate during intercourse. One important reason men with high orgasm thresholds have difficulty ejaculating during intercourse is that they hurry to penetrate before they’re really ready.

Remember, it only takes an arousal level of 20 or so for most young, healthy men to get hard. But if you start intercourse at an arousal level of 20, you’ve got a big climb ahead to get to 80. So [invest in a lot of foreplay and oral sex](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/05/18/oral-sex-moves/)

Sure, intercourse can be exciting. But just like most men, the most exciting part is right at the moment of penetration. Like most things in life, intercourse just doesn’t deliver the same thrill on the hundredth thrust as it did on the first.

So no penetration the minute he gets hard. Instead, see if he can get to a 60 or more of arousal before penetration. That way, it won’t be such a big jump to get to 80 before intercourse gets boring.

HE SHOULD BE A BIT MORE SELFISH IN BED

Having a high orgasm threshold has certain advantages. Chances are he can have sex for hours. He can be a perfect gentleman, and can make sure his partner has lots of orgasms. Which will mean both of you have literally enough time to be [truly close and intimate](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/09/affectionate-sex/)

But after being a perfect gentlemen, most men with this condition have difficulty ejaculating.

To reach orgasm himself with a partner, he will need a different approach — one that maximizes his own arousal.

Let’s say you’ve followed my advice above and waited for him to get to an arousal level of 60 before penetration. Good. But now that he is fully hot and bothered, this is not the time to act like a gentleman. Now is the time to be a bit of a beast.

Assuming you have a good, trusting relationship, chances are they won’t mind if he focus entirely on his own arousal for a bit. She will probably be thrilled that he trusted her enough to “really let go.”

HAVE A BACK-UP PLAN

If his orgasm threshold is an 80 and has been thrusting away for a half hour or more and he is nowhere close to being able to come, then for God’s sake please do something else!

The truth is, he can’t always reliably reach an arousal level of 80 with a partner. Some days, for whatever reason, it’s just not going to happen. A modern man with a high orgasm threshold should expect the same consideration most modern women get under the same circumstances.

Most modern couples don’t automatically expect a woman with a high orgasm threshold to climax every time. And if she wants an orgasm, most modern couples find it perfectly acceptable for a woman to give herself one in bed with a partner -- typically with a vibrator.

I encourage partners to give a man who has difficulty ejaculating the same consideration. Don’t assume he has to have an orgasm every time. And if he wants one after you both feel intercourse has gone on long enough, for heaven’s sake let him pull out and give himself one with his own hand.

Sure, it’s nice to ejaculate during intercourse. But make sure you have a back-up plan, just in case.

As with every pain point that I touch on in my answers, your unique way through this issue will require a unique combination of solutions.

Bottom line, question and let go of the perfectionistic thinking when it comes to your sex life. You are human. You’re allowed to be complex, and wavering sometimes. Sex is where we get literally and metaphorically naked, after all.

How to Ride a Guy (Properly)?

Men love to have sex with the woman on top, and it's one of the best sex positions for a woman to reach orgasm through penetration, but being on top requires technique and stamina. Here's how to ride a guy (properly)...

Sure everyone knows that the woman on top sex position puts the woman in control of her own sexual pleasure, but it also gives you the responsibility for providing your man underneath with pleasure.

How will you know if you are hitting all the right spots? How fast should you go? Does he like it at this angle? Will it hurt him if you bend back a bit? And so the questions begin to flow…

Soon you're not thinking about your own pleasure anymore at all because the whole thing is stressful and tiring – you had no idea he had to work so hard!

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WOMAN ON TOP ATTITUDE

The first thing in learning how to ride a guy is amending your attitude. If you want to wow him with this position, then you have to get the mentality right.

Being on top is sexy because it wreaks of power – even though you will probably feel vulnerable, exposed and be lacking confidence in your technique.

The whole point though is to be in control and enjoy yourself. If your guy sees you basking in the glory of riding his Big Fella all over the bed, then that alone is going to send him over the edge, you won't even need technique!

1. Do you have the right attire? Remember, the main attraction of the woman on top sex position is that he gets to see you in all your glory.

This is definitely the position to satisfy any man who loves to look at breasts, so make sure your breasts are looking their best! You can go for sexy lingerie, bras that give you a lot of sumptuous cleavage, bras that are made of sheer material so that he can see your erect nipples poking through.

TIP: If you are feeling self-conscious of your midriff because we don't all have flat tummies, why not wear a sexy corset or a silky night-slip to cover up any flabby bits that distract you while you are writhing away on top?

3. Don't be afraid to look him straight in the eye. Establishing this kind of connection in the woman on top sex position can be incredibly hot, and it gives you the opportunity to communicate with him through facial expressions, dirty talk, or even just a simple smile that reminds you that it's still just you and your man having great sex, with nothing to feel intimidated about. (note: eye contact is especially important if you want to connect with him on a deeper emotional level)

So now that you have gathered the confidence, you are ready to take action!

HOW TO HAVE SEX IN THE WOMAN ON TOP POSITION

1. Make sure that you are both turned on. He should be hard and you should be wet.

2. Roll your guy over so that you can mount him. Once you're straddling with one leg on either side, you may want to tease him a bit before lowering yourself entirely onto his penis.

You can hover, brushing against the tip of his penis with your clit if it feels good for you, you can kiss his chest, stick your butt up in the air, even go down and give him a bit of a suck if he's not as hard as you'd like.

3. Then slowly use your hand to guide his hard penis into your vagina. Savor it. Move up and down until you have teased the head of his penis through the entrance of your vagina. Enjoy those sensations. Remember if you feel good, the chances are so does he!

4. Once he's in you might want to move up and down along the length of his shaft slowly and purposefully, tilting your hips slightly when you push down so that they rotate and you can feel him rubbing all the right places inside of you.

5. Don't rush into anything, keep the penetration steady, vary your movements so that he doesn't get too excited too quickly.

TIP: If you do the same thing for too long and he's really enjoying, he's gonna blow, so tease and make it last. Most importantly focus on building up your pleasure. It's not that difficult to get a guy off once you get going, so focus on getting yourself off first.

6. Try rotating your hips in circles to see how it feels. Try shallow penetration so that the head of his penis slips in and out and you can feel that wonderful ridge of his on the lips of your vagina.

Try long deep thrusts, using your PC muscles to grip his penis inside your vagina. Try bouncing up and down – but not too hard – it might snap!

7. Don't forget to get him involved too. He doesn't have to just lie there while you do all the work, you're going to start getting tired pretty quickly if you're not used to being on top, so get him to help you.

He can lift you up and down with his hands underneath your butt, or he can pull you down onto his penis with his hands gripping onto your hips. He can rock you back and forth… You can take the pressure off your legs too by using his thighs or chest to lean on.

8. Don't be afraid of letting your breasts bounce either, that's the sort of thing that will turn him right on! Men are visual, the sight of you bouncing up and down on top of him is going to send his straight to heaven, trust me!

A FEW MORE TIPS AND INSIGHTS…

• Be careful not to get too carried away. If you stroke him in the opposite direction you could end up fracturing his penis! Just keep in mind that it's not designed to handle all of your weight by itself.

• Experiment by turning around so that he has a great view of your back and butt.

• If you need a rest, you can focus on fondling his balls, kissing his chest, or slipping off his penis and going down on him.

THE FINAL SECRETS TO RIDING HIM LIKE A QUEEN

Don't forget not to overthink things. When you are too self-conscious and nervous during sex, a guy can feel it, you can't relax and you can't enjoy yourself. The secret about riding him is being selfish. Basically, this is the time you use him for your own pleasure — and that's precisely the part he'll enjoy most: seeing how much pleasure you can get from him being rock hard inside you. What he wants to see is that you are enjoying yourself, completely.

So smiling and moaning loud with a wide open mouth are things that will turn him on and make him feel sexy (because he feels he's the one making you feel this good).

The key is that you seem as if you can't even control yourself from the ecstatic pleasure you're getting from being on top of him. And if you want to take it a step further, arch your back, hold onto his legs while you ride him fast (but do mix up the tempo occasionally

Of course — all of this is impossible to do if he's not rock-hard. That's a prerequisite to riding a guy correctly: he simply must be rock hard and turned on completely, if he's just 80% erect, that doesn't cut it and doesn't make this position (you being on top) enjoyable to him. That's why you shouldn't just start riding him immediately, instead, ease him into it by first TALKING TO HIS MIND! (read this <a href=" https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/18/goddess-of-sex/ "> Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy </a> .

The more turned on you can get his psyche, the harder his penis will be and the more pleasurable an experience he'll enjoy when you are on top of him. Especially if you can seductively whisper some dirty words into his ear. Then you can ride him into oblivion!

Why Crying During Sex Is So Good For You?

Sometimes when you're in the middle of doing the deed, your emotions take over and you suddenly find tears leaking out of your eyes. You might feel surprised depending on the situation, but being overcome with feelings during the act is actually pretty normal. If you and your partner are doing a lot of intense power play and roleplaying, tears may simply be a sign of getting into character.

OR YOU’RE HAPPY

Plenty of people cry happy tears during or after sex. You might feel grateful that you feel safe enough with your partner to explore power play. You might feel relieved that you’re giving yourself permission to go to places that you may have not considered going to before. Or you might simply feel a lot of love for your partner in that moment. If that’s the case, let yourself cry, and don't be ashamed of it! Explain to your partner that they’re good tears, and they're nothing to be worried about. If your partner has a hard time believing you in the moment it might help them to hear you explain it after the fact.

OR YOU’RE TRIGGERED

Sometimes sex can trigger past experiences of abuse. A person who’s been abused or survived painful/problematic/non-consensual sexual experiences often holds trauma and emotion in their body after such an experience. Being naked, being touched, getting aroused and particular kinds of sexual touch can connect a person more directly to this; it can be harder to put on the shelf or out of their mind, and even if they are not having memories of their specific situation, they may find emotion takes over anyway. This might not include crying — but it certainly can.

Noticing what the trigger is can be important — it can help in asking the partner to stop something specific, or ask them to do something that will change the focus and distract away from the triggering incident. Even if a person hasn’t told their partner what happened to them and doesn’t intend to, they can still let them know in advance of sex that sometimes they get triggered and may need to ask for this change of focus. A partner’s ability to take this seriously and go with it is important.

And if you don't know what triggered you, at a later date, think about whether or not these types of sexual activities feel safe to you.

OR YOU’RE OVERWHELMED

Feeling overwhelmed during sex can lead to shedding a tear or two. Sometimes we cry because there’s just so much going on in one moment. This can be a good or bad thing. You might feel overwhelmed because you’re pushing yourself to the limits of your boundaries. Or you might feel overwhelmed by love, pleasure, or joy. You might just need a moment to sort out what you’re feeling. If this is the case, just let your partner know. There's nothing wrong with taking a moment to reflect on what you want, and get back into things when it feels right.

OR IT’S JUST BIOLOGY

When you’re having sex, your body can release oxytocin (euphemistically referred to as the “cuddle hormone”), which can make your emotions feel even more intense. Your tears may simply be the result of biology — this is one of the reasons you might especially feel an urge to cry after orgasm. If this is the case, there's nothing to be ashamed of. You're likely just feeling so good in the moment, you're shedding a tear or two. Since it seem you were “love making” this could be the most probable explanation. If so then I know you would also appreciate these <a href=" https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/09/affectionate-sex/ "> Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated </a>

WHAT TO DO IF YOU START CRYING DURING SEX

First, ask your partner to stop and give you a minute to sort out your feelings. Take a few slow, deep breaths. Then ask yourself this series of questions:

“What am I feeling right now?”

“What do these tears mean?”

“What do I need right now?”

If your answers all seem relatively benign, like, “I’m just feeling so much love for my partner,” or if it’s just a few tears, then it’s probably fine to continue. If you’re crying hard, if you don’t know the answers to these questions, or if you feel confused trying to sort it out, it might be best to call time out or stop completely. You don’t want to push yourself to keep having sex if you’re having a strong emotional reaction that you don’t understand. The next day, take some time to review the experience and see if there’s anything you can learn from it.

Good luck!

Embarrassed

Scheduling sex is an amazing way for partners to keep intimacy and satisfaction alive.

FIGURE OUT A DAY AND TIME THAT WORKS FOR BOTH OF YOU.

Don’t just think about when it logistically makes sense, also think about when you might feel most emotionally and mentally engaged or turned on.

