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The mistake that so many women make when exploring how to become dominant is that they think they need to make drastic, massive changes in their attitude and actions. Thankfully this isn’t the case at all. In fact, if you suddenly change your attitude, you may even freak your man out, which is obviously not the goal at all.
So what kinds of steps can you take to slowly become more dominant?
Try initiating: Kiss your man when he’s not expecting it. Run your hand up and down his thigh to let him know what you’re thinking about. Take him by the hand and lead him somewhere private, then start unbuckling his belt. Push him down onto your bed. Try some ‘women on top’ sex positions. Start with the easier things and you’ll quickly notice how easy & fun it is!
Tell him that you want to try something new: You could pin his arms and tie him to the bed. You could handcuff his hands behind his back and then ‘have your way with him’ by giving him a blow job. You could ask him to go down on you and then use your hands on his head to guide it to exactly where you want him to focus on.
Let's be real, nobody warns you that the person who used to make your heart race will eventually become the person you argue with about whose turn it is to do the dishes. That's not romantic, but it's true. I've spent years diving into relationship research, listening to podcasts from experts and, reading books on attachment and intimacy, and yeah, observing my own relationship patterns. Here's what I learned: Playfulness isn't just some cute bonus feature in relationships. It's actually one of the biggest predictors of long term satisfaction. But most couples lose it within the first few years because they mistake comfort for connection. The good news? You can get it back, and it doesn't require being someone you're not.
Step 1: Stop treating your relationship like a business partnership
You know what kills playfulness faster than anything? Turning your relationship into a productivity machine. Task lists, schedules, responsibilities, who did what, who owes what. Yes, adulting is necessary. But if every interaction is transactional or logistical, you're basically roommates who occasionally have sex.
Start noticing how often your conversations are just admin meetings. "Did you pay the electric bill?" "We need to discuss vacation plans." "Your mom called again." Nothing wrong with these conversations, but if that's ALL you're having, your relationship becomes a to-do list.
The fix? Schedule non-negotiable time where you're NOT allowed to talk about responsibilities. Seriously. Make it a rule. During dinner, during your evening walk, whatever. Talk about literally anything else. Childhood memories, weird hypotheticals, dreams, fears, random thoughts. This creates space for spontaneity and playfulness to actually exist.
Step 2: Bring back the stupid inside jokes
Remember when you first started dating and everything was an inside joke? You had your weird voices, your dumb nicknames, your references that made zero sense to anyone else? That shit matters. It creates a private world that only you two inhabit.
Long term couples often lose this because they start taking themselves too seriously. They think maturity means being serious all the time. Wrong. Maturity means knowing when to be serious and when to be absolutely ridiculous.
Start small. Send a meme that only your partner would find funny. Make up a stupid song about something mundane. Do an impression of your cat. Yes, this feels dumb. That's the point. Playfulness requires dropping your guard and being willing to look silly.
Step 3: Physical playfulness is NOT just foreplay
Touch your partner in ways that aren't sexual. Wrestle. Tickle. Dance badly in the kitchen. Give them a random hug from behind. Physical playfulness builds intimacy without the pressure of it leading somewhere.
Here's what research shows: Couples who engage in novel, exciting activities together report higher relationship satisfaction. Why? Because novelty releases dopamine, the same chemical that flooded your brain when you first met. You're literally recreating that early relationship high.
Try something new together that forces you both to be beginners. Rock climbing, salsa dancing, cooking a cuisine you've never tried. When you're both bad at something, you laugh at yourselves and each other. That shared vulnerability is where playfulness lives.
Step 4: Stop being so damn efficient all the time
Efficiency is the enemy of fun. You know what's efficient? Meal prep, separate errands, optimized schedules. You know what's fun? Making a mess together in the kitchen at 10pm because you decided to bake cookies. Taking the long way home. Getting "lost" on purpose.
Start intentionally wasting time together. Not scrolling on your phones next to each other. Actually doing nothing productive. Lie on the floor and stare at the ceiling. Play a board game. Build a blanket fort if you're feeling extra adventurous.