ACTUALLY PUT IT IN YOUR CALENDAR.

BE FLEXIBLE ABOUT WHAT KINDS OF INTIMACY ARE INVOLVED.

Check [Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/18/goddess-of-sex/)

DO YOUR BEST TO STICK WITH THE SCHEDULE.

LEAN INTO THE ANTICIPATION.

Scheduling sex might seem boring, but scheduling a date, party, or vacation doesn't make it less fun.

Long-lasting sexual excitement is built on the unknown, the new, and the exploration of fantasy. Capitalize on that here. You might think of a different, intriguing sex position. A good place to start is [Plus Size Considered; Positions for Having Sex a New Way Everyday](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/plus-size/)

Video game Loving BF[27] would rather jerk off than have sex with GF

Scheduling sex is an amazing way for partners to keep intimacy and satisfaction alive.

1. Figure out a day and time that works for both of you.

Don’t just think about when it logistically makes sense, also think about when you might feel most emotionally and mentally engaged or turned on.

2. Actually put it in your calendar.

3. BE FLEXIBLE ABOUT WHAT KINDS OF INTIMACY ARE INVOLVED.

4. Do your best to stick with the schedule.

often there is a sense of pressure when you first start a sex schedule, which can scare you away. For some people, that drops off once they get used to it. But it may also take some playing around to land on a version of scheduling sex that works for you.

5. Lean into the anticipation.

Scheduling sex might seem boring, but scheduling a date, party, or vacation doesn't make it less fun.

Long-lasting sexual excitement is built on the unknown, the new, and the exploration of fantasy. Capitalize on that here. You might think of a different, intriguing sex position. A good place to start is [Plus Size Considered; Positions for Having Sex a New Way Everyday](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/plus-size/)

MAKING IT CLEAR YOU WANT HIM

Slip into bed naked. When he rolls over, he’ll know what you have in mind.

Tell him you’re available for sex. This sounds blah, but it can work to simply say, “If you want to make love, I’m totally up for it tonight.”

Purchase a new marital aid (lube, board game, wedge pillow) and suggest trying it out.

Make a list of sexual positions and ask which one he wants to try tonight. See [Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/19/affectionate-sex/) for ideas.

Suggest a challenge, like “First one to make the other climax gets out of doing dishes tonight.” (This only works as a playful idea, not real bartering.)

Give him a straightforward multiple choice of foreplay options: So tonight, do you want a hand job, a blow job, or to give me oral sex?

How can I replace shame/embarrassment about sex with confidence?

At a certain point in our upbringings, we start to receive unhelpful messages about sexuality, and how we should feel about sex.

MESSAGES SUCH AS:

– Good girls don’t like sex

– Little boys shouldn’t touch their penises

– Men only want one thing

– If you have sex with too many men, you’ll be a slut

– If you masturbate you’ll go to hell and burn for all eternity

– God won’t love you if you (fill in the blank)

– You won’t be sexually attractive if you are the way you are (too short/tall/fat/skinny/old/wrinkly/oily/whatever)

I could go on, but you get the point.

What these messages do is they start to have us doubt ourselves, and feel guilty, or ashamed of our sexuality. We hear the messages of, “Sexuality is wrong”, and we are sexual beings, so we, ourselves, feel wrong. Unlovable. Disgusting. Evil. Et cetera. This wraps a layer of shame around our sexuality. At this stage, the dissonance of our sexual shame hurts us. Maybe we have been told that being sexually aroused is wrong/evil/bad and yet we still feel sexual urges (because that’s simply what bodies do), and so we feel wrong/evil/bad.

SEXUAL SHAME CAN BE A VICIOUS CYCLE

Ultimately (because the opposite of shame is innocence), the only way out of this cycle is to overpower our sexual shame with love and acceptance.

DIRECT METHODS

Gift wrap a box, hand it to him and say, “This is what I’m wearing to bed tonight,” then let him open up the box to find it empty.

Flash him — your breasts and/or your southern region. Give a subtle peek or display the goodies, but either way could get his motor running.

Cook his favorite dinner and, while you’re eating, tell him you’re dessert.

Whisper into his ear what you want to do with him sexually. Bonus points for specificity.

Wear a skirt or a dress without undies and let him know you’re going commando.

Offer to give him a body massage.

Ask him to give you a body massage.

Schedule sex on the calendar. That may not sound sexy, but why not put on his and your calendars a date and time for sexual intimacy?

To help you build confidence I know this [Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/21/crazy-man/) will greatly help

MAKING IT CLEAR YOU WANT HIM

Slip into bed naked. When he rolls over, he’ll know what you have in mind.

Tell him you’re available for sex. This sounds blah, but it can work to simply say, “If you want to make love, I’m totally up for it tonight.”

Purchase a new marital aid (lube, board game, wedge pillow) and suggest trying it out.

Make a list of sexual positions and ask which one he wants to try tonight. See[Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/19/affectionate-sex/) for ideas.

Suggest a challenge, like “First one to make the other climax gets out of doing dishes tonight.” (This only works as a playful idea, not real bartering.)

Give him a straightforward multiple choice of foreplay options: So tonight, do you want a hand job, a blow job, or to give me oral sex?

GETTING RIGHT TO IT

Say, “I want to make love with you. Right now.” No mixed message there.

Take his hands and put them on the intimate places of your body, inviting him to fondle.

Undress him. Bit by bit or tearing off his clothes — whatever floats your boat.

Snuggle up to him and slyly begin massaging his testicles. Gently, teasingly.

Reach over and touch, stroke, or squeeze his penis. Many men like the direct approach — going right for the good stuff.

Straddle his hips, pressing into him where it counts. It’s a strong taste of what could be happening if you both got naked.

This one will need both of you putting the effort, if you can encourage him for both of you to take the initiative then checkout [Couples Guide To Increasing Quantity & Quality Of Sex](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/19/increasing-sex/)

You will get there in time. There is no rush. The world wants you to succeed. You’ve got this.

What are some good games to play in the bedroom?

WHAT'S YOUR FANTASY GAME: What You Need: A hat (or small jar or bowl), small pieces of paper, and a pen. HOW TO PLAY: Each of you will write down fantasies you have yet to share with your partner, be it having sex in a certain part of the house or trying out a new position. Put the slips of paper into the hat, then take turns unfolding them, one by one. (The next step, obviously, is executing them.). WHY: Sharing fantasies will you bring you closer together, and you’ll get to try out a whole bunch of new, super-sexy things. Though not exactly games but some kink ideas can be found on [Sexual Roleplays with Over 100 Demonstrated Sex Games](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/19/sexual-roleplays/)

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The lack of foreplay can actually be the foreplay

Depending with your needs remember we have got you covered, please select the sex guide below which speaks to your heart!

1. <a href="https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/05/18/oral-sex-moves/"> Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated </a>

2. <a href="https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/09/affectionate-sex/"> Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated </a>

3. <a href="https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/erotic-massage/"> Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide </a>

4. <a href="https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/05/female-ejaculation/ "> Female Ejaculation; Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm </a>

5. <a href="https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/05/18/goddess-of-sex/ "> Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy </a>

With a Quickie It's that much easier to be selfish

I've talked before about the light side and dark side of our sexual desires (à la yin and yang). Neither side is wrong, right, or better than the other. They are two halves of the same whole. Most people tend to have a deeper and easier relationship with their light side. So, what does this mean and why is it relevant? It means many people tend to have a bit more reluctance being selfish and taking care of their own sexual needs. That's where quickies come in.

They're one of the best ways to get real, raw, and honest about your sexual needs. Again with the gourmet buffet analogy: If you only have five minutes to grab whatever most appeals to you, you're going to have that much easier of a time being forthcoming and assertive with your desires.

Grab that body part of theirs that you love so much. Touch yourself where you need it to climax as quickly as possible. Put your lips all over them and be greedy about it. Because really, being selfish can be great and healthy sometimes!

Depending with your needs remember we have got you covered, please select the sex guide below which speaks to your heart!

1. <a href="https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/19/oral-sex-moves/"> Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated </a>

2. <a href="https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/19/affectionate-sex/"> Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated </a>

3. <a href="https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/03/09/erotic-massage/"> Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide </a>

4. <a href="https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/17/female-ejaculation/"> Female Ejaculation; Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm </a>

5. <a href="https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/21/crazy-man/"> Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy </a>

Quickies reconnect you with your raw desire for your partner

Whether the majority of your sexual play with your partner is either of the 10-20 minute formulaic lovemaking set or the two- to four-hour extended exploratory style, you may have started to take certain parts of their body for granted just because you're so used to them. In reality, there can be something extremely sexy about "objectifying" your long-term partner. The thing is, the word "objectify" tends to have a demeaning hint to it, which isn't what I'm advocating. This is one thing that I picked up during my years of being in the BDSM/play party scene. It is absolutely possible (and easy, and hot, and loving) to perceive each other as physical beings that bring each other pleasure. Because, let's get real, when you're in the middle of a quickie, you aren't thinking about how moral and kind your partner is, you're latching on to whatever parts of them you need to to get yourself off as quickly as possible. And that's beautiful.

Quickies can be a totally healthy part of any sexual relationship, and even easier to fit into your schedule than longer sessions. Not to mention the bevy of health benefits from having regular sex (healthier skin, better sleep, increased creativity, and overall heart health, just to name a few). On the relationship front, increased sexual frequency also correlates with better communication, and more highly ranked overall relationship satisfaction for both men and women.

So give quickies a shot, especially if it's been a while since your last one. Try it in the morning upon waking, when they've just gotten out of the shower (or while they're still in it), or when one of you is about to go off to work for the day. I would say to put it in your calendar and 'make time' for it, but that's barely even necessary.

Depending with your needs remember we have got you covered, please select the sex guide below which speaks to your heart!

1. <a href="https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/oral-sex-moves/"> Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated</a>

2. <a href="https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/affectionate-sex/"> Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated</a>

3. <a href="https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/11/30/erotic-massage/"> Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide</a>

4. <a href="https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/02/female-ejaculation/"> Female Ejaculation; Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm </a>

5. <a href="https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/18/goddess-of-sex/"> Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy </a>

Healing The Root Of Sexual Shame

Remember, the opposite of shame is innocence.

Your sexual desires are entirely natural.

Feeling sexual desire is as natural as breathing… or feeling hungry. And so is not feeling sexual desire (in the same way that your body isn’t always hungry).

Whatever messages you received about sex (from society, your past lovers, your church, your family, etc.), it isn’t your fault that you received those messages. But it is your responsibility to step up to the plate and do your own individual healing work. As it is for all of us.

I wish you the absolute best of luck, courage, and tenacity in your healing journey. Others have been where you are, and they have made progress.

You will get there in time. There is no rush. The world wants you to succeed. You’ve got this.

Dedicated to your success,

Depending with your needs remember we have got you covered, please select the sex guide below which speaks to your heart!

1. <a href="https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/11/oral-sex-moves/"> Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated </a>

2. <a href="https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/10/affectionate-sex/"> Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated </a>

3. <a href="https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/03/erotic-massage/"> Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide </a>

4. <a href="https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/05/female-ejaculation/"> Female Ejaculation; Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm </a>

5. <a href="https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/08/goddess-of-sex/"> Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy </a>

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My husband has been irritable lately. Do you think it’s because of the lack of sex

Not necessarily sex but more to do with intimacy, you really need to create some time to touch, kiss, oral, sex etc. But remember when it comes to sex just like shoe sizes, there is only one exact fit and everything else is either too big or too small. I advice you use these intimacy ideas which are on FIRST result on Google, just copy & paste search the phrase: TEACHAZINC

My wife believes our love life revolves around her.

If you’ve ever been in a long-term relationship, this might sound familiar: You and your partner tumble into bed at the end of each day completely exhausted, promising yourselves you’ll have sex tomorrow. Then that tomorrow-sex rarely comes, pun fully intended.

Scheduling sex is an amazing way for partners to keep intimacy and satisfaction alive.

1. Figure out a day and time that works for both of you.

2. Actually put it in your calendar.

3. Be flexible about what kinds of intimacy are involved.

4. Do your best to stick with the schedule.

5. Lean into the anticipation.

Scheduling sex might seem boring, but scheduling a date, party, or vacation doesn't make it less fun.

Long-lasting sexual excitement is built on the unknown, the new, and the exploration of fantasy. Capitalize on that here. You might think of a different, intriguing sex position.