Step 5: Embrace your partner's weird humor
Your partner probably has jokes or bits that you don't find that funny. Maybe they do impressions that aren't great. Maybe they have a dumb running gag. Here's the thing: laugh anyway. Not in a fake way, but find the humor in THEIR enjoyment of it.
Playfulness isn't about both people having the same sense of humor. It's about delighting in each other's delight. When your partner cracks themselves up with something you think is dumb, their joy can be contagious if you let it.
This requires genuine fondness. If you've built up resentment or contempt (what Dr. Gottman calls relationship poison), playfulness will feel impossible. You can't be playful with someone you're actively annoyed at. Which brings me to...
Step 6: Repair the small shit before it becomes big shit
You can't be playful if you're holding grudges. Every unresolved argument, every passive aggressive comment, every eye roll adds weight to your relationship. Eventually, you're carrying so much baggage that playfulness feels impossible.
Get better at repair attempts. These are the little things you do to de-escalate conflict and reconnect. A joke during an argument (if done right), a gentle touch, acknowledging your partner's point even when you disagree.
Step 7: Give each other permission to be imperfect
Perfectionism kills playfulness. If you're constantly trying to present your best self, you can't let loose. If you're judging your partner for being goofy or weird, they'll stop showing that side.
Create a culture in your relationship where being silly is safe. Where you can fail at things together and laugh about it. Where neither of you has to be "on" all the time.
This means dropping criticism and judgment. Notice when you're being critical of your partner's attempts at fun. Are you shutting them down? Rolling your eyes? Being dismissive? Check yourself. Playfulness requires emotional safety.
Step 8: Surprise them (in small ways)
Playfulness thrives on unpredictability. Not in a chaotic way, but in a "I don't know what to expect" way. Surprise your partner with something small and unexpected. Leave a weird note in their lunch. Send them a voice memo of you singing badly. Show up with their favorite snack for no reason.
Big romantic gestures are nice, but small, frequent surprises create ongoing delight. They signal "I was thinking about you" and "I wanted to make you smile." That's intimacy.
Step 9: Laugh at yourselves together
The couples who last are the ones who can laugh at their own relationship. Your weird habits, your recurring arguments, your patterns. When you can joke about "here we go again with the thermostat debate," you're creating lightness around potentially heavy topics.
This doesn't mean avoiding serious conversations. It means not taking EVERYTHING so seriously. Some things deserve to be laughed at, including yourselves.
Step 10: Remember why you liked them in the first place
Somewhere along the way, you chose this person. You laughed with them. You had fun. That version of your relationship still exists underneath the bills and stress and routine. You just have to choose to access it.
Playfulness is a choice. It's deciding that your relationship deserves joy, not just function. It's prioritizing connection over convenience. It's being willing to look stupid if it makes your partner smile.
The relationship you want already exists. You just have to stop treating your partner like a coworker and start treating them like someone you actually want to play with.
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The One-Handed Wonder
In general, most
men masturbate using their dominant hand (minus the guys who do “the stranger”
just to mix it up a bit). As a common and seemingly natural technique, it’s one
of the easiest to perform on yourself, whether you’re new to the whole
masturbation thing or not. It requires no special skills and, quite frankly, is
for rookies only. However, there is a certain way to do it if you want it to
feel as awesome as possible (and I know you do):
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Grip your dick with your good hand, maintaining a firm yet
gentle hold. In other words, don’t choke your chicken so hard that it passes
out. Allow for proper blood flow but be sure you’re not holding it so
lightly that the entire exercise is pointless. Adjust the strength of your grip
as you go to determine what feels best to you.
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To avoid drag and chaffing, put some lube on your hand or dick
before you begin. I don’t suggest using lotion or oil because it can cause skin
irritation and may make your junk smell funny. I recommend a good water-based
lubricant, and plenty of it.
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In a smooth rhythm, move your hand up and down the shaft of your
penis at whatever speed suits you. Don’t be afraid to speed it up or slow it
down throughout the session as you see fit.