Also get these tickling sex moves FIRST result on Google, just copy & paste search the phrase: 365 SEX MOVES COUPLESEXGUIDE

A partner who doesn’t care what You want

https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/iedmqa/im_being_used_for_breeding/

A shared understanding of what constitutes fairness is vital to any happy, healthy relationship. However, reciprocity is usually an unspoken contract. When two people are equally invested in a relationship, it shouldn’t be necessary to tot up who did what for whom. In any single sex session one partner often benefits more, or contributes less, but that inequity doesn’t matter if things balance out in the long run. Most things can be easily overcome with good communication but not being willing to return a massage sounds more like indolence, and that is more complicated I’m afraid. You need “sexual communal strength” which is the motivation that couples have to meet each other’s sexual needs in a relationship. “Perceived” partner responsiveness (ie, feeling confident that your partner wants to be generous in the bedroom) is an essential component of satisfaction.

It makes sense that couples who know that their needs will be met generously, rather than reluctantly, exhibit higher levels of satisfaction. And it works both ways. Individuals who are motivated to meet their partner’s needs experience sexual benefits for themselves too. When one person gives their all, and the other continually refuses to balance the books, resentment is probably inevitable. Your wife is guilty of taking and failing to give back, but you are guilty of giving and failing to demand anything in return. That needs to change.

You don’t need to throw down the gauntlet. Keeping score with an “I’ll only do this if you do that” ultimatum won’t help. Instead, you need to frame the conversation in terms of how the inequity is making you feel. Use “I” rather than “you” to avoid being accusatory, which never goes well. Here are some examples: instead of saying, “You are lazy,” say, “I feel my needs are ignored”; or instead of saying, “You are selfish,” say, “I feel I give too much.”

Even if you believe the first statement, by using the second one you will hopefully avoid turning the conversation into a fight. Give her an opportunity to justify her reluctance, and if there is a valid explanation, take it on board. If there isn’t, don’t play the blame game. Simply tell her how much it would mean to you to know that she cares about your pleasure, as much as you do about hers.

Discuss specific steps you both can take to improve the situation. Try to agree on one small step you can both take right away to signal your intention to work on this issue. A good place to start could be scheduling intimate times like for massages, This guide would do a great job since it guides both partners to do their part [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/03/erotic-massage/)

Good relationships stand on four feet

So I have a high libido

https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/iecbce/its_midnight_and_i_need_to_vent/

I totally understand your frustration, but maybe the fact that you are aware of his limitations it could be your turn to direct your sex lives into the right direction. But to get started, these guidelines may help you:

1. Tell your partner you need to talk and decide on a time you can have an uninterrupted conversation (not while you’re getting ready for work in the morning).

I love my wife so much and can't stand that she doesn't

https://www.reddit.com/r/Vent/comments/ieecy3/just_a_wholesome_vent_but_i_love_my_wife_so_much/

Oooohhhhh you lucky bustard!!!

USE SOME TOUCH- Every day, in every way (not just sexually!) Hugs, kisses, brushing her hair, sitting with your arm around her when you come back from work, holding hands, massages. AAAAH especially massages!

I encourage couples to learn erotic massage techniques to create a new avenue of sexual fun together. The benefits of massage are many! The oxytocin released during these sessions will make her feel good about you and the relationship you created together.

Scientifically, these hormones are responsible for building trust and emotional connections. They're brought on by sexual and non-sexual touching. This building of trust is what you want her to feel.

My recommendation for just that kind of activity, and both of you will love it is: [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/03/erotic-massage/)

If you commit to do this, then do not forget during these sessions to take part of that intimate time WITH YOUR WORDS- Tell her everything (your opinions, ideas, hates, loves, how your day is going, even mundane information, basically whatever’s going through your head, the less filter the better), how you’re feeling, how you feel about her, always being honest with her, telling her you love her, asking her questions, listening intently, internalizing feedback and thereafter communicating in a way that shows you understood exactly what she means to you…

Enjoy!!!

The secret to a happy relationship

https://www.reddit.com/r/sexover30/comments/ie0b7f/the_secret_to_a_happy_relationship/

Yes, it’d be great if your partner was so attracted to you that they simply had a never ending supply of sexual desire that was focused on you and only you for all eternity. In reality? Sexual desire ebbs and flows, and there will be occasions where your partner’s sexual desire has a dry spell and you will feel it.

But one of the fastest ways that you can turn your partner off is to expect them to have sex with you just because they’re your partner. This is the definition of taking your partner for granted. Expectation is the ultimate anti-aphrodisiac.

Relationships take work.

If you stopped creating value at your job, you would stop getting money.

If you stop investing effort in to your relationship, sometimes, you stop receiving sexual pleasure via your partner.

I am not sure some of the things you often r suggest which she may only do for the sack of you, but if you want to sexually reconnect with her in a way that she desires and she would agree to do for the pleasure of it why not try [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/03/erotic-massage/)

Good luck...Enjoy!!!

How to feel close during or because of sex

https://www.reddit.com/r/sexover30/comments/iedk7c/how_to_feel_close_during_or_because_of_sex/

You said “There's so much pressure and my body fails me so often.”

The pressure is the problem, you can not bond when you are underpressure. Instead find what you enjoy most, that which will take away the pressure. You may want to reveal one new thing you want to try in bed. It’s a no-brainer that fulfilling your sexual fantasies is a bond-booster. If having the talk up-front feels too stilted or broad, you can take a look at [Sexual Roleplays with Over 100 Demonstrated Sex Games](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/13/sexual-roleplays/) and share only the things you both are open to trying) and take it from there ... directly to the bedroom.

Do more eye-gazing in bed. Eye contact during sex may not feel the most natural, but it is a crucial part of bonding in bed. Uninterrupted eye contact can be freaky, but if you’re in a position like missionary or cowgirl where you’re positioned to look directly at each other, try to fix your gaze on their eyes, even if it feels a little awkward at first! It’ll help build a stronger feeling of trust in a moment when you are potentially the most vulnerable.

husband_doesnt_initiate_and_i_refuse_to_initiate

https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/ie7q0f/husband_doesnt_initiate_and_i_refuse_to_initiate/

I would advise that you increase the frequency of sex BUT SCHEDULE it to have various activities, by that I mean let him learn some of ideas, he doesn’t have to be an oral sex enthusiast but knowing some of these will improve his performance like quick ejaculation. You are lacking sex because he has performance anxiety which with knowledge the gap would shorten. The only problem is how to get him to read, any here is the link; [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/13/female-orgasm-101/)

I wish she thought about sex the way she thinks about food.

https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/ie66f6/i_wish_she_thought_about_sex_the_way_she_thinks/

I totally understand your frustration, but maybe the fact that you are aware of her limitations it could be your turn to direct your sex lives into the right direction. This way she may realize another source of the joys of life which she maybe overlooking right now. For that I think Erotic Massage can turn around the most tired and boring sex lives! Many couples have been together for a long time and have full-time jobs, kids, long commutes and modern-day stressors (Covid -19). They are too tired to have anything but boring sex. When I say tired I mean not inspired, not passionate, not hot, not sexy. I refer to the “squeeze one out” kind of sex that happens in bed at the end of the day when everyone is tired. When I say boring I mean the “one trick pony” kind of sex that is routine, gets you where you want to go, is the tried and true formula and that may have remained the same for years.

I encourage couples to learn erotic massage techniques to create a new avenue of sexual fun together. The benefits of massage are many! Being sexually intimate with one another creates an incomparable. The oxytocin released during sex makes you feel good about your partner and the relationship you created together.

Now if your marriage has taken a turn for the worse what kind of touching is still viable and easy to start on? Massage would be my go to answer and my recommendation for the book you need for just that kind of activity, and both of you will love the activity: [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/03/erotic-massage/)

Good luck...Enjoy!!!

Best fingering techniques?

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/ie0vnh/best_fingering_techniques/

One major thing that I think a lot of people get wrong is getting too complicated with fingering. So many people try to do all of these complex, creative techniques. This can feel overwhelming to so many women, and can even be painful if your clitoris is sensitive. If there’s one tip I give more often than any other, it’s to keep it simple. You don’t need to do finger gymnastics!

When your partner is starting to move their hand down between your legs, tell them, “I want you to tease me. Go nice and slow.” If they start getting too enthusiastic in the moment, take hold of their hand and say, “a little softer” or, “I like it when you go slower.” If they don’t seem to be getting the point in the moment itself, talk to them outside of the bedroom. Say something like, “I love how excited you get about touching me, but I really need a much softer, slower, gentler touch. If it’s not slow and delicate, it just doesn’t feel good to me.” Otherwise the best option was if he was to educate himself like most guys with this guide [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2020/04/29/female-orgasm-101/)

How to talk to a HL husband who gets angry?

https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/idid6n/how_to_talk_to_a_hl_husband_who_gets_angry/

Because you have said “Despite the frequency of sex, I feel I'm being denied the things that make it pleasant. It's even affecting me physically, as my sex organs have simply become a masturbatory instrument, they have lost the ability to give me any pleasure of my own.” I am going to repeat what was already said above in one comment

1st: your bedroom isn’t dead.

2nd: your husband is a dick.

3rd: he needs to grow the fuck up.

I would advice that if you keep the frequency of sex as you already do THEN SCHEDULE it to have various activities, by that I mean let him man up and master these truths to truly free up your organs [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/13/female-orgasm-101/)

It is a Pity that I cannot have word to word with him!

How to rev Husband's engine

https://www.reddit.com/r/sexover30/comments/idpq6q/first_time_posting_how_to_rev_husbands_engine/

Just because you are in a relationship with your partner doesn’t mean that you get to stop proactively loving them, wooing them, courting them… whatever you want to call it… the same way that they don’t have to automatically be turned on by you at the drop of a hat. Ahhh but here you will appreciate this guide [Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/08/goddess-of-sex/)

Relationships take work.

If you stopped creating value at your job, you would stop getting money.

If you stop investing effort in to your relationship, sometimes, you stop receiving sexual pleasure via your partner.

Good luck...Enjoy!!!

Need help figuring out her sexual response

https://www.reddit.com/r/sexover30/comments/idq2aj/update_wife_31f_and_i_36m_cant_figure_out_how_to/

A discrepancy in sexual desire among couples in long-term relationships is always something to be anticipated. At one time or another, you will find that want more sex than your partner.

Sometimes it’s helpful to SCHEDULE times of the week to connect and be intimate. During these times couples could choose to do various things like massage, playing with your partner’s hair, or as you said figuring out how to please her, see [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/04/30/female-orgasm-101/), acting out role-play activities or downright having PIV sexual activities.

missionary_sex_with_woman_who_doesnt_like_it_deep

https://www.reddit.com/r/sexover30/comments/ida3c5/missionary_sex_with_woman_who_doesnt_like_it_deep/

A twist on the classic missionary position. The Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) is a sex position that focuses on clitoral stimulation. To get in position, one partner should lie on their back and extend their legs straight out, slightly parted.The other partner should then slide on top, between their partner’s legs. For perfect alignment, the top partner should “ride high,” or lift their body higher than in the usual missionary position. To do this, the top partner’s chest should align with the bottom partner’s shoulders. Once you’re in alignment, the top partner can carefully rest their weight onto the bottom partner. This will reduce the amount of space between your genitals and create more friction.

From here, the top can slowly enter the bottom partner — but just the tip! The shaft of your penis will rest against the vulva. Then, begin an up-and-down rocking motion. This will allow for slight vaginal penetration while the shaft rubs against the clitoris.

Keep it slow and steady to see where it takes you.

By the way for resources, there is an ideal guide which approach sex positions from the perspective focusing on how to please her check it out here [Couples Sex Guide with OVER 100 Demonstrated Sex Positions](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/18/lovers-guide/)

Good luck...Enjoy!!!

how_do_i_get_my_man_to_go_down_on_me

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/id9yir/how_do_i_get_my_man_to_go_down_on_me/

Telling your guy that you want more oral is a catch-22: Make too big of a deal out of it and he may conclude he comes up short in the sack. But if you beat around the, ahem, bush, he may not get the message at all. So when he presses his body against yours to signal he's ready for the main event, whisper "I'd be really heated up if you'd kiss me down below first." This assures him that his current moves satisfy you but shows you have one other need you'd like him to address. But since you said you already give him head why don't you invest in oral sex positions which allows you to alternate simply by following the guide without you coming out like you are demanding it. A good place to start is: [Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/05/18/oral-sex-moves/)

Good luck...Enjoy!!!

does_oral_shorten_sex_time/

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/iddl7n/does_oral_shorten_sex_time/

If it is oral only on you then it would definitely shorten it, so try to invest in activities that builds her pressure too so that by the time you are into sex both of you are way above there, plus remember focusing on her should cool you down making it all the way more fun see [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2020/04/29/female-orgasm-101/)

Good luck...Enjoy!!!

First Time Poster - Long Time Follower

You really need some intimacy and please find a way to discuss it with her. Even if its not sex I always find that massage works wonders and she won’t simply refuse it like sex. A massage between couples can be as tame as a clothed shoulder rub, or something much more involved and sensual. Whatever option you choose, treating each other to a massage is likely to increase trust, induce relaxation, and create feelings of deep enjoyment. See [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/03/erotic-massage/)

Low libido descrepancies

A discrepancy in sexual desire among couples in long-term relationships is always something to be anticipated. At one time or another, you will find that your man wants more sex than you.

At other times it may be that you want more. Research has shown that in 75 percent of discrepancies in desire, it is the man who wants more. This has made it appear like the normal thing; that when the man wants more sex than the woman then it is normal so that in the few cases where the equation is reversed, it is more difficult for the couple to cope and the psychological consequences make the man slide into erectile dysfunction.

Having drunken sex

Increases women’s sexual desire and arousal—up to a point. Alcohol affects women’s libido and arousal in much the same way it impacts men’s. One drink usually increases desire and the likelihood of sexual activity. Some studies show that as women become intoxicated, they report increasing sexual arousal. But high doses—stumbling drunkenness—suppress arousal.

Like men, women also experience the self-fulfilling prophecy of alcohol-expectancy. They anticipate feeling aroused by situations that include alcohol, and tend to become aroused around alcohol—whether or not they drink. So go for it plus also use this [Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/09/affectionate-sex/)

Wanting to be with her 1 last time - yay or nay?

https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUps/comments/hzx60b/wanting_to_be_with_her_1_last_time_yay_or_nay/

For breakups that end in a completely mutual understanding, having sex can be a “beautiful, connected ending. In cases where both partners are truly resolved (I know, it sounds too good to be true, but it really does happen!), breakup sex can be a good idea. If you are serious you want this kind if sex I advise on doing some role-play in the mix to avoid it from being intimate and passionate, feelings you would regret. Here you will find [Sexual Roleplays with Over 100 Demonstrated Sex Games](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/07/sexual-roleplays/)

The “I want to get you back” kind of sex, however, is not a good idea. Accepting a breakup takes time, and trying to ease the pain with sex will only prolong the process. Breakup sex unfortunately isn’t going to give you the closure you’re craving. Closure comes from putting the relationship behind you and prioritizing yourself. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not easy, but holding onto something that isn’t there will only hold you back.

How do i get my bf to finger me?

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/hzw8oa/how_do_i_get_my_bf_to_finger_me/

What worries me is that he get his sexual skills from porn an act with disastrous consequences. It was going to be better if he was to try reading [Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/04/30/female-orgasm-101/). Otherwise; When you’re making out slowly put his hand in your underwear. If he focuses mostly on the clit you can push his hand down gently. Hopefully that will clue him in. If that doesn’t work out so well, you can finger yourself a little. He’ll see or recognize what you’re doing and when you stop (you should stop to give him an opportunity to help lol) he may pick up where you left off. You could even find a seductive way to whisper, “finger me”, or “I want you to finger me”, or will you etc. BUT As your boyfriend he is presumably a man, and men aren’t particularly good at picking up female hints. They simply don’t get them. Instead you should simply explain to him what you’d like him to do. He will sigh with relief, whisper: “So that’s what you meant”, and finger away happily until you beg him to stop.

GF cried during sex with her ex, never with me.

Do not emotionally beat yourself. She felt so close to you that she had to confide in your something deeply personal to you. So see it as a sign of how she loves and feels safe with you. Though she might not have counted on how men feel really bad to be compared to another thus unleashing all masculine insecurities. She didn’t have to talk about her ex, that’s why you found it odd and it was.

I suspect the reason she told you is that she was confiding in you. She might have been indirectly asking you why she could have cried with her former boyfriend a thing she might have found odd too. Saying the reasons for her crying were of “feeling good “ was also an indirect way of making you NOT jump to the wrong conclusion. RAPE. Why would she cry when there was consent? And yet that does not seem to happen with you? This is a mystery she has wrestled with for years now. And it is the same question which will free her and also you from those insecurities.

AND THAT IS THE ANSWER I WILL GIVE YOU

Now all this have nothing to do with you but the actual reasons she is looking for are:

BEING TRIGGERED

And if you don't know what triggered you, at a later date, think about whether or not these types of sexual activities feel safe to you.

BEING OVERWHELMED

Feeling overwhelmed during sex can lead to shedding a tear or two. Sometimes we cry because there’s just so much going on in one moment. This can be a good or bad thing. You might feel overwhelmed because you’re pushing yourself to the limits of your boundaries- In this case her first boyfriend could have done that since she really did not have … well, deeper boundaries. She might have needed a moment to sort out what she was feeling.

Either way crying might not be in the works for both of you but pushing her pleasure boundaries will make her also appreciate you, for that you will need [Female Ejaculation; Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/05/female-ejaculation/)

My husband rejected me. Should I be hurt?

While the bathroom and kitchen may be the most "dangerous" rooms in the house in terms of physical injury, most of our emotional injuries happen in the bedroom. When your partner rebuffs your advances; avoids your attempts at intimacy—you are going to feel rejected and it's going to hurt.

Over time, of course, such rejections are extremely damaging to the relationship as a whole. In order to protect themselves from further hurt, a rejected partner is likely to become emotionally withdrawn, distant, and disengaged. They are also likely to develop feelings of anger and resentment toward the partner, and in some cases, become depressed.

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However, staying silent and tolerating or accommodating the situation will not make you feel better; instead, the rejections will only continue to wear away at your self-esteem and happiness.

THESE GUIDELINES MAY HELP:

1. Tell your partner you need to talk and decide on a time you can have an uninterrupted conversation (not while you’re getting ready for work in the morning).

Can not orgasm with husband

Orgasm is a mental experience as much as a physical one. Sometimes it can feel like there’s an incredibly narrow window of acceptable mental actions. If you think about it too much — “am I close yet? Is it going to happen this time? Is my partner getting bored?” — you may have a difficult time reaching a climax or enjoying yourself. If you don’t think about it enough — “are those clothes dirty or clean? Did I forget to water the plants?” — you won’t come. So what are you supposed to do in a situation where you can't seem to relax?

FOR HIM

He will appreciate this, if he can time to read and try out some of the moves there [Oral Techniques to Make Her Orgasm Quicker | Free eBook](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/07/26/orgasm-quicker-ebook/)

FOR YOU

The trick is to find better ways to occupy your brain during sex.

FANTASIZE

Fantasizing when with a partner can help you get over mental blockages and achieve orgasm. Active fantasizing is one of the most effective techniques for improving your orgasmic odds. Fantasizing is a great way to keep your mind engaged during sex. It also creates another layer of stimulation. There are even some people who are able to reach orgasm simply by fantasizing!

Often women need more than vaginal stimulation to have an orgasm and there's nothing wrong with that.Fantasizing can be good, whether you imagine in your head, role play, or talk dirty to your partner, these can all be ways to spice up and include some fun sexy fun times."

Right now, think of your favorite fantasies, and decide on one that you can utilize the next time you’re being intimate with your partner. It can be helpful to pick something beforehand, that way you don’t have to waste mental energy going over your options in the moment. Try to flesh out as many details of the fantasy as you can, and immerse yourself in the experience.

Keep in mind that fantasizing doesn’t have to mean cutting your partner out of the picture altogether. You can have your partner play the leading role in your fantasy, whatever that role is!

Are intelligent people better in bed?

Yes, but not always. Remember I have issues with the term intelligent, so I will use educated. Intelligent sounds clinical with tests, measurement, results and scores, but educated sounds inclusive (formal or informal). Anyone can archive it. Even here on Reddit, most of us are educating ourselves. If you're more educated you're more in touch with your emotions and that's important to sex. It applies to both women and men. The more enlightened you are, the better you understand your partner's needs.

Unenlightened people might not realize that sex is not just about ticking the box. There are things involved that one needs to put an effort into and be creative.

A good example is MASSAGE:

If you go to the massage parlor – more like ticking boxes

If you follow this [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/04/erotic-massage/) – you will realize effort and creativity are essential

curved penises stimulate the g-spot more than straight ones

Some people have a penis that curves to the side, upward or downward when erect. Most people who have sex with people with penises don’t care about the curve of the penis, but some prefer a curved penis, saying it offers better G-spot stimulation. There’s definitely a market for curved dildos, after all. A curved penis is like any other penis, and it might even hit a better spot. Don’t worry, no penis is alike. What matter is if you really know to use what you’ve got.

Remember the G Spot is located about an inch or so inside the vaginal opening on the upper vaginal wall — closest to the bellybutton. The G-spot is sexually sensitive and swells slightly during arousal and feels raised or bumpy. Anyway, long story short here is [Female Ejaculation; Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/05/female-ejaculation/)

Good luck and enjy!!!

How do I help my partner eat me out better

There are so many ways to receive (and give) oral sex. It's exciting to figure out which oral sex positions work for you and your partner.

TIP:

Be sure to communicate clearly and honestly about what you like and don't like. Verbal communication means both people get what they want.

THE CLASSIC

THE EDGE OF REASON

THE CAPTAIN

Whichever position you choose off the oral sex menu, have fun with it. Sure, not everything will work for you, but exploring is half the fun. Here you will find : [Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/11/oral-sex-moves/)

Paralyze after sex

Feel free to disregard the rest of my answer below if paralysis scenario is correct.

Another good way to relieve tension in her muscles is to do some erotic massage during foreplay, she will appreciate it and her orgasms will be less exhausting to the muscles. You will also find this [Couples Erotic Sensual Massage An Illustrated Guide](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/03/erotic-massage/) really helpful.

The Benefits of Having Sex More Often

Some of these benefits include:

BETTER SELF-IMAGE

Sex can boost self-esteem and reduce feelings of insecurity, leading to more positive perceptions of oneself.

MORE BONDING

RELIEF FROM STRESS

SLEEP QUALITY IMPROVEMENTS: Orgasms trigger the release of the hormone, prolactin, which aids in sleep.

ADDITIONAL PHYSICAL BENEFITS

Sex in a monogamous relationship increases the level of commitment and emotional connection with the other person. Expressing love through sex increases the likelihood of couples staying together. As a result, sex is positively associated with a lower divorce rate. Thus for married people these [Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/10/affectionate-sex/) may actually make a bigger difference in their relationship.

BUT……….

Sometimes marriages get to a breaking point where one or both people in the relationship are fed up, out of steam, and lacking any energy to extend themselves toward the other.

Relationships take work. First and foremost, you need to reflect deeply on how you’re feeling, then develop a game plan on how to move forward.

Single life may be tempting but for me I do not think it was any better

How to Manage Your High Sex Drive

SEEK OUT MINDFUL SEX PRACTICES

EXPLORE YOUR SEXUALITY

INTERRUPT YOUR URGES

CHANNEL YOUR ENERGY

WORK THROUGH RELATIONSHIP ISSUES

ORAL SEX ACTIVITIES: [Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/oral-sex-moves/)

ACTING OUT ROLE-PLAY ACTIVITIES: [Sexual Roleplays With Over 100 Demonstrated Sex Games](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/sexual-roleplays/)

DOWNRIGHT HAVING PIV SEXUAL ACTIVITIES: [Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/affectionate-sex/)

All of which if your partner is willing, your sexual life would be quite adventurous.

Men Who Have Difficulty Ejaculating

REACHING ORGASM THRESHOLD

Most women and men with high orgasm thresholds eventually figure out on their own how to get aroused enough to climax. But they often have trouble doing it in bed when someone else is present.

ORGASM BY THE NUMBERS

Let’s imagine arousal — the real, authentic psychological kind — on a scale from 0 to 100. Most young men only need about a 20 to get hard. But men’s orgasm thresholds vary.

But let’s say he is a man with innate orgasm threshold that happens to be an 80. That level of arousal is not always easy to achieve. A situation your boyfriend seems to be in

So now what’s the best way for a man with a high orgasm threshold to get satisfaction in bed?

During partnered sex, many men spend so much time thinking about whether their partner is aroused that they totally neglect their own arousal.