Read more Powerful Male Multi-Orgasm Masturbation Techniques OR Delayed Ejaculation? Using the Trigger Method to Cum Quickly
The Two-Handed Tango
Using both of your
hands can be a magical mystery ride as well. If your dick isn’t too small
(which I hope it’s not), try placing your hands side-by-side on the shaft for a
whole different kind of experience. While doing so isn’t too much of a
variation from the one-handed wonder, this technique will still offer you a
little more variety in terms of sensation in the event that you can’t afford
the joy of a toy. Here are my humble suggestions for this semi-marvelous method:
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With a grip similar to the one you used for the one-handed
wonder technique, grab your cock and squeeze until it feels tight enough to
resemble an orifice while keeping it loose enough to move your hands up and
down.
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Once again, to avoid ripping the skin off your dick, slap on a
bunch of water-based lubricant before you get started.
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Using the same smooth motions as before, stroke your cock up and
down at whatever speed you prefer. I suggest squeezing a little tighter at the
tip just to give your penis more pleasure, since that’s where most of the nerve
endings reside.
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You might also try making a somewhat circular motion with your
hands as you move up and down. I found that doing that feels amazing, not to
mention it mimics real-life sex a lot more than the standard vertical pimp.
There’s also no
perfect way to do this method either, but a little skill does go a long way. To
two-handed tango allows you to experience multiple sensations at once, but
unfortunately it will prevent you from “minding the step children” along the
way.
Read more
50 Illustrated Masturbation Techniques for Men
Homemade Pussy; 40 DIY Sex Toys for Men
Morning Stretches; Types n Methods of Penis Stimulation, Alone & or With a Partner
Penis Massage; Complete Guide into Pleasuring Him with Your Hands
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The most important thing you can do is to help him relax and not stress about it. Tell him that you enjoy making love with him whether or not he cums. When the two of you want to make love, you can both stay in the moment and focus on the wonderful physical pleasure and emotional closeness of sex. On his own he can use this
The two of you can just enjoy fucking until one of you is ready to be done, or until he reaches ejaculation. If he is not trying for it, the chances of it just happening are much increased. If you stop without him finishing, then he can either masturbate afterward or you can bring him off with your mouth or hand.
It may help for you to be vocal during sex, if you aren’t already. When my partner says things like “I love your big cock in my pussy! It feels so good! Fuck me harder!” that really gets me going. When he gets really close you can add stuff like “I can feel you’re about to cum! I want your cum in me! Fuck me until you fill me up!” and so on. Read Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy
Of course, if his problem is the opposite then he needs something else completely
I know I am always talking about how to help her achieve an orgasm. Of course, orgasms feel amazing, but the act of chasing them can add a lot of pressure to your sex life that you don't need.
Recent research has focused on “orgasm coercion": the idea that trying too hard to make your partner come can put pressure on them, which feels like coercion. People on the receiving end may feel like their climax is more about their partner's need to feel "man enough" than it is about their pleasure.
Instead, learn What Your Partner Likes, and Follow Their Lead.
Direct, external clitoral stimulation is the most surefire way to bring many women to orgasm and oral sex is a pretty good way of going about that. Using your mouth is the best way to get a sense of what your partner likes at every stage of arousal, including the stage just before orgasm. You’ll know your partner is becoming more aroused if you notice increased vaginal lubrication or if the external portion of their clitoris or their entire vulva swells. The clitoris, including the wishbone-shaped portion that’s underneath the skin, is made of erectile tissue just like the penis, so if your partner’s genitals increase in size, you’re doing a good job!
To find out more about your partner’s preferences, let them take the lead. When you're giving her oral sex, get between her legs and give her a solid base of lips and tongue to rub against. While your partner does the grinding, note how hard she is pushing and in what direction. Use that information later when using your fingers or mouth to please her.
Obviously, talking with your partner about what they like is one thing, execution of that is another. There's always a learning curve in understanding your partner's body and what pleasures them. So much goes into effective stimulation (pressure, speed, angle), and odds are, you're not going to get all of it right the first time. So, don't be afraid to ask how you're doing, and what you can be doing better.
This means you need something up your sleeve to at least get feedback from and a good place to start is using these FREE PDFs of some techniques you may want to use.
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Grinding against your man during sex is a classic move. It’s pretty easy to do and it’s great for clitoral stimulation. In fact, one study found that 76% of women use a grinding or “rocking” technique to “make vaginal penetration more pleasurable” by rubbing against the base of a penis or toy that stays “inside the vagina rather than thrusting in and out”.
Grinding/rocking for women – If you’re in a position such as Cowgirl, your partner can place his fingers around the base of his penis for you to grind against them using the Vulcan V technique. Grinding also works well in the Thigh Tide sex position.
Because gliding doesn’t involve a lot of in-and-out movement, it can help the penis stay in place if it’s likely to fall out during thrusting.
Grinding can be forward and backward, side to side, or around. You can play with it to figure out what works well for you! One such trend is to spell the word “COCONUT” with your hips. Of course, it won’t be perfect, but it can help you visualize how to move your hips during sex.
Grinding/rocking for men – Although grinding is usually associated with women, men can do it, too. As previously mentioned, it can help minimize slipping out and feel great for both partners. Try it during Missionary or even a position like Jockey, Prone Bone or Rear Entry.
Thrusting is just one part of sex. Other movements, stimulation, and communication can all make your time between the sheets a wonderful memory… or a frustrating disappointment. That is why you need to read I am not a Starfish: A Female Step by Step Guide to Actively Participate During Sex
OR Thrusting Into her Pussy | Switching Penis Angle of Entry, Stroke, Rhythm & Positioning
It also goes without saying that you can also download these 18 FREE sex guides PDFs to help you vary your sex moves here
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There are a lot of claims about what all women find attractive. Usually they throw a heaping dose of misogyny on top of all that.
When people who buy into this stuff describe an alpha male, they’re usually just describing an asshole. And that’s not a sexy quality - at all.
But as a concept, I kind of get the whole alpha male thing.
There’s this tendency to think that fucking like an alpha just means having rough sex.
Choking her while you’re pounding her as hard as you can. Spanking her so hard her ass is red for days. Pumping your cock down her throat until her eyes water.
And sure, all that stuff is fine and good. If you’ve got her consent and she’s eager for it, then go ahead and make her mascara run.
But most women with a submissive side want something simpler than that.
They want to be seduced and gently dominated, even from simple steps as during kissing
They want to get fucked by someone who’s sexually secure and self-confident.
They want to get it on with someone who makes them feel hot and wanted. From there she can pretty much be very adventurous with all the things you want and like
If you want to fuck her like an alpha, those are the things you have to work on. Plenty of flirting, a decent amount of dirty talk, and some confidence in the sack - that’s really all it takes.
Alpha Male Style; Assertively Sexually Satisfying Her in Bed
Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy
The Best Man; Underhanded Tactics to Initiate Sex With Your Female Best Friend
The Art of Kissing - An Illustrated Step by Step Guide Into Kissing Techniques
This cannot be stressed enough by women everywhere. Too many times men are desperate to get to the blow jobs are skin slapping sex, and too few times do they stop to enjoy the simple act of undressing the other person.
Many women wear lingerie for the special men in their lives, and when they know they are going to take someone home for the night. They want to please you, and make you hot and bothered before either of you actually do anything. Let them. Trust us, it will be pleasure enough for you both.
Stop yourself from tearing away her clothes like a mad beast (at least sometimes,) and slowly and sensually take her clothes off. Kiss her body as you do so. Men often only pay attention to the important parts, and skimp over more sensitive areas. Kiss her neck, her arms, even her legs. Take your time, and enjoy the site of her naked body. It will not take anything away from your experience, and will heighten hers.
Women want to feel as if they are desirable, and that you find them sexy.
By the simple act of taking their clothes off, you can show them that. You can even reciprocate, and allow them to take your clothes off as quickly or slowly as they want. Let them enjoy your body, and feel along your lines. It is not as sexual as fingering someone, or giving a blowjob, but it can be much more sensual, and builds up the excitement for what comes next.