To get better results, the first thing needed to do is start paying attention to how genuinely aroused he really is.

NO PENETRATION UNLESS HE IS FULLY AROUSED

Remember, it only takes an arousal level of 20 or so for most young, healthy men to get hard. But if you start intercourse at an arousal level of 20, you’ve got a big climb ahead to get to 80. So invest in a lot of foreplay and oral sex and these [Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/oral-sex-moves/) is a good place to start

HE SHOULD BE A BIT MORE SELFISH IN BED

Having a high orgasm threshold has certain advantages. Chances are he can have sex for hours. He can be a perfect gentleman, and can make sure his partner has lots of orgasms. Which will mean both of you have literally enough time to be truly close and intimate, in which case these [Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/affectionate-sex/) will also come in handy

But after being a perfect gentlemen, most men with this condition have difficulty ejaculating.

To reach orgasm himself with a partner, he will need a different approach — one that maximizes his own arousal.

HAVE A BACK-UP PLAN

If his orgasm threshold is an 80 and has been thrusting away for a half hour or more and he is nowhere close to being able to come, then for God’s sake please do something else!

Sure, it’s nice to ejaculate during intercourse. But make sure you have a back-up plan, just in case.

As with every pain point that I touch on in my answers, your unique way through this issue will require a unique combination of solutions.

How to Ride a Guy (Properly)

Sure everyone knows that the woman on top sex position puts the woman in control of her own sexual pleasure, but it also gives you the responsibility for providing your man underneath with pleasure.

How will you know if you are hitting all the right spots? How fast should you go? Does he like it at this angle? Will it hurt him if you bend back a bit? And so the questions begin to flow…

Soon you're not thinking about your own pleasure anymore at all because the whole thing is stressful and tiring – you had no idea he had to work so hard!

SIDE NOTE: These [Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/affectionate-sex/) are also ideal if you want to be more intimate (emotionally with him), but if it’s a casual relationship then I do not recommend you try it.

WOMAN ON TOP ATTITUDE

The first thing in learning how to ride a guy is amending your attitude. If you want to wow him with this position, then you have to get the mentality right.

Being on top is sexy because it wreaks of power – even though you will probably feel vulnerable, exposed and be lacking confidence in your technique.

1. Do you have the right attire? Remember, the main attraction of the woman on top sex position is that he gets to see you in all your glory.

So now that you have gathered the confidence, you are ready to take action!

HOW TO HAVE SEX IN THE WOMAN ON TOP POSITION

1. Make sure that you are both turned on. He should be hard and you should be wet.

2. Roll your guy over so that you can mount him. Once you're straddling with one leg on either side, you may want to tease him a bit before lowering yourself entirely onto his penis.

5. Don't rush into anything, keep the penetration steady, vary your movements so that he doesn't get too excited too quickly.

Try long deep thrusts, using your PC muscles to grip his penis inside your vagina. Try bouncing up and down – but not too hard – it might snap!

A FEW MORE TIPS AND INSIGHTS…

• Experiment by turning around so that he has a great view of your back and butt.

• If you need a rest, you can focus on fondling his balls, kissing his chest, or slipping off his penis and going down on him.

THE FINAL SECRETS TO RIDING HIM LIKE A QUEEN

So smiling and moaning loud with a wide open mouth are things that will turn him on and make him feel sexy (because he feels he's the one making you feel this good).

Of course — all of this is impossible to do if he's not rock-hard. That's a prerequisite to riding a guy correctly: he simply must be rock hard and turned on completely, if he's just 80% erect, that doesn't cut it and doesn't make this position (you being on top) enjoyable to him. That's why you shouldn't just start riding him immediately, instead, ease him into it by first TALKING TO HIS MIND! (read this [Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/18/goddess-of-sex/).

Why Crying During Sex Is So Good For You

OR YOU’RE HAPPY

OR YOU’RE TRIGGERED

And if you don't know what triggered you, at a later date, think about whether or not these types of sexual activities feel safe to you.

OR YOU’RE OVERWHELMED

OR IT’S JUST BIOLOGY

When you’re having sex, your body can release oxytocin (euphemistically referred to as the “cuddle hormone”), which can make your emotions feel even more intense. Your tears may simply be the result of biology — this is one of the reasons you might especially feel an urge to cry after orgasm. If this is the case, there's nothing to be ashamed of. You're likely just feeling so good in the moment, you're shedding a tear or two. Since it seem you were “love making” this could be the most probable explanation. If so then I know you would also appreciate these [Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/affectionate-sex/)

WHAT TO DO IF YOU START CRYING DURING SEX

First, ask your partner to stop and give you a minute to sort out your feelings. Take a few slow, deep breaths. Then ask yourself this series of questions:

“What am I feeling right now?”

“What do these tears mean?”

“What do I need right now?”

Take it slow and a good place to start is doing these less intense scenarios here[Sexual Roleplays with Over 100 Demonstrated Sex Games](https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/07/sexual-roleplays/)

Good luck!

Fun ways to spice up intimacy

He is entitled to have boundaries, and this is one of them. You may have to leave this fantasy in your head, or be satisfied with watching it acted out in a movie or a book. There's nothing wrong with you having the fantasy, but most fantasies are just as powerful, if not more, if they remain just that - fantasy. So you are in the position of leaving it in the realm of fantasy, since it is clearly unpleasant for him. Remember they are also so many things you can do to spice it up, for that you may want to get these tickling sex games FIRST result on Google, just copy & paste search the phrase: SEXUAL ROLEPLAYS COUPLESEXGUIDE

Why do man really love morning blowjobs?

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskRedditAfterDark/comments/hujci0/why_do_man_really_love_morning_blowjobs/

Mostly because of morning hood, those extra hard erections they get. But generally anyway most men love blowjobs. And some women DON’T enjoy giving oral.

But let’s break down WHY men love oral sex so much and how it can contribute to:

a happier relationship

a healthier relationship

less stress and less fights

deeper trust between you and your partner

Men and women don’t always understand each other. Because guess what? We are different!!

Men don’t understand these emotional creatures that they also love so dearly.

And women, well, let’s be real. Men aren’t really that hard to figure out. BUT you have to make the effort to actually learn about what makes them tick. And then put those things to practice!

Ladies, read on and learn why giving your man a BJ is actually one of the Best things you can do for your relationship.

In fact, if you want a man to totally and completely commit to you, then this type of sexual intimacy is going to increase the likelihood of that happening to you

Sound good?

And men….would I ever love to hear what you have to say on the subject down below…. lol (in the reply box, silly!)

And as a side note, I don’t think most men would be able to tell you exactly WHY they love oral sex. They’d probably just say ‘because it feels good.’ Um, yeah. We know that.

SUBMISSIVE WOMAN

The very act of getting down on your knees is one of submission. It’s one of service. You are giving to your man. You have to be vulnerable to him. You have to submit to him. And for a strong masculine man, it shows that you trust him. It helps him feel more like a masculine man.

If you’re actually down on your knees, you are literally making yourself submissive to him. You’re giving him the power to dominate.

VULNERABILITY AND TRUST

Let’s be real here. I wouldn’t give a blow job to anyone other than my significant other.

Back in the day when I was dating… I remember having conversations with girlfriends about intimacy and sex. And one girl in particular said that she wouldn’t go ‘all the way’ with a man but that they’d fool around and have oral. I remember being flabbergasted! There is NO WAY IN HELL I would put just ANY random-ass penis in my mouth. Sorry to be vulgar but oral sex is all about vulnerability and trust.

You have to be open to your man. You have to trust him. You have to feel comfortable enough to communicate and ask certain questions like ‘Does this feel good?’ or ‘like this?’ or ‘Faster or slower?’

ADMIRATION

Most men love their penises. In fact, I haven’t yet met one who doesn’t!

When you take in your mouth what most men are ‘in love’ with, the root of their manhood, you are showing your man that you admire him.

You love the part of him that ultimately makes him a man.

And on the flip side, if you’re rejecting your man’s penis via oral sex, you are essentially saying that you ‘reject him’ or that you don’t love him.

Amazing how much connection happens from just one little act.

LOVE LOVE LOVE

There are plenty of ways we give and receive love: hugging, kissing, buying presents, going out to dinner at a nice restaurant, touching, saying “I love you” and more.

And while there are many ways to express love, men have a certain association with sex and love that is different from women.

Have you ever thought to yourself: “Why is it all always about sex?”

Or at least heard a girlfriend ask it?

Did you hear that?

They LOVE it. It’s part of how they perceive love.

You’ve got to simply understand that sentence above and trust that it’s true.

To a man, if a woman wants to have sex with him regularly, it means she loves him and is attracted to him. The masculine energy perceives importance and significance in a woman being sexually attracted to him. So when this beautiful creature that he’s super sexually attracted to is also super sexually attracted to him…. he gets it. It’s his language.

IT’S JUST PLAIN SEXY

Men love to feast with their eyes. And it looks sexy when you have his member in your mouth. Men love to watch when you’re going down on them (have you noticed?). So make a show out of it. Wear sexy underwear. Position yourself in front of a mirror. Look up at him occasionally. He’ll eat that shit up! I promise.

SIDE NOTE: here are [Oral Sex Moves for Him & Her Over 50 Demonstrated](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/19/oral-sex-moves/)

So am I saying that you have to give your man a blow-job every single day in order to experience long-lasting happiness in your relationship?

Well, maybe I am saying exactly that.

But if not, at least once a week!

Dumb question, but how do i actually finger a girl?

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskRedditAfterDark/comments/huj5qg/dumb_question_but_how_do_i_actually_finger_a_girl/

IT'S MORE THAN STICKING YOUR FINGER IN AND OUT

Remember, it's what's on the outside that counts. Specifically, we're talking about the clit. The kind of "fingering" that actually brings women to orgasm is rubbing of the outside area around the clit. In fact, that's how most women masturbate because it's what actually feels the best. For the vast majority of women, penetration is nice, but it's kind of like rubbing your balls - pleasant, but not going to make you come.

DIFFERENT WOMEN LIKE DIFFERENT THINGS

The women who participated in this study went as far as to say that the guys who think they have "the move" are usually worst at giving pleasure. The mentality of "one move to finish them all" makes sense to men, since moves like stroking and sucking work for almost all guys, and if there’s lube, just about any rubbing is going to feel good to some degree. But for women, it's truly different strokes for different folks.

The clit is so sensitive that touch can sometimes feel really uncomfortable or even hurt certain women. So if some move felt really good for your ex-girlfriend, that doesn't mean it'll do the trick for your next girlfriend. A prime example is that some women orgasm almost exclusively through their clitoris, while others prefer a G-spot orgasm. In bed, try experimenting with using different fingers, since some girls might prefer you use a smaller, shorter finger, while others might prefer the middle finger for maximal G-spot stimulation.

MOST AGREE THAT 'THIS ONE MOVE' DOESN'T DO IT

Porn that shows women getting rubbed out typically portrays a hard and fast back and forth motion, commonly known as the "DJ" because of how it mimics the spinning of a track. That kind of superfast cadence and pressure directly on the clit only feels good for 1 in 48 women. For the rest, it either doesn't feel great or actually hurts. To put it into perspective, imagine someone taking your dick and rubbing the tip really hard with their palm as fast as they can. It's a sharp painful tickle, and naturally, you want it to stop. For the vast majority of women, it's not a good move, even if women in porn are pretending to like it.

START BY TOUCHING EVERYTHING EXCEPT THE VAGINA

For most women, the more anticipation that's built up before touching the vagina, the more aroused they become, providing more pleasure once you do start to touch her down there. Kisses on the lips, neck, shoulders, and arms usually do the trick, as well as gently, slowly stroking their stomach, legs, and thighs. You can’t go wrong with slow foreplay.

BE A TEASE

Approach the crotch area, but keep passing by it as if it’s invisible. This is likened to playing with a cat. If you reach right for it, it runs away. If you tease and don't stroke it, it comes to you.

To do it, you move your fingertip down your partner's body from her neck to her breasts to her stomach, but instead of landing at her crotch, veer down her leg. Then, on the way back up, move your fingertip in another path that misses her crotch, too. These moves build anticipation and help awaken arousal. Many women love this kind of withholding and will eventually move their crotch toward your finger or tongue as it passes by — a good sign that the clit is ready to be touched. The more awake her body is, the more pleasurable it will be when you finally touch her clitoris.