If you want more context on this, I’ve written longer breakdowns in these guides below
Foreplay Done Right; Getting Her Horny & Bothered
The Art of Kissing - An Illustrated Step by Step Guide Into Kissing Techniques
Sexually Owning Her; From Seduction, Foreplay, Peak Arousal to Penetration Techniques
Take Me Right Here; Making Your Woman Do Anything in Bed
Crack Her Code; The Art and Craft of Sexually Driving Her Wild In Bed
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One of the most pleasurable ways to up your foreplay game, is to work on your massage skills. You can add the massage at any time before you have sex or move on to oral, but it should be a tool in every man’s repertoire.
When you are taking her clothes off, or after you have already taken her clothes off, you can begin to massage her. The most effective and expressive part of her body that men do not massage, are her legs. Yes, her legs. Don’t go near her lady parts just yet. Take the time to explore the rest of her body, feel everything about her.
When you massage her, start with her legs, gently stretching and gently pulling her legs. Don’t be afraid, this step helps her relax, and better enjoy sex. Studies have shown that women do not enjoy sex, and can even experience painful sex if they are not relaxed beforehand and during. The massage is an easy way to relieve tension and stress she may be holding, and easing her own feelings of inadequacy before sex. Men are not the only ones worrying about whether or not they are pleasing their partner, after all.
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Once you have thoroughly massaged her legs, move down up to her thighs, and continue to pull and stretch. This can be extremely sensual, and teasing.
You are so close to her most sensitive areas, but you should still leave that for later. Make her enjoy the moment, and enjoy the teasing. You will build up the pleasure that can be released later. You have plenty of time to fully enjoy her moist sensitive spots later. From the thighs you can move back down her legs, and to her ankles and feet. Many may only believe that the feet are only for those with fetishes, but a gently but firm foot massage can help greatly in relaxing a woman. She will feel comfortable with you, and show it.
I’m only touching one piece of this, because the full picture is in the sex guides below and takes more space than this post allows.
Foreplay Done Right; Getting Her Horny & Bothered
Vagina Massage; Complete Guide into Pleasuring Her with Your Hands
Fingering Her; Explicitly Illustrated Techniques to do it Right
Female Pleasure 50 Creative Naughty Sex Moves to Thrill Her
Sexually Owning Her; From Seduction, Foreplay, Peak Arousal to Penetration Techniques
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Don’t get us wrong, men never forget the boobs. Whether you are a boob guy or an ass guy, they are one of the top things you look at when you first see or meet a woman. It’s hard not to focus on them. But too often that is all men do with breasts. They can be so much more than something to look at when she is still clothed. They are more than just an accessory, as there are tons of sensitive nerves in breasts that you can take advantage of when you and your female friend are fooling around. Don’t just watch them jiggle above you during sex. Play with them!
It seems strange that you should have to say feel the body of a woman, but trust us, you won’t regret taking the time to pay proper homage to the twins.
We recommend a variety of moves to maximize the sensations she will feel.
You can simply touch them, feel them, squeeze them when you are making out, or even when you get to the blow job stage. Nothing will set her sensations on fire than getting eaten out and her nipples gently pinched at the same time. The same can be said during foreplay. Massage her breasts, play with them. You can suckle them into your mouth, kissing along her breasts, and taking her nipple in your mouth. It can be extremely pleasurable for the woman, and you will be able to see her excitement with the hardening of her nipples.
While this tip in in the chapter on foreplay, it can be used at any point.
Playing with her breasts can maximize sensations while you penetrate her, and will take her to new heights during oral sex. It can be an extremely effective tool for every guy to begin using with their ladies.
I don’t want to pile on, so I’ll stop here, but this is something I’ve written about more fully in these guides below.
Foreplay Done Right; Getting Her Horny & Bothered
The Art of Kissing - An Illustrated Step by Step Guide Into Kissing Techniques
Female Pleasure 50 Creative Naughty Sex Moves to Thrill Her
Sexually Owning Her; From Seduction, Foreplay, Peak Arousal to Penetration Techniques
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Most people either love or hate giving oral, but not many people will say that they hate receiving it. Oral sex can feel amazing, and if you know what you are doing, you can get women to orgasm before you have any sex with her. Women are often complaining that most men do not know what they are doing down there, or that they are not taking the time to give oral sex.