SPREAD THE WETNESS

Before touching the clit directly, most women say they prefer you to spread the wetness from the inside of their vagina. Get it on your finger, and "paint it" onto the rest of the lips and clit.

Using this natural lube makes touching feel smoother, and allows your fingertips to glide and caress instead of pulling or catching on the sensitive skin. Keep in mind, you'll likely have to go back for seconds and thirds of wetness in order to get it well coated.

PAY ATTENTION TO HER REACTIONS

The guys who are best at fingering are the ones who start off gently and then try different moves, while watching and asking for feedback. They also ask questions that don't put their partner in a tough spot. For example, questions like "Is that good?" or "Are you close?" are not the direction you want to go. Instead, ask questions like "Faster or slower?" or "Higher or lower?" The answers to these questions will actually give you useful information to make the pleasure better, and keep your ego intact.

TELL HER YOU’RE NOT AN A RUSH

One big factor that prevents women from reaching orgasm is that they have too many concerns running through their head. They're worried that they're taking too long, or that they'll offend their partner if they ask them to change their moves.

The quickest, easiest thing you can do to up your chances of getting your partner off is assure her that there's no rush. Say how much you're into it, and that it can take as long as it needs to. Also, let her know that there’s no pressure if nothing happens. Many women can't orgasm because they feel like they're going to let their partner down if they don't. If you take that end goal off the table, she's actually more likely to get there.

You will also find this guide greatly useful [Female Ejaculation; Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/17/female-ejaculation/) please check it out!

How do I ask my dom I want to explore my dominant side?

https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMAdvice/comments/htvsyc/how_do_i_ask_my_dom_i_want_to_explore_my_dominant/

It's just that we're not talking about it. No matter how open our communication, a lot of us have fantasies we haven't shared with our spouses ... yet. But maybe it's time we did?

The main thing is for you and your partner to agree upon a scene that you find arousing. If you can’t agree, then take turns.

You don't have to start with a full-blown fantasy sequence with costumes and everything. Start with a few simple things. Here are just a few examples : Speak with a sexy accent or voice, try on a headband with ears or a tiara or a wig, give yourself a new name, try a bold red lipstick or dramatic cat eye makeup, try new lingerie and long gloves (men can get try costumes too, like a vest without shirt, or a hat). Read aloud a passage from a book or poem, get into dirty talk, and use a vocabulary you don't usually use.

SIDE NOTE: A good place to start is here where you will find [Sexual Roleplays with Over 100 Demonstrated Sex Games](https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2019/02/19/sexual-roleplays/) .

PICK A SCENARIO YOU BOTH LIKE

If you want to go with a whole scenario, choose one that is familiar so that you will both feel comfortable. Suggestion: one can pretend to be a naughty student caught cheating. Punishment can be a spanking over the knee and having to write out an apology in a composition notebook while “servicing” the teacher.

BE CAREFUL WITH POWER EXCHANGES

In true role play, the person in the submissive role has the real power. Before undertaking a power exchange role-play, decide who is going to be what role, and what activities are allowed, and which are not.

Something important to remember? Change details in your role-play scenarios to ensure that you do not incite your lover’s insecurities.

Whatever parts you decide to play, discuss them with your sweetheart ahead of time to negotiate boundaries and offer reassurance as needed. If there are words, scenarios, or phrases with which he is uncomfortable, steer clear of them.

If he is feeling a little self-conscious, turning the lights down low and waiting until he is highly aroused before slipping into character can help to temper inhibitions. Dressing the part and assuming a fake name may also help ease you into it. As you engage more intensely with your roles, it will start to feel more natural and you can stay focused on your pleasures as opposed to remaining in character.

Be as creative and prop-driven as you like. Elaborate role plays can last weeks in different locations with all kinds of moving parts, and simple ones can be as easy as a few lines shared between you to set the tone.

Roleplay gone so right

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/htvtb0/roleplay_gone_so_right/

It’s a very powerful way to express yourself and your desires.

Just because you like to be someone else during sex doesn’t mean you’re damaging your relationship and the life the two of you have outside of the boudoir.

ROLEPLAY INDICATES TRUST

The key to successful, healthy roleplay is trust. Without it, boundaries can be crossed and lines eviscerated.

It’s about mutual respect and an understanding that this is the exploration of certain, intimate fantasies, and at the end of the day, the most crucial, fundamental element is consent.

If you can engage in roleplay confidently, you’re not proving yourself to be some sexual pariah; you’re actually proving you have complete faith in both your partnership and your lover.

If you can feel comfortable opening yourself up to that kind of vulnerability, you’re reaffirming your connection to each other.

IF YOU CAN ROLEPLAY, YOU ARE COMMUNICATING

If you’re in tune with yourself sexually, you’re on a much more enlightened path.

You should feel relaxed enough in your relationship to be able to ask your partner for what you want without shame.

ROLEPLAY KEEPS THAT SPARK ALIVE

Roleplay is also a great way to spice things up in the bedroom. You are both committed to each other and have grown used to being with each other.

Shaking things up a little bit can be exciting. Just be sure you’re presenting this as an invigorating experience, not as a substitution for something missing.

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How was the first time you swapped positions having sex?

It was waaaay difficult than I had anticipated

Like having sex on the beach (hello, sand in your honeypot), switching positions is one of those ideas that often sounds way better in theory.

Finagling your bodies can totally interrupt your jam and make you feel self-conscious. Approach position transitions with an attitude of exploration—and then try, try again. With practice, you’ll eventually be able to flow from one move to the next.

To make that process a little easier, better have the position in mind than simply trying to invent the wheel, that way you can easily mesh together perfectly strategically adjusting your bodies from one move to the next. You will then spend more time getting down and less time figuring out what to do with your hands.

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Good luck!!!

Boyfriend deny me sex often

A crucial component of a relationship is working together towards a common goal. What better common goal than sex? If your boyfriend doesn’t want to work things though, your entire relationship will likely suffer.

For whatever reason, your boyfriend doesn’t feel sexy around you. Perhaps your sex-positivity makes him feel insecure. Perhaps he worries you must have a high sex drive, and that he doesn’t measure up. This is silly because presumably you chose to be his girlfriend of your own free will, but sadly regardless, some version of this is going through his head.

There are a bunch of things you can try. Ironically, one is to the first is to get him to just do stuff for you. Believe me, he wants to make you happy. And if his penis isn’t involved, he’ll feel way less pressure. Hands and tongues neither go limp nor explode when you’re nervous you see. So as for oral sex and a good way to get started is to take a look at this guide <a href=" https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2019/07/05/female-ejaculation/ "> Female Ejaculation; Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm </a>

This leads onto the second thing. Learn to have genuine love and affection for his flaccid penis. If you do, he will sense it, and he will be less nervous about getting and maintaining wood.

Finally, if you are both pretty open-minded, you could look into the book <a href=" https://exoticsex.home.blog/2019/11/09/affectionate-sex/ "> Affectionate Sex Positions Over 100 Illustrated </a> together. I know a lot of couples who intimacy has been massively improved by it. And it’ll make him feel like a more unique lover, because he’ll know that none have taken the kind of time and care

Being sexually frustrated because you have a non-responsive partner when you’re in a monogamous relationship feels devastating. Get emotional support for yourself as you either transition to a better relationship with him, or you get out.

Does a vagina feel different after a vaginal birth?

Though an obstetrician or midwife will be able to tell that you’ve had a vaginal delivery by doing a physical exam, you may not feel or see any difference. Depending on how much it was stretched, the vaginal opening may return to a point very close to its original structure given enough time and pelvic floor exercises.

Will your partner notice? Unless you experience a major birth trauma (such as a third- or fourth-degree tear to the outer vagina), your partner shouldn't notice much of a difference if any at all. In fact, some couples find that having a baby makes them feel closer and they enjoy sex even more.

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Once you give birth, start doing your Kegels again as soon as you’re comfortably able: It’s the best way to get your vagina back as close to its pre-birth shape and size as possible. Kegels strengthen the muscles of the pelvic floor, help resolve postpartum urinary incontinence (an issue some women experience after delivery) and make sex more pleasurable once your practitioner gives you the all-clear and you're ready. If they seem like a hassle, try to do them when you're sitting still and have the chance — while sitting and breastfeeding, checking email, at your desk. The effort will be worth your while.

No matter what measures you take, rest assured that your vagina was built to handle childbirth, and it will be back to its old self in time.

What do you think bonds you and your spouse the most

I think it’s everything combined. This is because couples’ actual experiences show what partners do when they are successful at sustaining positive connection, emotionally and sexually. In essence, they build and live an integrated relationship, one that combines transparency in communication, conscious mutuality in decision-making, and a commitment to create conditions for maintaining erotic energy in their physical/sexual life.

A sustaining, energized sexual relationship is a product of an integration of multiple facets. It grows over time from being in sync with each other’s values and outlook; your desires and fears about your journey together; your life goals, both individually and as a couple. Essentially, it’s a spiritual connection, a sense of being on the same wavelength. If that core grows, it will fuel a sustainable romantic connection — which most couples desire.

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Quora

What are all the health benefits of giving blowjobs for women?

Oral sex. BJs. Fellatio. Call it what you will, the big news is giving head is good for your health. Girls have long been aware that sperm works as a face cream that draws out impurities when it dries and tastes delicious. What we now know – thanks to research– is that that male semen contains a variety of chemicals that make you feel contented, younger and more affectionate.

Forget exercise, fad diets and How To Be Happy books. If you’re depressed, listless, can’t sleep, bored, fat or feeling suicidal, just go for your boyfriend’s zipper and give him a blowjob. Alchemists spent the Middle Ages trying to discover the elixir of life. They clearly never thought to open their britches and call for a serving wench to take part in an oral experiment. Then again, perhaps they did, but just couldn’t be bothered to examine the results.

Now, the results are in and what the researchers with 300 female students at the university’s Albany campus have confirmed after a study lasting several months is that girls who swallow adequate amounts of seminal fluid are less likely to suffer depression or mental health problems, and those who have regular sex, particularly unprotected sex, are happier, healthier, thinner and perform better on cognitive tests.

Giving Head Aids Sleep

The sticky stuff is as good as any sleeping pill and, when you open your eyes on a new day, there’s nothing better for body and soul than to nudge the one beside you awake and pump out another warm milky draught with its zingy flavour of lemon and pistachio. If you don’t have a boyfriend, or swing the other way, suggest it to the next guy who looks up for it (they usually are) and, while he thinks head is GOOD for him, in fact it is even BETTER for you.

For all those scientists, chemists and doubters out there, seminal fluid contains: ESTRONE and OXYTOCIN, which give you a mild high (like one puff on something illegal); THYROTROPIN, a hormone stimulant that acts as an anti-depressant; SEROTONIN, an antidepressant neurotransmitter; MELATONIN, a sleep aid; and CORTISOL, which combats stress by releasing adrenaline and, according to the research team, helps increase affection.

Bottom line: sex every day is good for you, male jism is a health drink and, as it comes in relatively small quantities, the more head you give the better you feel.

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Why men love fat women

This is because there is more cushion for the pushing. Certain sex positions are less abrasive on the male pelvis with a fat woman. The impact of thrust is absorbed, which allows a man to stroke intensely with minimal risk of injury for either partner. Sex positions that bring the pelvis of both partners close together (doggie style, woman on top, bridging) feel better when used with women with more developed bodies. In short, fat women are able to handle deeper, longer, more intense strokes, ie. “she can take it”. [Plus Size Considered; Positions for Having Sex a New Way Everyday](https://couplesguide.home.blog/2018/12/04/plus-size/)

Now one may argue with the way I look at it, but their way of thinking is neither constructive to either you or them. Right now with COVI-19 everyone needs support of all different kinds so try to surround yourself with people who are supportive (even here on Reddit )

When you are finally through nursing yourself ( mentality ) and you feel you have the strength to take it, you can get back to people who challenge you to push yourself further

What is more pleasurable for a girl during sex, being on top or bottom

The ever-elusive orgasm. Some report that they have it with ease and high frequency. Some have to endeavor to pull it off. And some have never had one at all. But a new poll finds that there is one position with which women most often wind up having an orgasm. Though the study found that the majority of women usually have "on bottom" (aka missionary and the like) sex, the best position for the female orgasm happens when they are on top.