This is the worst mistake you can make. Oral sex, good oral sex, is the easiest way to lube up a woman, and make her lose her mind with pleasure.
It is important for men not to start oral sex with thoughts of finishing in their mind. While it may not take long for a blowjob to get a guy hard, it takes a bit longer for women. In fact, it can take anywhere from up to ten to thirty minutes for oral sex on women to feel effective, and that does not come with a guarantee that she will cum. Don’t let this turn you off to the idea. It simply means that rather than going all out, fingering, clitoral stimulation, the works all at once, pace yourself. Take your time, and let her enjoy it. That is the end goal or oral anyways.
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Start by teasing her, and kissing her thighs. Get close, but don’t touch. You can slowly make your way to her vaginal area, and begin to actually perform oral sex. Don’t go straight for the clit, but make sure that you do stimulate it at some point. It will give her a stronger, more intense sensation, and will send her soaring. But do not forget the rest of her, pay attention to her labial hood, which are the parts that look like lips. Use your tongue, introduce your finger. Be aware of everything that turns her on.
Build her up to the point of breaking, and then go for the clitoris. You, and her, will not regret taking the time to properly explore her vagina, and her moaning will serve as proof.
You definitely will want to read
Acquired taste; How to Eat Pussy & like it
Cunnilingus 101; An Illustrated Guide into Eating Pussy Like a Savage
Eating Pussy Guide; Oral Sex Positions for Pleasuring a Woman
Fingering Her; Explicitly Illustrated Techniques to do it Right
Vagina Massage; Complete Guide into Pleasuring Her with Your Hands
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When men think of oral, too often do they believe that it is all about the clitoris. While it is true that the clit is a vital aspect of the vagina, and can provide ultimate pleasure, it is not the end all beat all of female oral sex. It should be stimulated last, only after you have built her pleasure up to a level so high she would cum anyways. That way you will not only guarantee to make her orgasm, but she will be begging you for more.
The vagina can get complicated, nobody can deny that. Where is everything, how does everything feel, truth be told it can get overwhelming.
But don’t worry. The best way to learn, is to try it. Lick and suck everything, and she will tell you what not to try again. Don’t focus too much on anyone thing, unless she tells you to. Whatever she says she likes, or her body says she likes, continue with that. Otherwise, take your time and explore what works best. Oral sex on women can take half an hour, and you should use that time to familiarize yourself with all parts of her feminine area.
Many women complain that men only focus on their clit, and nothing else.
Don’t be that guy. Take our advice, and the advice of women everywhere, and spread your attentions over her entire area, not just what has been most popularized in the media.
You definitely will want to read
Acquired taste; How to Eat Pussy & like it
Cunnilingus 101; An Illustrated Guide into Eating Pussy Like a Savage
Eating Pussy Guide; Oral Sex Positions for Pleasuring a Woman
Fingering Her; Explicitly Illustrated Techniques to do it Right
Vagina Massage; Complete Guide into Pleasuring Her with Your Hands
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One of your greatest tools for doling out immense pleasure to a woman during oral sex is your tongue. When used properly, it can give a wealth of different sensations to her sensitive nerves. You should always think of your tongue as a dynamic tool, which means that it can be many different things.
Each way you use your tongue will deliver a different sensation. A flat tongue will cover more area, and feel softer on her than a pointed tongue, which will cover less area but deliver a stronger and more intense feeling.
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The flat tongue technique is best for exploring the folds of the vagina, and finding out where she best likes your attention. Oftentimes men can cover the entire outer area with one swipe of the tongue. This can deliver a pleasurable sensation and begin the process getting a girl wet, which will only make penetrative sex that much easier and pleasurable.
Using the pointed tongue method can help you stimulate the clitoris. Your tongue can not only stimulate it into sensations, but it can also drive a woman’s orgasm. Once you have thoroughly explore her vagina, you can then use your tongue to suck, lick, and gently nibble her clit. Emphasis is on gently, as this can be very painful if done wrong. Sucking and licking are the keys, and your tongue can be the leading tool for the endeavor. Both the flat tongue method and the pointed tongue method can be used for the clit.
I’m summarizing heavily to keep this short; the more detailed inside dive into these sex tricks and techniques can be found in this labyrinth;
Acquired taste; How to Eat Pussy & like it
Cunnilingus 101; An Illustrated Guide into Eating Pussy Like a Savage
Eating Pussy Guide; Oral Sex Positions for Pleasuring a Woman
Fingering Her; Explicitly Illustrated Techniques to do it Right
Vagina Massage; Complete Guide into Pleasuring Her with Your Hands
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The most valuable tip for oral sex that any man can get is simple – listen to a woman’s body. Pay attention to what she likes. Each woman will enjoy something different, and react differently to different stimulations. What worked for one lover you took will not necessarily work for another. Before you give up, hear us out. Just because one woman does not enjoy fingering, does not mean every woman won’t. Many women more than enjoy it, and can orgasm just from that simple act. On the other hand, whereas many women do get off with oral sex, not all women will. It doesn’t take away from your own skills and attempts, they just aren’t built that way.
Women’s pleasure is much more complex than a man’s, and you must always keep that in mind. Even men have particular likes and dislikes when they receive oral sex, so you must bear with it. In order to ensure that a woman has the best oral possible, all you have to do is experiment with different techniques, and see how her body responds. Listen to her breathing, and the sounds she is making. If she seems bored, clearly you are not doing it right. Likewise, if she is moaning, wriggling beneath you, and even pressing down on your head, you are obviously doing something right.
Once you have found what she likes, stick with it. Don’t get boring and repetitive with it, however, Try and find several things that she likes, and using them together. Make it fun, guys!
I’ll stop here since I’m juggling a few things, but you definitely will want to read
Acquired taste; How to Eat Pussy & like it
Cunnilingus 101; An Illustrated Guide into Eating Pussy Like a Savage
Eating Pussy Guide; Oral Sex Positions for Pleasuring a Woman
Fingering Her; Explicitly Illustrated Techniques to do it Right
Vagina Massage; Complete Guide into Pleasuring Her with Your Hands
Foreplay and oral sex are just the appetizers to peak your interest in the entrée – sex. Nobody wants to be that guy who seems great till you get him in the sack. Disappointing sex isn’t good for anyone, she leaves disappointed, and you leave with less confidence in yourself. Trying these six tips for a better lay will satisfy not only you, but the woman in your life as well.
When trying to improve their sexual abilities, many people instantly dismiss missionary, saying that it is too boring, and that they want more excitement in their sex. But don’t be so quick to throw it out of your repertoire. Many women actually truly enjoy missionary. They find it comforting and sensual to feel the weight of their love on top of them, as well as to be able to see each other face to face during sex. Missionary will allow a diagonal angle of penetration, which comes into direct contact with a woman’s clitoris.
Many women cannot achieve a complete orgasm without some kind of clitoral stimulation, and missionary will hit the clit without needing extra manual stimulation with your hand. It is a classic position for a reason, and can easily send your lover into ecstasy.
I don’t want to pile on, so I’ll stop here, but this is something I’ve written about more fully in these guides below:
1. 366 Sex Moves; Positions for Having Sex a New Way Everyday
2. I am not a Starfish: A Female Step by Step Guide to Actively Participate During Sex
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1) She Is Really Into It
One of the key secrets to great sex for men is knowing that their partner is truly into it. There is nothing worse than having sex with someone who seems bored, uninterested, or not fully engaged.
For a man to truly enjoy and consider the sex great, he wants to know that his partner is just as into it as he is, if not more. This not only adds to the physical pleasure, but also the emotional connection during the experience. So, be present and show your enthusiasm, and your man will surely obsess over it.
2) She Wants Sex Regularly
For a man to truly consider sex as great, it needs to happen regularly. It’s important for men to have a consistent physical connection with their partner, and a sporadic sex life may lead to dissatisfaction and frustration.