But then I thought about it, and realized that "on bottom" sex is high on the list for its feeling of intimacy, warmth and human connection. There's something lovely about the weight of another human being on top of oneself. So perhaps all is not lost for feminism, and a little over half of women (54 percent) routinely have missionary, etc. sex because they prefer it. And then maybe they hop on top and get off, who knows. This poll only allowed women to pick one position in which they usually have sex, but most people usually change it up, so there's some wiggle room / a margin of error involved. Remember to also read https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/02/female-101/

When 2,400 women were asked “Do any of these positions [woman on top, missionary and doggy style] get you to orgasm better than others?” here's what they said.

1. Women On Top: 43.1%

1,035 ladies reported that they have the best shot at an orgasm if they are atop their partner.

2. Missionary: 18.8%

451 women said they most regularly experience orgasms when they are under their partner.

3. Doggy Style: 28.6%

686 gals picked this all-fours position as the one most likely to trigger an orgasm.

4. Other: 9.5%

228 women said that they most often have orgasms in positions not including the other options.

https://www.quora.com/What-makes-my-current-female-partners-vagina-extremely-wet-and-moist-before-during-and-after-sex

The vagina is a mucous membrane, which means that the skin and tissue of a healthy vagina are always moist. Many factors can affect how much fluid the vagina produces.

Typically, the inside of the vagina feels slightly wet. Hormonal swings, fertility status, and arousal can change the amount, consistency, and color of a person’s vaginal fluids. The vagina may feel very wet during arousal, while menopause can cause vaginal dryness.

Vaginal fluids are essential for keeping the vagina healthy and for making sexual activity comfortable. However some people feel anxiety about their vaginal fluids. Knowing what the fluids are, their function, and what is normal can help ease a person’s worries. You would also love to read https://exoticsex.home.blog/2020/05/02/3-female-orgasm/

WHAT CAUSES VAGINAL WETNESS?

Most forms of vaginal wetness come from one of two places: Bartholin glands or the cervix. Bartholin glands are two small, pea-sized glands located just inside the vagina. They help lubricate the vagina to prevent excessive dryness. They also produce moisture when a female feels aroused, and during sexual activity.

The cervix produces mucus throughout a person’s menstrual cycle. As ovulation approaches, the cervix produces more fluid. This fertile cervical mucus can help sperm travel to the egg, increasing the odds of pregnancy. Another must read article is https://cornerreviews.food.blog/2020/05/02/stimulate-her-g-spot/

AROUSAL

When a female feels sexually aroused, the Bartholin glands produce more fluid. This fluid helps lubricate the vagina during sexual activity, decreasing the risk of painful friction and injuries. Some people notice that their vagina becomes lubricated during sex even if they do not feel aroused.

The lubrication typically lingers even after a person finishes having sex or no longer feels aroused. It is normal for the vagina to feel wet for an hour or two after sex or arousal.

As females age, they may notice an increase in vaginal dryness. After menopause, the body produces less estrogen, making it more difficult to keep the vagina lubricated. The walls of the vagina also become thinner, which can make vaginal dryness painful. Remember to take a look on https://couplesexguide.wordpress.com/2020/05/21/female-ejaculation-2/

HORMONAL CHANGES

Higher estrogen levels can increase vaginal wetness by causing the Bartholin glands to produce more fluid. People on hormone treatments, such as those taking hormone replacement therapy, may notice an increase in vaginal wetness. Some people use vaginal estrogen to increase vaginal wetness.

INFECTIONS

When vaginal fluid changes or a person produces significantly more vaginal fluid than normal, it may be a sign of an infection. A yeast infection causes thick, white, cottage cheese-like discharge. The vagina may itch, burn, or feel very sore and dry, and sex can be very painful. A yeast infection is a fungal infection. In most cases, over-the-counter (OTC) antifungal yeast infection medicine can treat it.

Vaginal fluid can appear a range of colors, including creamy, pink, yellowish, and gray. These colors have different meanings. Read Medical News Today’s color coded guide to vaginal discharge to find out more. Lastly also take a look on https://couplesguide.home.blog/2020/05/18/deep-pussy-guide/

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Sex is a very vital part of many modern relationships – and there’s a good reason for it. It’s the ultimate expression of physical intimacy. It’s the ultimate show of mutual vulnerability. There is nothing more vulnerable than being able to bare your whole self to your partner in such a manner that you would doing sex. You would never feel more connected – whether physically or emotionally – as you do when you’re having sex. And that’s why a lot of the strongest and happiest couples are the ones who have very healthy and active sex lives.

So, it’s always a good thing if you and your partner are sexually active in your relationship. However, if the both of you consider sex to be a very big deal in your romantic lives, then that means that you both have responsibilities to meet each other’s needs. Of course, on a biological level, men are always put at a disadvantage when it comes to having to pleasure their sexual counterparts. It’s so easy for men to get into the mood because of how they are wired physiologically.

And it’s even easier to get men to climax than it is for women. However, that doesn’t mean that you have an excuse for not doing everything in your power to sexually satisfy your girl. That is still your responsibility as her partner. But what do you do if you notice that she’s just not in the mood a lot? What if it’s so hard for you to just get her to actually be sexually intimate with you without forcing her into it? Well, there are a few things that you can be doing to improve your chances of getting laid in your relationship.

GIVE HER PLENTY OF YOUR TIME.

Sometimes, a girl just wants to feel wanted. And there’s nothing that makes her feel more wanted than by giving her most of your time. Let her know that you prioritize her and that you’re always going to make time for her.

MAKE SURE TO ALWAYS PRACTICE GOOD HYGIENE.

This should be natural to you already – regardless if you want her to have sex with you or not. However, it always pays to practice good hygiene. She isn’t going to want to get down and dirty with a man who is already dirty to begin with.

MAKE SURE TO ALWAYS BE AT HER SIDE EVEN DURING THE BAD DAYS.

Let her know that you’re close enough as a couple to always withstand whatever trials you might face together. She is going to be able to confide with you both in a physical and emotional manner.

GET EMOTIONALLY INTIMATE WITH HER.

Sometimes, emotional intimacy can lead to physical intimacy. In fact, that’s often the case with women. Just open yourself up and bare your soul to her. And she’s going to do the same for you.

FLIRT WITH HER.

Sometimes, it’s all a matter of going back to the basics. Go back to old-fashioned flirting. Let her know that you still want her. Flatter her with your desire and affection. Make her feel special by letting you know that you’re still attracted to her and that you’re willing to work for her attention

https://www.quora.com/How-do-I-tell-my-wife-I-want-to-lick-her-pussy

Getting your woman in the right frame of mind is one of the most crucial aspects of being able to give her an orgasm. Women are emotional creatures, and its literally impossible to give her an orgasm while she remains in a logical frame of mind (like when she’s just finished work or is stressed out.) This is why scientists always find it hard to study the female orgasm.

It is your duty and responsibility to get her relaxed, and turn her on so that she forgets about the stresses and worries of life – this is what foreplay is all about.

And unlike men, women take much longer to get in the mood. Maybe you can get an erection and get ready for sex within 10 seconds, for women it could take half an hour or more.

Women want to feel comfortable, secure and wanted. When you can make her feel those things in your presence, she’ll be able to cum a lot quicker. The environment you’re in has a huge impact on whether she will be able to fully relax and let go. Music is POWERFUL also, so use it to your advantage. Find some chill out music on Spotify or YouTube and let it run in the background to give a relaxed vibe in the room.

THINK DIAL, NOT SWITCH

I’ve said this time and time again. Women are like dials, not switches. You need to turn them on and gradually let the tension build until she’s super horny. So before you can even go down on her, turn her on.

Foreplay might seem like a chore, but I can assure you, the better you get at foreplay, the easier it will be to get her to cum from oral.

TEASING & ANTICIPATION,

Teasing and foreplay is where the power of the orgasm comes from. Imagine you have a huge bucket at the top of a ladder. The bucket holds water, but first you need to fill up the bucket with water. Your aim with the bucket is to make the biggest and most dramatic explosion possible when you finally decide to push the bucket of water off the ladder. You could just put a little bit of water in the bucket and then push it off. But the explosion of water wouldn’t be very big. You could spend more time filling up the bucket and when you finally pushed the bucket off the ladder the explosion was huge.

The water is like female sexual energy. It needs time and foreplay to build up, but the longer you take to build up her energy, the bigger the orgasm explosion will be at the end.

One of the best ways to increase anticipation and excitiement is to use props. Because women can also be very self-conscious about sex, and especially about when they get their vagina licked out, a blindfold can be a great way to make her feel less self conscious, and instead just enjoy the sensations.

Using a blindfold on her also has the extra effect of reducing one of her senses. When her sight is switched off her perception of touch will massively increase. (So she will feel MOORREEE)

It’s also slightly scary wearing a blindfold. You will have complete control over her (which women love) and her sense of excitement and anticipation will increase.

https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-best-vagina-licking-technique

SUCK, LICK, RUB, BLOW

The magical formula for getting her to orgasm. Never start with the clit. This is a mistake a lot of guys make. You need to build up to the clit and then stay there until she orgasms, but don’t jump straight to it. Think of it as the final piece of the puzzle.

Kiss around her vagina first, inner thighs are a great erogenous zone. Stop over her vagina and breathe slowly, so she can feel your warm breath. This will increase her anticipation.

Begin slowly licking the labia minora (lips) for a minute or so. She should be groaning, wriggling and grabbing your hair. Listen to her body if she’s not telling you what she wants verbally (which most women won’t).

After a few minutes, then start working on the clit. Softly kiss her clitoris, lick it and suck it. You need to lubricate that little wondrous marble.

Now things are in full swing and she should be on her way to orgasming. Don’t stop there though, move back down to her lips, let your saliva and her pussy juice make a slippery lube for her pussy.

DON’T YOU DARE STOP, DAMMIT

There will be two types of communication from your girl during your oral session. Verbal and nonverbal. However non-verbal will be the most prominent.

When she squirms, bites her lip, moans, groans, grabs your head, moves her hips, grabs the bed sheets, says things like “fuuuuuck”, that means you keep doing what you’re doing and DO NOT STOP.

Also, stay at the same speed/rhythm. You don’t need to go super fast or slow, just keep the same pace until she cums. If you change things up, she’ll find it harder to climax.

Whether you like it or not, eating pussy will be something that you’ll just have to learn to love, if you want a great sex life. If you find the idea of licking her out completely disgusting, then you need to find a girl that doesn’t mind not receiving oral.

Not impossible, but very hard.

Get her comfortable and happy

Turn her on slowly and build up the sexual tension

Kiss her body from head to toe slowly

Lick her pussy lips (outside first, then inside)

Cup her clit with your mouth and suck consistently

Keep up the same rhythm and momentum

Insert a finger or two to emulate penetration

Rub her g-spot and/or a-spot

Clean the bedsheets… they’re probably messy

Quick note: If you’re struggling to get your girl to orgasm and you’re in need of desperate help, then you need

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THE TWO OF YOU DON'T HAVE SEX ANYMORE.

Sex isn't everything in a marriage, but it's not nothing, either. Of course, you may not be having sex multiple times a day like you did when you got together. But if you're both physically and mentally healthy enough for sex but go months or even years without it, that's a surefire sign your relationship is seriously off-kilter.

If you have noticed that your sexual attraction to your partner has significantly diminished, this is a red flag that something serious is going on in your marriage. Intimacy is a strong part of a healthy marriage. Without intimacy, marriages end in divorce or are filled with anger, resentment or two couples living together as if they were roommates.

YOU'RE NOT INVESTED IN FIXING YOUR MARRIAGE.

Fixing a marriage is hard work. However, if you're opposed to the idea entirely, and would rather just stay miserable, your marriage may already be done for.

Every marriage has its ups and downs. Sometimes there are periods of highs that last for years and other times where the lows last just as long. But during the low times, healthy couples communicate and find ways to quickly strengthen their marriage. If you find yourself highlighting the bad aspects to your marriage and dismissing all the solutions to fix those things, you may be checking out of your marriage.

What transitions couples from desperation about their difficulties to delight in sharing their lives together?

Smile more. Touch more. Hug more. More “eye kisses.” More sex. More shared time and shared projects. More appreciation. More dwelling on what you like about your partner.

Respond more often with agreement in response to things your partner says that in the past you might have answered with, “But...” Listening is loving—especially when you are listening to take in information, not to show what's wrong with what your partner says or to show that you know more.

Help out more. Give more praise and more gratitude. Do more fun activities together. Laugh and joke more, do new things, and go new places together.

The best things in life really are free. And the more positives you give, the more you’ll get. Increasing the positives is every bit as important as decreasing negatives to hit a 100,000,000:1 ratio.

READY TO GET STARTED?

Would you expect to drive a car without first taking drivers’ ed? Search out books and marriage courses to learn the communication and conflict resolution skills for marriage partnership. Then in addition to ending your marriage problems, you’ll make your partnership a loving success.

https://www.quora.com/Why-are-vaginal-orgasms-so-rare

In men, the head of the penis (glans) contains the largest concentration of orgasm-triggering nerves. Intercourse stimulates these nerves a great deal, which is why, among men whose sex involved only intercourse, they have orgasms.

But in women, orgasm-inducing nerves are located not in the vagina, but in the clitoris, the little nub of tissue that sits a few inches north of the vaginal opening nestled under the upper junction of the vaginal lips. Intercourse provides some women with enough clitoral stimulation to elicit orgasm, but intercourse—even extended, vigorous intercourse—provides only a little direct clitoral stimulation, which is why most women do not have orgasms from normal intercourse.

Unfortunately, many men believe that women “should” have orgasms during intercourse. This belief often comes from the sexual mis-education men receive from pornography. In porn, the women look like they have orgasms during intercourse. Actually, they don't. None of them ever have orgasms on camera no matter how long the intercourse last. However, they have orgasms at home during lovemaking in their private lives—thanks to receiving direct caresses by their lover's hand or mouth or a vibrator.

Compared with intercourse, hand massage of the vulva and cunnilingus are considerably more likely to stimulate the clitoris, which is why lovemaking that includes them makes such substantial difference in women’s rates of orgasm.

Most women’s need for direct clitoral stimulation also explains some of the demographics of women’s orgasms:

As age and education increase, so do women’s rates of orgasm—because older and better-educated women are more likely to speak up and ask for direct clitoral touch.

And as women move from traditional roles into the labor force and from fundamentalism toward religious liberalism, their rates of orgasm also increase—again because they are less likely to feel cowed by convention and more likely to assert their needs.

I’m not dismissing the pleasure of intercourse. Many women insist they love it. They say they enjoy the special closeness it provides and the marvelous sensations involved in holding their lover during intercourse.

But when it comes to women’s orgasms, intercourse often falls short. So, guys, if you want to give her the gift or orgasm, listen to how women prefer to make love:

- More kissing, cuddling, and sensual whole-body massage.

- Slower pace. Don’t rush into intercourse.

- And when she feels ready for genital play, direct, gentle, loving caressing of her clitoris.

https://www.quora.com/How-can-you-tell-if-a-woman-has-had-an-orgasm

“Did you come?” This question looms over a good deal of lovemaking among lovers. Fortunately, gentlemen, it’s usually not difficult to recognize women’s orgasms. And it’s fairly easy to help most women get there. All men need to do is let go of the idea that intercourse is all it takes.

Women Fake Orgasm for several reasons:

- To boost partners’ egos and avoid hurting their feelings.

- To avoid shaming and accusations of inadequacy.

- To end the sex.

- And for nonsexual gains—recognition as the man’s official girlfriend, to cement the relationship, or to elicit marriage proposals

Faking is age-related. As age increases, more women become better able to ask for the clitoral caresses that trigger an orgasm, and most men gain insights into the sexual moves that help women climax.

HOW MEN CAN TELL

Gentlemen, given the frequency of faking, if you feel the need to ask, chances are she didn’t come. Especially if you make love drunk, rush into intercourse, or don’t provide gentle, extended hand massage of her clitoris and cunnilingus every time.

Most orgasms are actually pretty hard to miss. Women’s resemble men’s. Think about your own and you’ll be better able to identify women’s. The vast majority begin with the quickening of breathing often accompanied by gasps or moans followed by several seconds of rapid, involuntary contractions of the muscles around the vulva and anus, usually with a jerky movement of the hips and often the whole body. Orgasms conclude with release into relaxation and dreamy contentment. If you help her to orgasm orally, your lips and tongue are likely to feel her vaginal muscle contractions.

BOOST HER ORGASM DURING INTERCOURSE

Only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic during intercourse. The old in-out doesn’t provide much stimulation for women’s orgasm trigger, the clitoris, which sits an inch or two above the vaginal opening under the top junction of the vaginal lips.

But many couples would like women to come during intercourse. There is a position that allow men to provide direct clitoral massage quite easily. I

THE COITAL ALIGNMENT TECHNIQUE (CAT) - During conventional man-on-top intercourse, erections move almost horizontally. A Man should shift forward and to one side so his chest covers one of her shoulders. With this change, erections move more up and down, and the pubic bone at the base of the penis makes more direct contact with the clitoris. The CAT doesn’t guarantee women orgasms during man-on-top intercourse, and it’s no substitute for gentle, extended clitoral caresses by hand, mouth, or vibrator. But the CAT significantly improves most women’s ability to have orgasms during man-on-top intercourse.

MOCK-INTERCOURSE - Instead of inserting, he positions his erection to press against the sensitive groove between her inner vaginal lips. Assuming good lubrication, his shaft presses against her urethral sponge, while his glans caresses her clitoris.

https://www.quora.com/When-do-women-exactly-reach-orgasm

When women do climax, there are changes throughout the whole body, a head-to-toe kind of experience. One of the ways women can experience orgasm is through a goal-oriented four-step process first described by the sex researchers decades ago.

EXCITEMENT

In this state of desire or arousal, the woman initiates or agrees to sex, and as it commences she finds herself focusing mainly on sexual stimuli. Blood begins to engorge the clitoris, vagina, and nipples, and creates a full-body sexual blush. Heart rate and blood pressure increases. Testosterone and neurotransmitters such as dopamine and serotonin are involved in these processes.

PLATEAU

Sexual tension builds as a precursor to orgasm. The outer one-third of the vagina becomes particularly engorged with blood, creating what researchers refer to as the "orgasmic platform." Focus on sexual stimuli drowns out all other sensations. Heart rate, blood pressure, and respiration continue to increase.

ORGASM

A series of rhythmic contractions occur in the uterus, vagina, and pelvic floor muscles. The sexual tension caused by lovemaking or self-stimulation releases, and muscles throughout the body may contract. A feeling of warmth usually emanates from the pelvis and spreads throughout the entire body.

RESOLUTION

The body relaxes, with blood flowing away from the engorged sexual organs. Heart rate, blood pressure, and respiration return to normal.

DIFFERENT TYPES OF ORGASM

Women are blessed with bodies that are capable of experiencing orgasm in more ways than one. Some researchers believe that there are as many as 12 types of female orgasms. The most common type is a "clitoral" orgasm.

Clitoral stimulation has been proved the surest route to orgasm. I think that clitoral stimulation produces probably the closest analogue to male orgasm, where you get erectile tissue, there is release, and after release it is uncomfortable to continue.

THE G-SPOT

The G-spot is an area felt through the wall of the vagina, an inch or two behind the back of the pubic bone near the junction of the bladder and the urethra and made up of tissues of the clitoris, urethra, and the female prostate gland. When stimulated, the G-spot causes intense sexual pleasure in some women.

SENSORY PATHWAYS

Women also have been able to have orgasms through stimulation of the breasts or other parts of the body, or through the use of sexual imagery without any touch at all. Researchers have even found a nerve pathway outside the spinal cord, through the sensory vagus nerve, that will lead a woman to experience orgasm through sensations transmitted directly to the brain. There are many nerve pathways that are responsible for the experience of orgasm in women.

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Today's Question: What-does-it-feel-like-when-you-are-inside-a-woman-who-orgasms

I asked this question on my blog and here are the best responses I got from several men:

“Like the best hug ever…. like her vagina wants to say “thank you for being here.”

“Her pussy gets wetter and clenches my cock more so. My ex used to clench me with everything. Pussy, arms, legs wrapped around my back and locked, and she’d hold her breath. It was like “you’re not going anywhere!” If I was on top. Doggy style, I would hit that deep g spot and she’d have rolling orgasms and I would have to hold her upright by her little buns, because her thighs would go weak, she’d be face down, limp and speechless as she would start to tip over. It was so beautiful and cute. Ugh. I miss her. Her pussy would convulse for minutes on end and she couldn’t talk. Coming in her was heaven. I’ve put myself in a coma from OD’ing…I have been as high as consciously possible…nothing compared to her and I coming together. I have to say, we had an unbelievable sex life.”

“Amazing. No really. To be honest, it’s like velvet waves flowing down and around while gripping the penis while trying to push it out. At least, that’s my experience.”

“As others said, it is strongly dependent on the girl – If she has well developed pelvic floor muscles, it can be a pretty amazing sensation. It is kind of hard to describe though: it’s almost like getting a very good blowjob, except that the active gripping and milking makes it really unique. What makes it even more of a turn on is when I feel that, and know that it happened due to her own orgasm.”

“The emotional/spiritual sensation is amazing. Sometimes I smile and admire my work. Women cum so many different ways, sometimes quiet and divine, or loud and roaring… I try to appreciate their individual, expressive orgasms for what they are. Physically, much depends on the PC muscle. The really strong orgasms cause such intense physical sensations that I almost always lose control and if I climax then, it’s a hard and heart stopping orgasm. This is especially so without a condom, but even still I can feel the vaginal wall strengthening its grip on my penis and drawing more blood to the glans for maximum sensation. I just have to admire how biologically designed we are for this stuff.”

“If my penis is in her when she cums I feel her vagina pulsing and tightening around my penis. I love that feeling.”

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Stimulate Her G-Spot

At first you may want to use just one finger slowly inserted inside her with your palm facing the roof. Make sure the finger is well lubed and the lube is body temperature. A cold hand will sharply reduce her arousal, and you will have to build her arousal back up again.

There are 3 basic motions that can be used to stimulate her g-spot with your finger(s).

The 1st motion (and most important one) is the come hither motion. The fingers are curled upwards and moved in and out towards your palm. This is what can quite often make her have a squirting orgasm.

The 2nd motion is the windscreen wiper motion.The curled fingers are moved from side to side across the g-spot, essentially wiping her g-spot. The tips of your fingers will be pointing towards her left hip then her right hip.

The 3rd motion the barrel roll inside her. Use the tips of your fingers to make a circular motion inside the vagina. Use the 3 motions with either one or two fingers to stimulate her g-spot. Remember I have got the whole guide into understanding and pleasing your girl here: Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it

The Ultimate Double Stimulation

Double stimulation means stimulating the clitoris with one hand and the g-spot with the other hand. This can bring about more powerful and pleasurable orgasms, and help her reach orgasm more quickly.

When you have a rhythm that she enjoys, keep with that rhythm. Speed-up as she gets more turned on, when you feel her g spot start swelling up it will put more pressure on your fingers, this is the sign she is really turned on and almost ready to start ejaculating, maintain the rhythm or increase the speed and pressure slightly, with the come hither motion hooking round the g-spot.

Advanced Fingering Techniques

Here’s an advanced fingering technique you can use tonight. With her lying on her back, slide your hand under her bum, just far enough so that your thumb can reach into her pussy. Gently insert your thumb into her pussy, whilst at the same time erotically massaging her clit with your tongue.

The thumb is slightly thicker and stronger than a finger, and the downward pressure can be a new sensation for her. When combined with the tongue, this is something she’ll really enjoy and keep asking you to do to her again.

Fingering Her While You Eat Her Pussy

So, you’re starting to understand a few of the simple ways you can use your fingers to give her the ultimate sexual pleasure… But she’d be missing out if you only used your hands. Because your mouth, and specifically your tongue can be an incredibly effective ‘instrument of female orgasms.’ To take your fingering game to the next level you’ll need to learn how to stimulate her clit with your mouth whilst using your fingers.

Before I cover the last point let me let you know that if you want your woman to go beyond ordinary orgasms then this guide is for you; Female Ejaculation; Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm

Enter The Butterfly…

The Butterfly

The butterfly is an advanced fingering technique, and one of my personal favorites because most women have never had this type of stimulation before. With the woman lying on her back slowly start massaging her clit with your tongue until she’s dripping wet and begging for a finger. Lift one hand up to her pussy and slowly insert your index finger. As your first finger goes in, slowly take your other hand and use your index finger to circle round her butt hole.

With your two fingers and tongue this is essentially a form of triple stimulation and sometimes the pleasure can be overwhelming for women…

Remember I still got plenty of sexual advice on my blog here

Good luck and enjoy!

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