This doesn’t mean that one amazing sexual encounter can’t be considered great sex, but in the context of a long-term relationship, regular sexual intimacy is a key factor in a man’s perception of great sex. Communication and compromise are important in finding a balance that works for both partners
3) She Is Responsive
Being responsive during sex means actively engaging with your partner and reacting to what is happening in the moment. This can be through making noises, moving your body, or communicating your desires and turn-ons. Men want to feel like their partner is fully present and enjoying the experience as much as they are.
Being responsive also allows for better communication and can help guide your partner to pleasuring you in the exact way that you want. So don’t be afraid to vocalize your pleasure and be an active participant in the experience.
4) She Is Willing to Try New Things
Trying new things in the bedroom can be a major turn on for men. It shows that you are open-minded and adventurous, which can make the experience more exciting and fulfilling for both of you. Whether it’s a new position, a new location, or introducing toys, being willing to try new things can keep the spark alive in your sex life.
Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and explore new possibilities with your partner. You may discover something you both love and make your sex life even more amazing.
That is why you will find the guides below very helpful
I am not a Starfish: A Female Step by Step Guide to Actively Participate During Sex
OR Tease Ride Please; Sexually Satisfying Him
OR Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy
It also goes without saying that you can also download these 18 FREE sex guides PDFs to help you vary your sex moves here
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Since this is a recurring question I am constantly answering, I thought today I will share with most of you guys the answer to it. It stands to reason that if it's a pain point in most relationships then surely it is or will become yours at one time
So, here we go;
Well, you definitely don't have/want to tell them that they are horrible in bed. If I were in your position, I would just ask if it's okay if I shared some of the things that really do it for me, then propose that we spend a while in bed, playfully exploring and practicing those things during the weekend/a day off.
Take a playful approach to it. Don't put too much pressure on them to get it right straight away, give them plenty of feedback and guidance, keep the mood light, etc. The are probably not going to be upset about spending a day in bed exploring your body and learning how to really get you there if they really love you and care about whether or not you are enjoying yourself.
If you tell them it was good, then that's what they are going to believe, so you can't be too upset about them strutting around being pleased with themself when you were the one that told them that, even though they didn't.
Another option is to have it rigged. Choose the sexual instruction book about the specific area you want them to improve, then suggest to read it together. Your job is to then emphasize how understated something is whenever that something is mentioned. This will enable you to be very critical and straight to the point without actually doing so because the manual is doing it for you
Here are some manuals you could try:
I am not a Starfish: A Female Step by Step Guide to Actively Participate During Sex
OR Alpha Male Style; Assertively Sexually Satisfying Her in Bed
OR The Male Virgin; An Illustrated Guide For First time Sex with a Woman
OR Ultimate Sexual Stamina Program | The Blueprint to Mastering Male Ejaculation Control
It also goes without saying that you can also download these 18 FREE sex guides PDFs to help you vary your sex moves here
In ancient times, women who suffered from anxiety, depression and sudden mood swings were sent to the doctor. After an "examination", it was concluded that they suffered from "female hysteria".
To help combat this disease, a series of treatments were created, including "pelvic massage", with the aim of achieving what was then called "pelvic paroxysm", i.e. an orgasm.
Soon the treatment became popular and so many women went to the doctor to receive this treatment that a special device had to be created.
This artifact emitted rhythmic vibrations and massages, and in the beginning, well-to-do women or women from good families kept them in their homes in case an "episode of hysteria" occurred.
This is how one of the first vibrators in history was created. A device that is still used today and that has clearly taken on a purely sexual connotation.
It is interesting how the vibrator emerged from an apparent disease and how the treatment quickly became popular.
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Men feel spontaneous desire, which causes arousal. We all understand that, and unfortunately, we have assumed that women are, or should be, the same way. Recent studies have found that this is not the norm for all women, with many never experiencing desire first, and others only feeling desire before arousal some of the time. Please understand this – for many (maybe most) women, desire is triggered by arousal, not the other way around.
What this means is it is normal for a woman rarely or never to feel desire or a “sex drive” apart from sexual activity. For many the norm is for foreplay to start arousal, with that arousal resulting in feeling desire. Now, do you understand why foreplay is a must for women?
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